"Guys Only" Vacation

[Jen_Cole]

Ever since my husband was a teenager, he has been taking a guy's only vacation with his dad, brothers, and other male friends. It wasn't too big a deal until our first son came along. Now it's getting to me. He just left about half an hour ago, and I just bawled my eyes out. I'm still crying-I wish we could go with. I don't know why I'm behaving this way. I just feel sooo overwhelmed. To make things worse, he forgot his birth certificate and had to come back in to get it. Just when my eyes were starting to dry out. I feel scared sometimes when he's not here. For example, we went out to diner last night and my son, who is almost three, started choking on a pickle. His face went from pink to bright red. I was scared to death-he usually will spit out whatever is stuck on his own. But this time he wasn't able to. And I just get so panicky in that kind of situation I just freeze. So my husband sticks his finger down his throat and pulls out a long strand of pickle rind-about an inch and a half long. So my son is fine-I am just feeling like I never want to give him any more solid food till he's 6.

I don't begrudge my husband a trip. He's a very hard worker and he deserves it. And he doesn't even care if we come along. It's usually the guys his father invites that don't want women on the trip. Well, this August we will be having a second baby. I am going to have my hands full with a new baby and my three year old, who will be going to a special school because of his speech delay. So I think I'm going to make a deal with my husband. Because he loves his father dearly, I'm going to tell him if he wants to take a fishing trip with him, that's fine-but we ALL go. There are more reasons to have one family vacation than to have two seperate ones. I hope he doesn't get angry, but I plan on putting my foot down on this one.

[jaime15]

I know it's hard.....But Jen.....you work just as hard. Why not a "just girls" trip planned when they go on their trip??
It is hard with one child and then another? I can't blame you for being nervous.....I'm the same way. That just goes to show you're a great, caring parent! And I hope his trip goes by fast.
Oh! And Riley gets no more pickles for a while, huh?;) :hi:

[Jen_Cole]

Thanks for replying, Jamie. I've been really down since he left-I miss him. Thanks for taking the time to reply!

[kelly McC]

:grouphug: :grouphug:
Glad your little guy is alright:) Sorry you were so sad.Good luck with your talk and hopefully he will understand your point and you can agree on something that works for everyone.
Kelly

[Dixiefireball]

My husband goes on a so called all guys trip also. and i have to stay home with the children even tho its only a day and half he is gone i get so nervous thinking what will i do with the children they are going to get Rowdy they always do what if i get sick? and if i'm sick how do i take care of them.
matter of fact my husband trip is this friday coming up AND I DON'T WANT HIM TO GO.:yikes:

i'm thankful your husband was there to help you with your son i would had freaked out also.
i'm very thankful he is okay!!:grouphug:

[Jen_Cole]

Thankk you both! Oh Dixie, I'd be glad if it were only a day and a half. He's going to be gone for 9 days!

[Dixiefireball]

Oh heavens Jen. I don't blame you I would be upset also and there would be No Way my husband would leave me alone that long. exp. while preg.
I would be backing my bags and going too!! I don't blame you a bit!!
and to think i'm worried about a day in a half.
I know I know i'm a worried wart LOL. i believe i'm going to change my name to worrie wart!! LOL. that would match me perfect!:biglaugh: :hiding:

[crystilclear]

Wow 9 days! You poor thing. I would feel the same way. For awhile last year my hubby had to work 4th shift and he'd be gone from 8:00 at night till 4:00 in the morning. I was having my third baby and supposed to be on bed rest because of complications. I frieked every night. He always put the kids to bed before and they don't listen to me as well... figures right? I was even afraid to let the dog out late at night! If you get upset or anything jump on and talk. We'll keep you company. You deserve time off too! I always feel so much safer when my honey's home too. And you're pregnant he should be there rubbing your feet and going out to the store to get you stuff like icecream for those pregnancy cravings. lol take care - Chris :)

[Jen_Cole]

If it weren't for the 14 hour drive I swear I would just show up. My hormones are so out of whack right now-I am CRYING over some STUPID little people toy I just unsuccessfully tried to put together. I spent an HOUR on this #&*$@*& thing and it doesn't work. My son doesn't seem to mind, but dang it, if I pay 20 bucks for something that doesn't light up and make noise like it's supposed to, then I want a new one. I hope tomorrow is a better day. I'm going to go to bed and try to start over. Thanks again-I feel so lonely right now.

[jaime15]

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[SheriG]

Hi Jen:hi: I am so sorry that you are feeling so alone. I know what that feels likemy hubby goes away for an all men golfing trip to California every year. I agree that I don't begrudge him this trip, but with you having a little one, and one on the way, I guess I might have seen him passing this year. I hop you are ok while he is away. Do fun things with your little guy, just to pass some time. No pickles in the plans...that must have been terrorizing!Please take care of you Jen.Please post often so we know how you are doing, and so we can say hi, and give you some support!:kiss: Sherig

[Jen_Cole]

Thanks Sheri-I am feeling so much better today. He has been calling me all the time, so it makes the time pass. y son and I have been doing alot-almost too much, lol! I can barely keep up. It means alot to me that you are all checking up on me. :)

[Katrina]

Oh Jen ((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))) been praying for you all the time theese days but I know I would be upset if husband left me alone that long.....you have a much bigger load than I to be upset about. I am so glad Riley ended up ok ....I don't blame you for wanting to put your foot down....praying for you


take care