miscarried twice

**sdel803** · 07-08-2005, 08:53 AM

need some support this is my second mis i have no children yet. I am 32. the first time i didnt see a heartbeat and the second one i saw a heartbeat at 6 weeks and at 8 weeks it was gone. My gyno is going to do a work up on me and my husband i am just so depressed and afraid that i wont be able to have children. My gyno said it is so common but imagine two within 8 months what a nightmare. If there is anyone going through this please email me shadefi@aol.com. I could really use the support

**missychan** · 07-08-2005, 09:38 AM

I am so sorry... nothing I say will make your pain any less, or your heart any lighter. Just know that we are all here for you. And that there is one more angel watching over you now. He/She simply wasn't ready to join you yet, when the time is right, they will come. It may be later, it may even be through non traditional means, but that baby will come to you.

I lost 11 babies before finally giving birth to three amazing kids! Ok- they're all teenagers now, not so amazing, what's amazing is that they all lived to BE teenagers!!! LOL!

I gave up... thought I'd never be a mom. When, BAM! My Natalie decided that "this is the one" and her two brothers followed soon after.

This is something I've not shared with many people... but I was so depressed and so convinced "it" would never happen for us, that I considered terminating "Natalie" before I had the chance to miscarry again. I just knew that I couldn't handle the loss and heartbreak yet again, and in my messed up state of mind, thought that at least "It was MY decision, on MY time, and it would just be easier this way..." For me, termination had NEVER been an option. It just shows how low I was at the time.

I thank God everday that my doctor refused to do the procedure, as my reasoning was a little less than acceptable to him. I know I could have gone elsewhere, I guess I knew too that I was simply trying to avoid the pain I knew was coming. Thank God again, I was wrong, and Miss Natalie is now 18 and headed to medical school... who would've thought? The angel that almost wasn't.

Please, follow up with the doc, and give yourself and hubby time to heal. Whether or not you got to "meet" this child has no effect on the love and feelings that I know had already formed, and you need to grieve this loss.

If you need to talk, feel free to pm me.

Missy

**dancemomof2** · 07-08-2005, 10:04 AM

**jaime15** · 07-08-2005, 11:24 AM

I'm so sorry. I hope everything works out the way you want it to. I'll be thinkin' about you!

***ICNDonna*** · 07-08-2005, 04:12 PM

How awful! I have a friend who almost gave up trying because of miscarriages --- she finally had a beautiful daughter --- who is now grown up and a mother herself.

Sending gentle hugs,
Donna

***dyno*** · 07-09-2005, 01:42 AM

I will be keeping you in my prayers and hope that things can get worked out.

**KeeKee** · 07-11-2005, 04:07 AM

I am so sorry for your loss. I'm sure you're going through a lot of emotions right now. I know many people who've gone through multiple miscarriages for no apparent reason and then boom, they were able to have several children, so don't give up hope. Talk with your doctor and do some research on the net....I'm sure that will help you feel better. I will be praying for you and I'm sending hugs through my pc to you. Take care.

**Sherry5** · 07-11-2005, 04:14 AM

I am so sorry.

My sister had 2 miscarriages, then went on to have 6 healthy children.

Praying for you.

**work it** · 07-11-2005, 04:12 PM

Miscarriages are so hard to get through. I remember mine to this day and still think about how old the "baby" would be. I am so sorry that you have had to go through this. please take care and know we are here for you.

**momw/ic** · 07-23-2005, 09:28 PM

I am so sorry for your loss. I would like to recommend the American Pregnancy Association website. They have a wealth of info and message boards with a section on miscarriage. The ladies on there have all been through the same or similar events and are extremely welcoming and supportive. It is an awesome group.

www.americanpregnancy.org

**cyndbear** · 07-24-2005, 10:30 AM

I two lost twins boys when I was pregnant at 5 months. It was very hard time, I had to get some help with this so I went to Hospice and it did help. It may not be the place for you but find someone you can talk it out with.

I have two boy's now and even though I will always miss what could have been I really treasure my boy's now. There are a lot of women that never talk about it. When I was telling my story women that were in their 70's and 80's began to cry. I stopped for a moment and they told me they lost a child to.

I barried my children and I looked around and I saw a women who had serveral miscarriages. I go back every year and lay flowers on the grave site or plant some spring flowers in the bed beside the grave. I remember how kind people were and I had a Catholic Priest do a sermon and after it was over he invited me to his house and I had dinner with him. I will always remember how kind he was. It helped me for awhile to forget my grief and listen to someone who got my mind off it and threw in some humour to. Take Care

**Babs RN** · 07-25-2005, 06:14 AM

Nothing I can say will take the pain away. I was in my 30's as well and had miscarried multiple times. They told me to forget getting pregnant. I now have a beautiful 4 year old who is in time out mad at me. Have them check you for antiphospholipid antibody disorder. It causes alot of first trimester miscarriages.

Hugs and love,
Barb