Beyond fed up

[crkshnks79]

Again I have several ovarian cysts going on at the same time , simple and hemmoragic . Last week my gyn's office sent me to the ER because of the pain , of course they found cysts . SO I go back to my gyn today because Im still in pain ( level 10 , and Im afraid to stand up or have to walk around ) Also I feel nauseous , run down , my breasts are ridiculously sore ( side affect from the cysts screwing up my horomones , Im def not pregnant or menstrating ) . I tell him all this and he tells me " well thats all normal , and your fine " I dont feel fine ! Ive been on 6 different birth control trying to stop these , at least that the docs say BC is supposed to do . Ive had them for 8 years now ( not the same cysts ) I get them all the time and Im tired of dealing w it ! I asked him whatelse can I do to help stop these from forming ? He says nothing just BC , well obviously its not working and I tell him I want my ovary removed , he looked at me like I had 3 heads , and tells me "thats ridiculous , all women get cysts , theres no need for that " well when I wind up in the ER every couple weeks because a one or two of them decide to burst , I dont think its ridiculous (record number of 3 cysts bursting at the same time ). UGH I REALLY DISLIKE DOCTORS !! I currently have a simple cyst that is the size of my ovary , on my left ovary and a hemoragic cyst thats 3/4 the size of my ovary on the right ... gee cant wait for those to burst and for me to be sick as a dog !! Sorry for the rant but Im beyond ticked off right now !! Why cant doctors just AT THE LEAST listen to what their patients have to say or ask without being crappy about it ? Or show some simple compassion ? Im so sick of being told "well why dont we try this birth control now" UM BECAUSE THE LAST 6 DIDNT WORK Now my horomones are screwed up from them and I feel horrible , Im so moody and I hate feeling like this !! Im not "fine " and yes the cysts will resolve on their own (some of them take months ), but then as soon as they burst , 2 or 3 more will be right back in a matter of weeks ... Any suggestions ? Because Im seriously over this and doctors in general

[mlzippy7]

Hi Lauren,
I am so sorry to hear your pain! I have lots of issues with cysts as well. I know the pain of them bursting....not fun!!!!
I hope you and your dr can figure out what is best for you!
Hang in there and take care!!

[IC SARAH-CPP]

I think you need to keep looking for a doctor that understands. I went through something very similar, I think I have told you before, and I know how hurt I was and how tired I got of being brushed off. I don't think they would be acting the same way if they were in the kind of pain we have every single moment of every single day.

I actually had an ob/gyn come in while I was laying in recovery after the surgery he did on me and clap my husband on the shoulder and say "Dude its mental, not physical!"!!!!! And this was the head ob/gyn at Kaiser! He then refused to give me pain meds after a SURGERY b/c he thought I was doing it all for meds! I refused to even go back to him for follow up on my surgery. I went to another ob/gyn and she was my "doctor right" who believed me, cared about me, wanted to help me. I will never forget that first appt with her, she hugged me and told me she wouldn't give up until she found out what was wrong with me. My husband and I both cried in the appt. She and I still keep in touch

Anyway, I decided after that day that I would fire any doctor who did not take me seriously, who did not respond to my concerns and especially any doctor who talked down to me! And i have. I have fired several doctors. They work for me, I pay them an insane amount of money and I wont do it for nothing.

Hang in there sweetie, I know how hard this is. We are always here to listen too. You deserve so much better care than this and it IS out there! I promise. Sometimes we have to look WAY longer than we should but it is so worth it.

love sarah

[snowgirl]

Again I have several ovarian cysts going on at the same time , simple and hemmoragic . Last week my gyn's office sent me to the ER because of the pain , of course they found cysts . SO I go back to my gyn today because Im still in pain ( level 10 , and Im afraid to stand up or have to walk around ) Also I feel nauseous , run down , my breasts are ridiculously sore ( side affect from the cysts screwing up my horomones , Im def not pregnant or menstrating ) . I tell him all this and he tells me " well thats all normal , and your fine " I dont feel fine ! Ive been on 6 different birth control trying to stop these , at least that the docs say BC is supposed to do . Ive had them for 8 years now ( not the same cysts ) I get them all the time and Im tired of dealing w it ! I asked him whatelse can I do to help stop these from forming ? He says nothing just BC , well obviously its not working and I tell him I want my ovary removed , he looked at me like I had 3 heads , and tells me "thats ridiculous , all women get cysts , theres no need for that " well when I wind up in the ER every couple weeks because a one or two of them decide to burst , I dont think its ridiculous (record number of 3 cysts bursting at the same time ). UGH I REALLY DISLIKE DOCTORS !! I currently have a simple cyst that is the size of my ovary , on my left ovary and a hemoragic cyst thats 3/4 the size of my ovary on the right ... gee cant wait for those to burst and for me to be sick as a dog !! Sorry for the rant but Im beyond ticked off right now !! Why cant doctors just AT THE LEAST listen to what their patients have to say or ask without being crappy about it ? Or show some simple compassion ? Im so sick of being told "well why dont we try this birth control now" UM BECAUSE THE LAST 6 DIDNT WORK Now my horomones are screwed up from them and I feel horrible , Im so moody and I hate feeling like this !! Im not "fine " and yes the cysts will resolve on their own (some of them take months ), but then as soon as they burst , 2 or 3 more will be right back in a matter of weeks ... Any suggestions ? Because Im seriously over this and doctors in general

Yes how about another opinion from another ob-gyn group not affiliated with this one at all. Vicky

[ICNDonna]

I think a second opinion is a good idea for you.

Donna

[crkshnks79]

I think you need to keep looking for a doctor that understands. I went through something very similar, I think I have told you before, and I know how hurt I was and how tired I got of being brushed off. I don't think they would be acting the same way if they were in the kind of pain we have every single moment of every single day.

I actually had an ob/gyn come in while I was laying in recovery after the surgery he did on me and clap my husband on the shoulder and say "Dude its mental, not physical!"!!!!! And this was the head ob/gyn at Kaiser! He then refused to give me pain meds after a SURGERY b/c he thought I was doing it all for meds! I refused to even go back to him for follow up on my surgery. I went to another ob/gyn and she was my "doctor right" who believed me, cared about me, wanted to help me. I will never forget that first appt with her, she hugged me and told me she wouldn't give up until she found out what was wrong with me. My husband and I both cried in the appt. She and I still keep in touch

Anyway, I decided after that day that I would fire any doctor who did not take me seriously, who did not respond to my concerns and especially any doctor who talked down to me! And i have. I have fired several doctors. They work for me, I pay them an insane amount of money and I wont do it for nothing.

Hang in there sweetie, I know how hard this is. We are always here to listen too. You deserve so much better care than this and it IS out there! I promise. Sometimes we have to look WAY longer than we should but it is so worth it.

love sarah

Hey Sarah , I cant believe that doctor said that to your husband !!! what a !!!! And how do you not give pain meds after surgery ?!?!? Even if he didnt find anything , UM HELLO he just cut you all the way through to get inside !! OMG I wouldve sued or assaulted him or something !! And I agree if it was their lives that were on hold from constantly being in pain , they wouldnt hesitate to believe ! Sometimes and I know I shouldnt but I wish they could feel what we do for one day and I think thats all it would take . Have something stabbing them in their testes or ovaries constantly so they cant walk , or blow up w an irriatating solution their bladders so they feel the pressure and pain and all the other things that comes w ic ..... Im very much w you on the " docs work for you " but heres my problem I have state ins and honestly Sarah I think alot of them dont think Im worth much ... Technically I dont pay them and I think thats makes a huge difference in the way I get treated or more so they way I dont get treated ! The unfairness of that churns my stomach ! Im a good person who has a full time job that doesnt offer benefits , just a medical reimbursment program and with all my health problems there would be NO WAY for me to get adequate care on it , but the docs just see a young mother w 3 kids who on the welfare system .. its BS Im a good person and a hardworker Im not abusing the system or lazy , good health ins is just not available to me . Even if me and my fiance ran to the courthouse to get married right now it would cost him over 500 hundred dollars to ins both of us every pay check , thats insane !! So Im stuck in between a rock and hardplace . UGH this just gets so frustrating , its like a vicious cycle that I dont know how to get out of .... Thank you so much Sarah for caring and being supportive , it means so much to me that you and the others are so compassionate and helpful to me , I think Id lose it if it wasnt for you guys !

Love , Lauren

[malone]

Lauren,
It has been a long time since a post moved me the way yours did! Unfortunately what you say is probably true. What gives doctors or anyone for that matter the right to judge someone? The old saying "walk a mile in someone else's shoes" should be applied here! We have all been to doc's that are the pits--I had one jerk actually call me "the oxycontin Lady" as he yelled it through his office! But to have to worry on top of it all that you are being judged is wrong and clearly unfair! I wish with all my heart I could change it for you! Just know thay everyone here is on your side! Take care--Ginny