Thread: Pelvic floor exam embarassment
04-10-2008, 11:35 AM #1
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I went to see a new IC uro/gyno doctor. He said he wanted to do an internal exam, and to check the pelvic floor muscle. He pushed on several areas and asked if I felt discomfort. Then he starting moving his finger in and out very quickly, like um, let say finger sex. There was a nurse, and another gyno in the room for the exam. He asked if that motioned hurt, or caused any discomfort. Well, it caused more embarrassment than discomfort. I had mentioned to him that I had pain and blood with with deep penetration.
Am I over reacting, or have others had a similar "exam"? It just felt inappropriate.
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04-10-2008, 11:51 AM #2
Nothing like that during either of my 2 pelvic floor exams....Kadi
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04-10-2008, 12:25 PM #3
Me neither and I have complained about painful sex at a few of my appts. I am not saying that is inappropriate, since it makes since in some ways. But my doctor hasn't done that type of exam. Please don't be embarrassed.
04-10-2008, 01:15 PM #4
My URO who Is a female did do an internal exam, but she only touched like a a few certain part inside me and when she did I about came off the table it hurt so bad. She said these were trigger points.And can help dectect PFD. I do not know what he was doing but she went right to the spots.. She did not mess around in there!Hugs
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04-10-2008, 03:15 PM #5
Sorry, but I think it wasn't appropriate to do that. We already hurt and if you already mentioned that it had been hurting, then I would think that the uro/gyno would be more gentle. Both uro's told me exactly what they were going to do when doing an instill or exam. I tend to have discomfort with pelvic exams. The last gyno was a man. I had to totally undress even though I had mentioned that I wanted to be checked for VV. The nurse said the doctor always does the full exam on new patients. Hmm.
I have yet to make an appointment with the urogynecologist, but it is a female doctor, to check for PFD.bunnykinb
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04-10-2008, 04:58 PM #6
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I've seen 4 Uro's and 2 PT's -- not a one of them has ever done anything like that and all of them did a pelvic exam. How incredibly uncomfortable!!!
04-10-2008, 06:57 PM #7
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6 DRs, 2 Physical Therapists for Pelvic Floor therapy, several exams from each, and not one EVER did the in/out thing with his/her finger that you described. I would not go back. (I also was examined for PFD, VV, Vulvadynia, painful sex, etc.) You did nothing wrong, and you have nothing to be embarrassed about. But, as for that Dr, I wouldnt go back. Bottom line is if you felt uncomfortable, there was probobly a reason why. Your sixth sense is usually right things. Trust it!
04-11-2008, 01:51 AM #8
I had multiple pelvic exams last year (while seeking a diagnosis) from about 5-6 different doctors and noone ever did an exam like you are describing - to be honest it would have made me VERY uncomfortable as well - I agree with some of the other comments not sure that I would be able to tolerate that enough to return to that doctor.
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04-11-2008, 05:27 AM #9
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I don't care if he was doing an exam, that behavior was totally uncalled for. You have nothing to be embarrassed about, but he should never have touched you like that. I am glad that he did not cause you pain. He very well could have.Sharon
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04-11-2008, 05:27 AM #10
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When my doctor examined me when I first went to him, he also did some kind of exam like that, though maybe not exactly like that, more like a stretching feeling with his fingers. It was odd, but my hubby was in the room as well a nurse so I was not to worried in that respect.
Every doctor has their own way of checking I guess. If it did not hurt you at all, since there was a nurse in the room, I do not think it was anything more than him examining you likely. But since you say it was very uncomfortable, you could always tell him you would rather skip that exam in the future that is was very unconfortable for you,and maybe tell him it caused pain for you.
04-11-2008, 05:36 AM #11
I have never had an exam like that. I am sorry you had to go through that. HUGSLisa
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04-11-2008, 05:37 AM #12
I agree - that was TOTALLY inappropriate behavior! Reminds me of when I went to a thyroid doctor once and he had me remove my shirt I said to the nurse.. "Why am I removing my Shirt (and bra) if he's checking my NECK?" She said "its procedure". My first clue should have been when they said my hubby couldnt be in the room with me (he ALWAYS comes in no matter what!) - I questioned it...(as I had seen Endocrinologists before..this was a 3rd opinion...and NEVER had any of the others made me remove clothing...hmmmmm...) but he was the current Presidents (at that time, but I wont mention which one because then you'd know the doctor and we cant do that on here) Endo, so I thought "okay..he IS a "big wig"...so maybe the others are wrong.."
WRONG!!! After him saying to me "Oh..you have several stretch marks on your breasts why is that?" And COPPING A FEEL (yes..it wasnt an EXAM like I've ever had before at my gyno!) I sat up, slapped his hand away and told him I thought his behavior was EXTREMELY inappropriate as were his comments and wanted to know right then and there what my shirt off had to do with my thyroid, period! He just shrugged and walked out!
I RAN out of that office crying, angry and humiliated and told them they could shove their copay right up their $%#! and if they even TRIED to submit anything or collect on it to insurance I would report them immediately for sexual assault.
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04-11-2008, 07:12 AM #13
I would not have been happy. I have many internal exams from alot of docs. an never any like that. I would do two things one not go back to him and two talk to someone about how you felt.esophagus spasams
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04-11-2008, 06:51 PM #14
OMG, this is so upsetting! This does not seem right to me at all. Since I have been diagnoised with IC any dr who has done a pelvic exam on me has been as gentle as possible. My specialist only used one finger for his internal exam to make sure he caused me the least amount of discomfort.
I'm very surprised that he did this with another dr and a nurse in the room. This would seem to indicate that he does this often since they didn't have any reaction to what he was doing. I just can't understand what the point of that would be. I have had a finger moved around the the opening of my vagina to see if that caused me pain due to my VV but nothing like what you are talking about.
You should not feel embarrased as you have done nothing wrong but if you feel that something inappropriate happened which it would seem most of us would agree with that then I would consider reporting this dr to the medical board in your state as well as reporting him to whatever hospital he might be linked too if they have a process for that as well.
Please don't feel like you have done anything wrong. I can only imagine how much this has upset you.Christine
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04-12-2008, 01:03 AM #15
I agree with the others. That exam was unnecessary and inappropriate. My doctor used one finger for my exam (which diagnosed my pfd) and he used a cotton swab to check for VV, which was basically an external exam. He always tells me what he is going to do before he does it. My PT does my internal work in the same manner. Just because another doctor and nurse were also present does not mean that what he did was ok. One nevers knows how he trained his staff in his office or what could make them keep quiet. My very first gyn when I was 19 was, in my opinion, inappropriate. He was very rough on my first exam ever (I was just becoming sexually active). Later, when I was on the pill, I would go months without a period. I would call to ask what I should do and he would make me come in for an internal to r/o ectopic pregnancy. He did that 3 times and I never went back. So, follow your instincts.[FONT="Comic Sans MS"Lisa[/FONT]
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