Update.....single again

[arcticfox]

Hi,

I have moved into my new place. My ex bf helped me out yeserday. It took the aternoon to move me. There are a few things left at his place, but he said that I he would bring them to me this coming week.

I won't be on the message board on a regular basis until I get a a computer desk and set up my computer. That might be anywhere from 1 to 2 weeks or longer.

Today was a wide range of emotions. I went from happy go lucky, to 'what I am doing?" to loney, to bored and then wanting to cry. This is all in one day.

Tomorrow I plan on getting out of the apartment and visiting friends that are closer to my new neighbourhood and exploring the new neighbourhood. I hope to have a busy day so that I don't dwell on things.

I guess that I have to learn to be by myself again and like it.

When I was with the boyfriend I yearned for days that I could just be on my own for a day. Now, I yearn for the companionship. It never ends. What a nasty little circle!

Take care everyone and thanks for the kinds words of support. It has really helped my these past few weeks.

Lynn :kiss:

[Audrey Rose]

HUGS LYNN!!
I know it is hard but you will soon have a happy little life all set up in your new place. And when you are hurting, you can focus on you without any interference. That's when I love being single!!

Good luck!!!
:thumbsup:

[mayray518]

Better alone than in a bad relationship even if it is lonely at first. You will meet other people soon.

[ICNDonna]

:grouphug:

Donna

[kelly McC]

:kiss: :kiss: Best wishes
Kelly

[Iris]

Best wishes to you, and hugs, Iris.:grouphug: :flower:

[Katrina]

:kiss: Thanks for telling us. I hope things work out for you. Sending a lot of love your way.

:kiss: :kiss: :kiss:

[Sarojini]

You'll do great on your own! I know it is hard right now, but you have your friends there and your friends on the boards to help you through all this!!

Plus, now you can focus on you, as everyone else has said. Being alone is not always that bad... for example, you can eat what, where, and when you want, go to bed and not have a snoring lump next to you, take long baths without someone asking when you're going to be done, watch TV on ONE CHANNEL for the shows you like without someone relentlessly channel-surfing past your fave shows ...

LOL :lmao: :D

I believe that we should be our own best friend before all else. I believed that before I could ever have a successful relationship with a man, I had to learn to be alone successfully-- meaning that I needed to know how to be alone well and entertain myself, that I needed to see myself in a realistic light, and that I needed to, above all else, love myself, faults and all. So, while I did spend time with friends, guys, whoever-- I always planned some downtime for whatever I needed, for introspection, if you will.

I think that, because I did this, and because I chose to be alone often rather than sticking it out in relationships that were not right because I was afraid of being alone, I was CERTAIN when it was time to settle down later on and that I was with the right guy--cuz I'd had so much time to think of exactly what it was I wanted! I think my marriage is stronger for this -- especially since I married a guy with a similar philosophy about it all. ;) (We are both "late" marriers as a result -- I'm 30 and he's 37, and this is the first marriage for both of us.)

What I'm saying is, you may feel lonely sometimes, but try to use at least some of this time for YOU-- you will come out even stronger and more beautiful than you already are, I promise :) :grouphug: