you won't believe this... yea you will.

[tigger_gal]

Ok, so here's the scoop, and I posted a poll so you can answer without reveling who you are. but of course all posts are welcome.

For the last 3 weeks my sister has been coming over my house. I haven't seen her in nearly a year.

(quick recap for the newbies. I have my sister's daughters kids, I got one after a series of neglect abuse, and the second one directly from the hospital.

Saturday Devils Night as we all call the Night before Halloween, Here comes my sister bringing the kids a treat which was nice. She opens her phone and says look, and I said, nice how long have you been holding this secret? Well the walking womb provider had baby 3 on September 30th. I told if they take him lose my name and number. She said, Well Christina wants to know if my two can meet their brother and grow up together as a family? I said No. Here are this will all lead to can you drop them off, can they spend the night, can I have them every other holiday.

[ICNDonna]

I can't really answer the poll --- one thing to think about is that the three children are biological siblings --- I'm very sure that as they grow up they will want to see each other and know of their relationship. I know you are working with counselors about your children's difficulties. I recommend you discuss this with them.

When Jake and Savannah get a little older, they may want to meet their sibling.

Warm hugs,
Donna

[tigger_gal]

THe behaviorist, said no, because of the past history and Jakes mental status. They do not see her, she hasnt seen jake in years, and last she seen Savannah was when she 10 weeks old, she just stopped visiting. If they were adopted out side the family then it i will would never be known.
I will cross that bridge when I have to.

[ICNDonna]

If the behaviorist said no, then that's the direction I suggest you go --- at least for the present.

Hugs,
Donna

[kadi]

I'm so sorry you have yet another dilemma with this. I agree with Donna, I'd go with the recommendations of the professionals who know the individuals involved.
Meanwhile, just know that whatever you decide to do, that you're putting the children's best interest first -- as best you can with the guidance you're getting from the counselors who know the intricacies of this situation well.

[VickiB]

Wow! Yes, I agree with the others that it's best to go with the professional's recommendations. But, sheesh! What a lousy scenario you're thrown into!

Vicki

[tigger_gal]

Thank you for your posts they help alot. pleas dont feel you are stepping on my toes if we don't agree, I am asking advice, I still chosse what to do. The biggest thing thing is Jake will not understand the concept. He projects all his anger beating on his sister, and now has started hitting me. If you have questions don't hesitate to ask. Most of you know I have been through hell and back. Jake last seen here 5/14/07. Savannah was born 8/3/10 . I never seen Christina nor has Savannah since October. They do not know who she is.
Thanks

[SharonA]

I am so sorry this is happening, once again. I agree about following the professional's advice. It's a shame that this girl can't figure out that she needs to use birth control. Is she at least off of the drugs and alcohol?

[tigger_gal]

I have no idea Sharon. I have not seen her since October of 2007. My sister said her b/f is a 38 year old man, She is 25.
My biggest concern besides the FASD/mental Behaviorist concerns, is what happens if they see him, and then the child is taken away. I don't want my kids hurt in all of this. Jake is 5, Savannah is 3, she has never asked about them, she hadn't seen her own mother since Christmas of 2009, and prior to that Christmas of 08. She pops up saying look your a grandma, can you take me to wic? if she didn't have a baby she would show up to her mothers house till a couple weeks before Christmas like last year. She had a different b/f last Christmas according to my sister.