divorce

[happyinsanity]

Does anyone know how I can help my sister? She is getting divorce the very nasty way. She was married only in Oct and her husband, then fiancé was very aware of her being extremely sick. She has gotten a lot worse I think due to his inability to be able to emotionally help her at all. She has tried to commit suicide 2x about a week ago and we committed her and then they threw her out of the hospital. She called her husband and told him good-bye but he didn't alert anyone that she was planning on killing herself he just went to his parent's and went to bed. He also has a pretty big health insurance policy on her. She was then arrested for spousal battery, which means she pushed him to get him to let go of her. He threw her down the stairs and up against a brick wall. Then he got a restraining order against her and now she has to go to court. I can't imagine that the judge will be able to say anything about her being a danger to him she is only 5'3 and weighs 100lbs, she can barely get out of bed, she can't remember to take her meds because she forgets. It is going to get really nasty I just need any kind of information or help or anything anyone has to say, this is just sad and painful.
Thanks

[Katrina]

:welcome::welcome:
Welcome to the boards. I wish I has some great advise for you on this. I will pray for your sister but I don't know what else I can do.

I hope someone here has some more helpful things to say.

Best Wishes,

[tigger_gal]

I wish I had some answers for you but I dont.. I will keep your sister in my thoughts and prayers
brat

[sleepyangel30]

I'm so sorry about your sister, I will keep her in my prayers:pray:

[creatingkarma]

I was in a very abusive relationship in my early 20's & I hate to hear of other women being treated like that. If your sister has the money, she should contact a lawyer pronto. I also think that she should counter-sue & have a restraining order put on him. Just because his papers say that she can't come around him DOES NOT mean that he can't come around her. Plus, the judge has to have enough evidence that your sister is a threat to her husband before the restraining order is granted. And the order is just a piece of paper not a shield - it physically can't stop someone from doing anything. She needs to get out of the house. When I was in this situation before, no matter how bad it got, I just wouldn't leave. It took someone else to pack my bags & physically remove me from that situation before I realized the hell I was living. She should also write everything down - dates & times & exactly what happened as far back as she can remember. Have her do this while it is fresh in her memory. The more documentation, the better. I cannot believe that they would not keep her at the hospital. Unbelievable! I think that she definitely needs to be with someone 24/7 if that's at all possible since she's suicidal & also because she can't remember when to take her meds & also because you never know when the husband is going to come around. Also, get her in with a psychiatrist, or if that wait's too long, a counselor is usually easier to get in with or a minister is always glad to help. I'm so glad that she has your support & love. She really needs it right now.

[icnmgrjill]

Oh, I'm really so very sorry that she is going through this. Karma had some sage suggestions and, since she's been there, she's coming at it with a heavy dose of reality.

I think that you should contact any nonprofit group that you can... a battered woman's shelter, suicide hotlines, abuse hotlines... anything in your county and ask them what resources there are. It's going to take someone local to really help you out.

Good luck hon. Soo soo sorry that she is suffering. Atleast they can have the marriage annulled if it's been less than a year. That's much less traumatic than a divorce.

Jill :)

[Iris]

Sorry to read about your sister, and what she is going through. Thinking of you and her and saying prayers for both of you, hugs Iris.:pray: :grouphug:

[ICNDonna]

Your local police department should be able to give you contact information for a battered women's shelter. The shelters are extremely cautions about giving information about locations, etc., so you sometimes don't find them in telephone directories. Also, the Social Services Department at your local hospital may have some helpful information about available resources.

An attorney to safeguard her rights is very important right now --- and if she can't afford help, she may be eligible for Legal Aid Society help.

I hope this helps.

Donna

[felineperson3]

:pray: Prayers going out for you & your sister--

So sorry to hear about such sadness, but so glad she has you to help look out for her--:angel:

Keep us updated--We care.

Hugs & blessings to both of you--:cat:

[Dixiefireball]

i'm so sorry for what your sister is going threw the other ladies has gave you some good advice on how to help her if your sister is having money problems she can call legal aide to help her with her divorce i dont know everything they require but it never hurts to asked.
as far as the hosp goes they told us for my sister in law if she dont want help she dont have to get it its her chose no matter how sick she is we even had the law to pick her up and take her to the hosp for her to refuse treatment and she was back at home before we was. its a sad fact i don't know that this happen to your sister or not i'm just saying that is what happen to my sister in law.
please take the other advice with help.
sending you and your sister hugs and many prayers
:pray:

[marinda]

I AM SORRY ABOUT WHERE YOU ARE AT RIGHT NOW.
IF YOUR SISTER IS STILL ILL. SHE NEEDS TO FIND SOME TYPE OF MEDICAL HELP AND IF ITS HER HUSBAND THATS KEEPING HER FROM GETTING IT.
MAYBE YOU AS HER SISTER CAN INTERVINE TO THE LAW AND STATE THAT YOUR SISTER NEEDS TO GET BETTER.
HOW CAN SHE HANDLE ALL HIS ABUSE AND MENTAL STRESS
IF SHE IS SICK?

YOU AND YOUR SISTER AND HIM
ARE IN MY PRAYERS.

[Cali girl]

:grouphug: :pray:

I will be praying for your sister.

Cali
:flower: