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03-22-2011, 11:24 AM #1ICN Member
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has anyone ever had a "job interview from hell?"share your story so i dont feel alone
today i was pain free and accepted a job interview for a floral shop...i was excited because i havent worked or went to an interview in a long time.
unfortunately my interviewer was very rude,asked alot of PERSONAL questions that had nothing to do with my qualifications for the job.
i figured i didnt get the job anyway and he was pissing me off and upsetting me emotionally so i burst into tears and told him the main reason i need the job is i have alot of medical bills from the ic and told him what ic was and left
...i cried in the car on the way home and decided to schedule an appointment with my counselor.she told me this guy was way out of line in the questions he asked and could have gotten in trouble for discrimination...she always makes me feel soooo much better.thank God for excellent counselors.Newly IC diagnosed as of February 2011.
Medications I'm on that seem to work:
Zoloft- one once a day
Butrans pain patch 5 mcg (THANK GOD FOR WHOEVER INVENTED THIS!SO MUCH PAIN RELIEF ITS UNREAL,I AM IN NO PAIN AT ALL UNLESS I STRESS OR SCREW UP ON THE DIET)
Failed Meds:
Elmiron-after 4 months,digestive side effects got to be too much
tramadol-allergic
DMSO treatments(5-6)
probiotics
THERAPIES:gardening,cooking,IC Diet,Counseling,Lots of warm baths,stress reduction,heating pad or ice packs,meditation/deep breathing,listening to relaxing music,having fun on pain free days,drinking chamomile or peppermint tea,pelvic floor physical therapy
AROMATHERAPY-candles,incense
Village Naturals Aches and Pains Peppermint Bath Salts
Johnson and Johnsons Lavender Melt Away Stress Body Wash/Lotion
ACUPUNCTURE/HERBS
Significant pain relief so far.
MAY TRY:yoga,swimming/hydrotherapy and anti-candida diet if i can kick my sugar addiction
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***TO MY IC SISTERS AND BROTHERS:WE ARE OUR OWN ADVOCATES!,PLEASE DO AS MUCH RESEARCH ON YOUR OWN AS POSSIBLE AND TRY DIFFERENT TREATMENTS TO GET WELL.NOT ONE TREATMENT WORKS FOR EVERYONE.MOST IMPORTANTLY,TRY TO KEEP A POSITIVE ATTITUDE,DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM NEGATIVITY/NEGATIVE PEOPLE AND NEVER,EVER GIVE UP!***
Add me on facebook Angela Hasic
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Lord, make me an instrument of your peace;
where there is hatred, let me sow love;
when there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
and where there is sadness, joy.
Grant that I may not so much seek
to be consoled as to console;
to be understood, as to understand,
to be loved as to love;
for it is in giving that we receive,
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
and it is in dying [to ourselves] that we are born to eternal life.
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03-22-2011, 12:49 PM #2Forum Manager
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That interviewer was completely out of line!
DonnaHave you checked the ICN Shop?
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http://www.icnshop.com for all others
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I am not a medical authority nor do I offer medical advice. In all cases, I strongly encourage you to discuss your medical treatment with your personal medical care provider. Only they can, and should, give medical recommendations to you.
Anyone who says something is foolproof hasn't met a determined fool
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03-22-2011, 01:22 PM #3Support Leader
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Agree with Donna and want to add that at least you found out up front what a jerk he is. Imagine actually having to work with someone like that! That interview was bad enough, but working for him could have made for a really bad situation!
Kadi
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I am not a medical authority nor do I offer medical advice. In all cases, I strongly encourage you to discuss your medical treatment with your personal medical care provider. Only they can, and should, give medical recommendations to you.
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This week's favorite one-liner:
"Just remember, if the world didn't suck, we'd all fall off. ~Author Unknown
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New second favorite:
Please, Lord, let me prove that winning the lottery won't spoil me.
- Unknown
Adding a third because I'm just so darn easily amused...
"Do not meddle in the affairs of dragons, for you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup.
- Bruce Graham"
Current treatments:
-IC diet
-Elavil 30mg at night
-Ditropan 5mg at night
-Continuous use birth control pills (4-5 periods/year)
-Heparin/Marcaine/Sodium Bicarb home instills every morning and night
-Pyridium if needed, usually once a week or so
-1 Vicodin at bedtime,
-Flexeril 10mg at bedtime
-Dye Free Benadryl for allergies occasionally
-Pelvic floor & myofascial release (external only) physical therapy for 8 weeks, then home exercise program...
-Managing stress
-Fur therapy: Hugging the cat!
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03-28-2011, 11:55 PM #4ICN Member
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ironically they have called me in for a 2nd interview today..same guy..such is my life. i'm not gonna let it upset me like the first one no matter what happens.ic has taught me to be strong in more ways than one can imagine.if i do go to work for them i dont think i will be working for him. hes just an "interviewer"...only reason i will put up with bs is working with flowers has always been my dream..and no one or ic is going to stop me.
Newly IC diagnosed as of February 2011.
Medications I'm on that seem to work:
Zoloft- one once a day
Butrans pain patch 5 mcg (THANK GOD FOR WHOEVER INVENTED THIS!SO MUCH PAIN RELIEF ITS UNREAL,I AM IN NO PAIN AT ALL UNLESS I STRESS OR SCREW UP ON THE DIET)
Failed Meds:
Elmiron-after 4 months,digestive side effects got to be too much
tramadol-allergic
DMSO treatments(5-6)
probiotics
THERAPIES:gardening,cooking,IC Diet,Counseling,Lots of warm baths,stress reduction,heating pad or ice packs,meditation/deep breathing,listening to relaxing music,having fun on pain free days,drinking chamomile or peppermint tea,pelvic floor physical therapy
AROMATHERAPY-candles,incense
Village Naturals Aches and Pains Peppermint Bath Salts
Johnson and Johnsons Lavender Melt Away Stress Body Wash/Lotion
ACUPUNCTURE/HERBS
Significant pain relief so far.
MAY TRY:yoga,swimming/hydrotherapy and anti-candida diet if i can kick my sugar addiction
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***TO MY IC SISTERS AND BROTHERS:WE ARE OUR OWN ADVOCATES!,PLEASE DO AS MUCH RESEARCH ON YOUR OWN AS POSSIBLE AND TRY DIFFERENT TREATMENTS TO GET WELL.NOT ONE TREATMENT WORKS FOR EVERYONE.MOST IMPORTANTLY,TRY TO KEEP A POSITIVE ATTITUDE,DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM NEGATIVITY/NEGATIVE PEOPLE AND NEVER,EVER GIVE UP!***
Add me on facebook Angela Hasic
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Lord, make me an instrument of your peace;
where there is hatred, let me sow love;
when there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
and where there is sadness, joy.
Grant that I may not so much seek
to be consoled as to console;
to be understood, as to understand,
to be loved as to love;
for it is in giving that we receive,
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
and it is in dying [to ourselves] that we are born to eternal life.
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03-29-2011, 01:27 PM #5ICN Member
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update:got the job.
Newly IC diagnosed as of February 2011.
Medications I'm on that seem to work:
Zoloft- one once a day
Butrans pain patch 5 mcg (THANK GOD FOR WHOEVER INVENTED THIS!SO MUCH PAIN RELIEF ITS UNREAL,I AM IN NO PAIN AT ALL UNLESS I STRESS OR SCREW UP ON THE DIET)
Failed Meds:
Elmiron-after 4 months,digestive side effects got to be too much
tramadol-allergic
DMSO treatments(5-6)
probiotics
THERAPIES:gardening,cooking,IC Diet,Counseling,Lots of warm baths,stress reduction,heating pad or ice packs,meditation/deep breathing,listening to relaxing music,having fun on pain free days,drinking chamomile or peppermint tea,pelvic floor physical therapy
AROMATHERAPY-candles,incense
Village Naturals Aches and Pains Peppermint Bath Salts
Johnson and Johnsons Lavender Melt Away Stress Body Wash/Lotion
ACUPUNCTURE/HERBS
Significant pain relief so far.
MAY TRY:yoga,swimming/hydrotherapy and anti-candida diet if i can kick my sugar addiction
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***TO MY IC SISTERS AND BROTHERS:WE ARE OUR OWN ADVOCATES!,PLEASE DO AS MUCH RESEARCH ON YOUR OWN AS POSSIBLE AND TRY DIFFERENT TREATMENTS TO GET WELL.NOT ONE TREATMENT WORKS FOR EVERYONE.MOST IMPORTANTLY,TRY TO KEEP A POSITIVE ATTITUDE,DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM NEGATIVITY/NEGATIVE PEOPLE AND NEVER,EVER GIVE UP!***
Add me on facebook Angela Hasic
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Lord, make me an instrument of your peace;
where there is hatred, let me sow love;
when there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
and where there is sadness, joy.
Grant that I may not so much seek
to be consoled as to console;
to be understood, as to understand,
to be loved as to love;
for it is in giving that we receive,
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
and it is in dying [to ourselves] that we are born to eternal life.
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03-29-2011, 05:46 PM #6ICN Member
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Congratulations!
"The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have."
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03-30-2011, 02:30 AM #7Forum Manager
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Congratulations! I hope you enjoy it.
DonnaHave you checked the ICN Shop?
http://www.icnsales.com for US & Canada
http://www.icnshop.com for all others
Patient Help: http://www.ic-network.com/patientlinks.html
Diet list: http://www.ic-network.com/diet/2009icdietlist.pdf
You'll find my story at: http://www.ic-network.com/patientstories/donna.html
I am not a medical authority nor do I offer medical advice. In all cases, I strongly encourage you to discuss your medical treatment with your personal medical care provider. Only they can, and should, give medical recommendations to you.
Anyone who says something is foolproof hasn't met a determined fool
.....My Meggie.....
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03-30-2011, 03:40 AM #8ICN Member
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interview from hell
Flower,
You go girl!!
I think it's great that you stood up for yourself, and got the job!
Have fun!
Laurie
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04-02-2011, 05:42 PM #9ICN Member
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update found out he IS my boss.yeah.. so far he made me work for 2 days (unpaid training) which were not part time hours (20 hrs a week) thu and fri. he also does not give anyone breaks or lunch periods.. we have to eat while we're working/on the phone. its really screwing up my schedule with taking my elmiron.fri i started experiencing stress because he was getting onto me for stupid little things (hes a workaholic and perfectionist everything has to be done his way),so i started experiencing pain during work and told him it was time for me to go home after bein there for over 4hrs unpaid. i had had enough learning/training for the day that it was affecting my ic. he freaked out and has a long drawn out convo w/ me about he doesnt know if i will be able to handle the job with my ic (i told him bout the ic in my interview). i told him i will need to be out for doctors appts,physical therapy,etc also. he doesnt like that and is not willing to work with me so far.he doesnt understand how on thu i was like a normal person and fri i was crippled in pain. i told him ic is like that.so now...he has went back on his word about starting me out on monday (paid).. and tells me he will think about if hes going to keep me or not over the weekend.i'm expecting a call from him tomorrow.in my anger yesterday i sent him an email stating the TN labor laws state he must provide at least a lunch or a 30 min break minimum.i also sent him the laws about its illegal to discriminate against someone with a disability and fmla would protect me by law for dr's appointments. we'll see what he says tomorrow. if he doesnt keep me its his loss and i will continue to look for other jobs. he says no one will hire me with ic... yea.right.
Last edited by flowerangela; 04-02-2011 at 06:00 PM.
Newly IC diagnosed as of February 2011.
Medications I'm on that seem to work:
Zoloft- one once a day
Butrans pain patch 5 mcg (THANK GOD FOR WHOEVER INVENTED THIS!SO MUCH PAIN RELIEF ITS UNREAL,I AM IN NO PAIN AT ALL UNLESS I STRESS OR SCREW UP ON THE DIET)
Failed Meds:
Elmiron-after 4 months,digestive side effects got to be too much
tramadol-allergic
DMSO treatments(5-6)
probiotics
THERAPIES:gardening,cooking,IC Diet,Counseling,Lots of warm baths,stress reduction,heating pad or ice packs,meditation/deep breathing,listening to relaxing music,having fun on pain free days,drinking chamomile or peppermint tea,pelvic floor physical therapy
AROMATHERAPY-candles,incense
Village Naturals Aches and Pains Peppermint Bath Salts
Johnson and Johnsons Lavender Melt Away Stress Body Wash/Lotion
ACUPUNCTURE/HERBS
Significant pain relief so far.
MAY TRY:yoga,swimming/hydrotherapy and anti-candida diet if i can kick my sugar addiction
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
***TO MY IC SISTERS AND BROTHERS:WE ARE OUR OWN ADVOCATES!,PLEASE DO AS MUCH RESEARCH ON YOUR OWN AS POSSIBLE AND TRY DIFFERENT TREATMENTS TO GET WELL.NOT ONE TREATMENT WORKS FOR EVERYONE.MOST IMPORTANTLY,TRY TO KEEP A POSITIVE ATTITUDE,DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM NEGATIVITY/NEGATIVE PEOPLE AND NEVER,EVER GIVE UP!***
Add me on facebook Angela Hasic
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Lord, make me an instrument of your peace;
where there is hatred, let me sow love;
when there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
and where there is sadness, joy.
Grant that I may not so much seek
to be consoled as to console;
to be understood, as to understand,
to be loved as to love;
for it is in giving that we receive,
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
and it is in dying [to ourselves] that we are born to eternal life.
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04-03-2011, 07:04 AM #10ICN Member
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interview from hell
Good grief, Flower. I'm almost tempted to say it's not worth it, but I know how much you want this job.
I guess you have to weigh the pros and cons, taking the impact on your body into consideration.
Let us know what happens.
Laurie
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04-03-2011, 07:48 AM #11Forum Manager
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I have to wonder how good a boss this guy would be if he decides to keep you on. Just remember that it's your decision regarding whether you choose to work for him.
I have to wonder how legal it is to expect someone to orient without being paid. I suggest you check that out.
Warm hugs,
DonnaHave you checked the ICN Shop?
http://www.icnsales.com for US & Canada
http://www.icnshop.com for all others
Patient Help: http://www.ic-network.com/patientlinks.html
Diet list: http://www.ic-network.com/diet/2009icdietlist.pdf
You'll find my story at: http://www.ic-network.com/patientstories/donna.html
I am not a medical authority nor do I offer medical advice. In all cases, I strongly encourage you to discuss your medical treatment with your personal medical care provider. Only they can, and should, give medical recommendations to you.
Anyone who says something is foolproof hasn't met a determined fool
.....My Meggie.....
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04-03-2011, 04:12 PM #12ICN Member
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thanks guys,he never called me today. im debating whether to call him tomorrow and let him know i would like to come in or just let it be and see if he calls me. i'm really struggling with the decision.
Newly IC diagnosed as of February 2011.
Medications I'm on that seem to work:
Zoloft- one once a day
Butrans pain patch 5 mcg (THANK GOD FOR WHOEVER INVENTED THIS!SO MUCH PAIN RELIEF ITS UNREAL,I AM IN NO PAIN AT ALL UNLESS I STRESS OR SCREW UP ON THE DIET)
Failed Meds:
Elmiron-after 4 months,digestive side effects got to be too much
tramadol-allergic
DMSO treatments(5-6)
probiotics
THERAPIES:gardening,cooking,IC Diet,Counseling,Lots of warm baths,stress reduction,heating pad or ice packs,meditation/deep breathing,listening to relaxing music,having fun on pain free days,drinking chamomile or peppermint tea,pelvic floor physical therapy
AROMATHERAPY-candles,incense
Village Naturals Aches and Pains Peppermint Bath Salts
Johnson and Johnsons Lavender Melt Away Stress Body Wash/Lotion
ACUPUNCTURE/HERBS
Significant pain relief so far.
MAY TRY:yoga,swimming/hydrotherapy and anti-candida diet if i can kick my sugar addiction
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
***TO MY IC SISTERS AND BROTHERS:WE ARE OUR OWN ADVOCATES!,PLEASE DO AS MUCH RESEARCH ON YOUR OWN AS POSSIBLE AND TRY DIFFERENT TREATMENTS TO GET WELL.NOT ONE TREATMENT WORKS FOR EVERYONE.MOST IMPORTANTLY,TRY TO KEEP A POSITIVE ATTITUDE,DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM NEGATIVITY/NEGATIVE PEOPLE AND NEVER,EVER GIVE UP!***
Add me on facebook Angela Hasic
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Lord, make me an instrument of your peace;
where there is hatred, let me sow love;
when there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
and where there is sadness, joy.
Grant that I may not so much seek
to be consoled as to console;
to be understood, as to understand,
to be loved as to love;
for it is in giving that we receive,
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
and it is in dying [to ourselves] that we are born to eternal life.
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04-05-2011, 04:29 PM #13ICN Member
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I'm so sorry. I know you wanted to work with flowers, but honestly, this just doesn't sound right! I have never gone unpaid while training for a job, and find it a little hard to believe someone would expect one to. (?)
Vicki"The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have."
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04-06-2011, 06:08 PM #14ICN Member
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yea.. ended up not working for him anymore.. wouldnt have wanted to stay. he would not accomodate me for days off for drs appointments and such. i guess he took advantage because i told him it would be ok if it wasnt a paid position.. like volunteering. he had planned on hiring me till he saw my IC pain in action one day at work.considering taking some distance ed classes online.
Newly IC diagnosed as of February 2011.
Medications I'm on that seem to work:
Zoloft- one once a day
Butrans pain patch 5 mcg (THANK GOD FOR WHOEVER INVENTED THIS!SO MUCH PAIN RELIEF ITS UNREAL,I AM IN NO PAIN AT ALL UNLESS I STRESS OR SCREW UP ON THE DIET)
Failed Meds:
Elmiron-after 4 months,digestive side effects got to be too much
tramadol-allergic
DMSO treatments(5-6)
probiotics
THERAPIES:gardening,cooking,IC Diet,Counseling,Lots of warm baths,stress reduction,heating pad or ice packs,meditation/deep breathing,listening to relaxing music,having fun on pain free days,drinking chamomile or peppermint tea,pelvic floor physical therapy
AROMATHERAPY-candles,incense
Village Naturals Aches and Pains Peppermint Bath Salts
Johnson and Johnsons Lavender Melt Away Stress Body Wash/Lotion
ACUPUNCTURE/HERBS
Significant pain relief so far.
MAY TRY:yoga,swimming/hydrotherapy and anti-candida diet if i can kick my sugar addiction
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
***TO MY IC SISTERS AND BROTHERS:WE ARE OUR OWN ADVOCATES!,PLEASE DO AS MUCH RESEARCH ON YOUR OWN AS POSSIBLE AND TRY DIFFERENT TREATMENTS TO GET WELL.NOT ONE TREATMENT WORKS FOR EVERYONE.MOST IMPORTANTLY,TRY TO KEEP A POSITIVE ATTITUDE,DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM NEGATIVITY/NEGATIVE PEOPLE AND NEVER,EVER GIVE UP!***
Add me on facebook Angela Hasic
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Lord, make me an instrument of your peace;
where there is hatred, let me sow love;
when there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
and where there is sadness, joy.
Grant that I may not so much seek
to be consoled as to console;
to be understood, as to understand,
to be loved as to love;
for it is in giving that we receive,
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
and it is in dying [to ourselves] that we are born to eternal life.
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04-07-2011, 03:40 AM #15ICN Member
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job interview
Flower,
It sort of sounds like that job was not meant to be.
I think the long distance classes sound like a great idea. What type of classes were you thinking of taking?
Laurie
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