Out of it

[SharonA]

I noticed Kadi's post "Is this just me?" and Donna's reply about how bad her house is because of not being up to cleaning. I sure understand that. I have company coming this weekend (don't want to cancel) and really need to do some dusting and bathroom clean up because I have not been able to do much of anything for the past 3 weeks.

Three weeks ago, Hubby and I were in a car accident. We were stopped, waiting for a car to turn left when out of nowhere, this 18 year old boy crashes into our rear end pushing us into the car in front of us who was also stopped waiting for the the same car to turn left. Hubby estimates that the kid was going about 50mph before he noticed that there was traffic stopped in front of him and laid on his brakes. He hit us at about 25 - 30mph. There is major damage to our car in back and front and we are waiting to find out if it will be totaled. My husband's beautiful Azera is crunched, but I am grateful we were not in my much smaller car.

Because of the accident, I am having a lot of neck and shoulder pain from being tossed backwards and forwards. Thank God I always wear a seat belt when I am in a car. I was taken strapped to a board via ambulance to the nearest ER where I was exrayed, examined, given pain meds and muscle relaxers and sent home. I am still in major pain, as is my husband.

One of the most amazing things is that my bladder is behaving itself. I thought for sure that, since my worst trigger is stress, it would raise a ruckus, but no...It is fine. I just wish I could say the same about my neck. It is quite painful and not too sure when it will get better.

I notice that this is causing the "blues" to hit and am also experiencing a lot of fatigue. As we all know, constant pain begins to wear on our emotions and our bodies. Nothing is the same when in pain. Even the thought of spending time with a very good friend, who I haven't seen in a long time, is not as happy a thought as it should be.

So Kadi...I totally understand what you wrote in your post. You were really sick, as Donna has been, also. I think it very wise of you to realize that you are not up to being the life of the party and doing a lot right now. I have come to the realization that my friend is coming to see me and will not give my house a white glove inspection. I just have to make sure the toilets are clean and there is no more than one layer of dust on the furniture. Hubby says that he will help me accomplish this.

I think it is time for a group hug...

[nottoc4]

Sharon,sorry to hear about the accident and hope you and your husband feel better soon. Jo

[ICNDonna]

One huge headed your way!!!!! I absolutely understand whiplash --- I had one back in 1972 and I still remember how painful it was.

Donna

[sailawaygrl]

Wishing you the best and you are right, just sanitize a few things and dim the lights!! Makes everything look better in the house. I always worry about my house and now I think it has come across as my not being very welcoming and inviting in my home. Leaves me lonely as my DD has become older and Hubby works a lot to help with all the bills. I think shouldve stopped worrying so much years ago and I wouldn't be so alone now. Trying to make myself reach out to people now but it is hard.

Have a wonderful visit. and feel better soon!

Sandra

[waterflow]

I still say no one would be allowed to drive until age of 21. They could learn to drive but not be out on the roads. Most teenagers do not pay attention to what is going on around them. Granted lots of people 21 and older don’t either but teenagers do not have the experiences either.
Ok, I am not the person to tell you stop worrying about the house cleaning. Do my share of worrying about it too but if she is a true blue friend it will not bother her. In fact she should be willing to climb a mountain of dirty diapers to see you. Plus letting her stay at your house is saving her the money she would have to spend at a hotel. Maybe you could ask her to bring some of her dust bunnies along? Yes, everyone has them but not everyone wants to admit it. It takes a big person to admit they have dust bunnies. That way yours and hers can keep each other company. Only problem with that is her dust bunnies might like your accommodations better so don’t make it to comfy for them. No shaved chocolates on their pillows. I’m sure all will go good for ya. She knows about the accident? She might even offer to give you a hand too. Not a slap in the face helping hand but “I’m your friend and I want to help” hand.
I think 2009 has been Hexed by someone. Really do. Between what I’m going through, other people I know, then all of you guys here and then the rest of the world the beginning of 2009 has not been good at all! I mean, I know everyone has problems and will have but it just seems there is nothing happy or good anymore. There just doesn’t seem like time to stop and smell the fresh new spring air or just sit down calmly and watch the world go by. Still wish there was a Mayberry. Love watching that show and I can remember how neighbors and relatives, friends WOULD sit on the porch talking to wee hours in the morning. People seemed kinder, more eager to help out and not trying to knock the next guy over for a $1.00.
Sorry Sharon, sort of went off on the subject here. Just soooooooooooo glad you both are ok and was the boy who hit you and the people in front alright as well? Too bad about your husband’s car. Hope the insurance claim goes smoothly and you don’t have to do any fighting for it. I know I hate wearing seat belts and sometimes I talk to myself saying how stupid of a law it is. People should be able to decide if they want them on or not but in the end they were put there for a reason. Was thinking too maybe the pain med you are on your bladder really really likes. OR it knows you are not in the mood to be messed with and it knows to lay low for a while. Either way glad it is behaving itself for a change. Try to relax and enjoy the visit.

Sandra, I like your idea of lowering the lights. I swear I am the only one who can walk through my bedroom at night and not fall and break my neck. It does make for a good burglary alarm. They trip over one bag of yarn, knock over the container with sewing pins in it, end up sitting on them and wow. Instance burglar in your house known.

[mary124]

Sorry to hear about your accident. Glad that you are on the road to recovery.
Don't worry about your house (easier said then done)- I know one Sunday I had some people over (that weren't expected) and I was in the mist of trying to clean- one had to use the bathroom, I told them to use the front bath as its clean( I guess that is my greatest fear is the dirty bathroom!!)
I know when my parents come and visit I really do major cleaning, my dad use to comment that I must of just clean the bathrooms because there are no towels there to dry their hands on-Mom finally told me that "we came to see you not how you clean your house-and if we or other people can't understand this then they either do not belong or they can clean the house for you!"
There are a couple of dangerous roads where we live-people go speeding down the road (its not a 4 way stop like it should be but 2 way; the other is a 2 way with a caution light) they really need to have stop lights in both of these areas as we have had some major accidents. My friend (hopefully she was kidding when she said this-but its true) that if you have an accident at both of these locations, you probably can get to the hospitals before the ambulance can get there (hospital is right there and then another one is just down the street about a mile or so). I told her if this is her way of having a sense of humor.....

[leelee88]

Gentle hugs Sharon..

[ICNDonna]

Sharon, one thing I have learned is that if you be very, very careful to not disturb the dust on furniture, it appears to be clean!!!!!! Once you run a finger over it, you have to dust the whole thing.

One time I saw a spot on my ceiling so I wiped the spot off --- and ended up washing the entire ceiling, then the walls too because I accidentally touched a wall with my wet cloth.

I don't think I should sign this --- can it be anonymous?

[VickiB]

So sorry to hear about your accident and that you are still in pain from it!

I would clean 'strategically'. Don't expect too much of yourself!

And have a great visit with your friend!


Vicki

[tigger_gal]

OH NO I am so sorry to hear this. saying prayers for a speedy recovery for you and hubby, and your car. sending you big soft hugs.

[mlzippy7]

So sorry...hope things turn around soon!

[SharonA]

Thank you so much everyone for your sympathy and kindness. It is much appreciated.

Donna...I won't tell a soul that it was you who wrote that post.

Thank you so much for the giggles, waterflow (Mary). You always seem to know how to make me laugh when I am down in the dumps.

I love the dim the lights suggestion. I do that also on occasion, but this time it will not work. My friend is staying with us for a couple of days. I can't dim the sun that will come streaming through the windows. At least, she is a very long time good friend and will understand. Especially after I tell her about the accident. I didn't want to tell her before she got here so she wouldn't come. We don't see enough of each other as it is.

I did do some broom sweeping today in my kitchen and utility room. I can't believe how much dirt and dust accumulates in 3 weeks time. Yikes!!! I also cleaned our hall half bath today. I didn't do it like I usually do, but the toilet is clean as is the sink. Those are the two things that really matter.

[Trishann]

Sharon sorry to hear about the accident, and hope you will start feeling better soon. Hopefully with you friend coming to see you that your spirit will be lifted.

Sending hugs, Trish

[kadi]

I'm so sorry about the accident. And I hope that you recover quickly & fully....

I saw a video on the internet somewhere about cleaning your house in 3 minutes. Showed a woman running around the house with a laundry basket, flinging everything into it & shoving it into the closet, swiping the bathroom toilet, and then cheerily opening the door for her friend who'd been ringing the bell & waiting....

Sounds good to me right about now...

[dg2901]

Hope you start feeling better soon!!

D