IM A MOTHER OF TWOAND STEP MOTHER OF TWO

[LORALIE]

HELLO, MY NAME IS LORI AND IM ALSO LISTED UNDER NEWLY DIAGNOSED, ITS REALLY HARD BEING A MOTHER OF TWO SMALL CHILDREN WHEN YOU HAVE IC, MY KIDS ARE 2&4,MY STEP CHILDREN ARE 8&12, AND ITS VERY HARD, BECAUSE IM IN PAIN ALL THE TIME, AND IM TIRED ALOT, AND THEY REALLY STRESS ME OUT, I HAVE NO HELP, AND MY HUSBAND WORKS NIGHTS, AND IM ALL ALONE TO TAKE CARE OF THEM MYSELF, ITS RELLY HARD! DOES ANY BODY HAVE ANT SUGGESTIONS?

[This message has been edited by LORALIE (edited 05-07-2001).]

[icnTerri]

((((((((((((((Loralie)))))))))))))))))
Welcome, and I'm sorry to hear you are having such a hard time.
You can sure write to me anytime. I've had IC for 8 years, I'm almost 33, and my children are 8 and 10, and my step-children are 9 and 11... so I can Surrrrrrre relate to what you are saying!
Are your step children living with you?
I have a few suggestions for ya...
Are there any teenagers in your area that would be willing to come over and help you out? Any of your oldest step-childs friends?
Do you have a chore chart and schedule made up so everyone can help you with chores and knows when they should be doing homework and cleaning their rooms and stuff? (yes, even the 2 year old. They love it.) Do your step-children know how to cook or prepare easy meals? sandwiches and fruit, etc.
Make an activity box with a bunch of stuff the kids could do when you need to rest.
AND, make sure you set aside even 10 minutes a day totally for yourself to take care of yourself. You are trying to take care of a lot of people, and you need lots of care too!

Hope this helps a bit!
Hope to hear from you!
Love,
mailto:icnTerri@lovehints.comicnTerri@lovehints.com</A>

~*~Wishing you many moments of peace~*~

[LORALIE]

HI TERRI, THANKS FOR THE REPLY, ITS GREATLY APPRICIATED. MY TWO STEO CHILDREN LIVE WITH THEIR MOTHER, THOUGH I WISH THEY LIVED WITH US, THIER MOTHER IS HOORIABLE. ANYWAY THANKS FOR THE ADVISE. I WILL SURE EMAIL YOU ANYTIME I GET A CHANCE, ITS NICE TO TALK TO OTHERS THAT UNDERSTAND. MY EMAIL IS loralie@4testsmail.com please feel free to email me at anytime and i will get back to you asap. thank you and god bless.

Originally posted by icnTerri:
((((((((((((((Loralie)))))))))))))))))
Welcome, and I'm sorry to hear you are having such a hard time.
You can sure write to me anytime. I've had IC for 8 years, I'm almost 33, and my children are 8 and 10, and my step-children are 9 and 11... so I can Surrrrrrre relate to what you are saying!
Are your step children living with you?
I have a few suggestions for ya...
Are there any teenagers in your area that would be willing to come over and help you out? Any of your oldest step-childs friends?
Do you have a chore chart and schedule made up so everyone can help you with chores and knows when they should be doing homework and cleaning their rooms and stuff? (yes, even the 2 year old. They love it.) Do your step-children know how to cook or prepare easy meals? sandwiches and fruit, etc.
Make an activity box with a bunch of stuff the kids could do when you need to rest.
AND, make sure you set aside even 10 minutes a day totally for yourself to take care of yourself. You are trying to take care of a lot of people, and you need lots of care too!

Hope this helps a bit!
Hope to hear from you!
Love,
mailto:icnTerri@lovehints.comicnTerri@lovehints.com</A>

~*~Wishing you many moments of peace~*~