Why did God let this happen to me? - Interstitial Cystitis Network Support Forum

LizGrirl · 03-04-2006, 09:15 PM

I called my sister the other night on the phone. I was very depressed and she was sick at the time. Her kids (my neice and nephew) as well as her and her husband all have the flu. Anyway, my sister, sneezing, sniffling and coughing her way through the conversation, picked up the ball and proceeded to cheer me up.

During my crying depressed state, I asked my sister why did God let this happen to me? I mean... how could he? I am a good person. I live my life right and in a blink of an eye it seems as if my life was stolen from me.

Her reply was this:

Certain flowers, such as a rose, have to have their petals crushed in order to smell their fragrance. Certain fruits have to be bruised in order for their sweetness to come through. Certain metals have to be melted down in order for them to be pure.

Her pastor at church apparently did a sermon on this subject and she quoted what he said that day. When he gave the sermon, she didn't get it. And it wasn't until later that I finally got some sense of what was being said. I don't know if this will help anyone. But it brought a smile to my face.

Sarilou99 · 03-04-2006, 09:27 PM

Yes, it does help.
I often have those feelings of "why me"? but if it wasn't for the IC etc I wouldn't be the person who I am nor have the experiences that I do.
I worked for a long time in a retirement home and it was an amazing feeling to talk to those people and be able to truly empathize with their pain and confusion while at the same time bring them joy. That is why we are here- to help eachother through these times.
I often think that if it wasn't for my getting sick, I would have never come home from college and reunited with such a wonderful boyfriend who is now my husband. I don't know why me, but my God does- and he's slowly showing me.
Reguardless of my (obvious) faith difference, that is a beautiful thought and I thank you for sharing it. It will give me something to meditate on.

LizGrirl · 03-04-2006, 10:04 PM

Lol... there are no faith differences. Just different ways in which we choose to express our faith. Jewish, christian, buhdist, taoist, muslim or any of the other wonderful religions out there are all good!

Baba Yaga · 03-05-2006, 03:06 AM

Liz, I do not have an answer for your title's question, because I don't believe in God any more. And my lack of faith is partly rooted in the question of how his supposed creations, so often vulnerable and undeserving, could be subjected to so much suffering that was not strengthening or transforming, but simply harmful.

But the story the pastor told was right on the money. Not in all cases, but in many cases, it's precisely the adversity someone has known that ends up responsible for their greatest beauty to others later, as a result of their changed perspective/wisdom, growth, greater empathy -- and it's adversity that often triggers in one's self the discovery of some previously unknown strength or talent. It can indeed be a blessing and eventually make you smell and taste sweeter to the world.

Kara Isabel · 03-05-2006, 03:06 AM

It brought a smile to my face too! Thanks for sharing.

Baba Yaga · 03-05-2006, 03:11 AM

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Originally Posted by Sarilou99

Yes, it does help.
I often have those feelings of "why me"? but if it wasn't for the IC etc I wouldn't be the person who I am nor have the experiences that I do.
I worked for a long time in a retirement home and it was an amazing feeling to talk to those people and be able to truly empathize with their pain and confusion while at the same time bring them joy. That is why we are here- to help eachother through these times.
I often think that if it wasn't for my getting sick, I would have never come home from college and reunited with such a wonderful boyfriend who is now my husband. I don't know why me, but my God does- and he's slowly showing me.
Reguardless of my (obvious) faith difference, that is a beautiful thought and I thank you for sharing it. It will give me something to meditate on.

Thank you for sharing this too, and thank you Liz for sharing the pastor's story. (I happen to be a bit of a fragrance nut, so it's all the more meaningful and cheering and inspiring to me

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creatingkarma · 03-05-2006, 03:33 AM

LizGrirl, please read this post:

http://www.ic-network.com/forum/showthread.php?t=10156

jackee · 03-12-2006, 09:45 PM

i just to share this guys: "when GOD leads you to an edge of a cliff, TRUST HIM fully and let go cuz only one of two things may happen, either HE'll catch you when you fall or HE'll teach you how to fly..."

tigger_gal · 03-13-2006, 04:41 PM

you know... of all the things in this world to see.. your post was the one that I needed to read the most..
thank you so much for sharing.