I'm only wanted for my $$$ I guess

[waterflow]

Met someone from high school last year. They started their own little gift shop so I did my CHristmas shopping there to help them out. They said how they didn't have time for Facebook and blah, blah, blah. So, the other night I was bored so did some Facebook searching. Sure enough, they were on it. Lots of friends from high school and pretty much a whole group of FB friends from school. Everyone are FB friends from high school but me. I have an uncommon name to type it in and up I pop. Guess I'm such a retard! Anyone have a bridge they want to sell? I know of a retart who would buy it. Talk about feeling so left out and unwanted.

[sailawaygrl]

When you say an uncommon name do you mean possibly hard to spell? Maybe that is the problem. I would just start sending out some friend requests and see what happens. I used to NEVER ask anyone to be my friend but I have gotten over it now. I did get really hurt when one girl I used to be very close to ignored my request and then friended everyone else, but then I just thought "who cares" I don't know what her problem is but it is certainly her problem to deal with!!

I know of someone that did the same thing to me, said they didn't have time for FB and then one day recently I just checked their name for the heck of it and there she was!! Picture and all, it did hurt my feelings but I guess some people keep their FB life separate from other parts of their life.

Try not to let it get you down. For a while on there I noticed all the old clicks coming back but they have broken up now and everyone is friends. Of course I have been out of HS for a little over 20 years, so we are out of that so much. (not everyone but most)

It is so easy to get our feelings hurt but try and hold up and send out some friend request. At least with FB you can hide behind the computer screen, makes it easier for me, which in turn seems to be making the real deal in daily life a bit easier for me. I hope the same can happen for you.

Sandra

[waterflow]

I've been out of HS for over 20 years so kind of stupid I know. My name is uncommon but very easy to spell and only "two" of me on there. Just if they don't want to bother just say so. Don't act all nice nice and like they care. The thing too is all of them went on to college, got married, had kids and some are even grandparents. Me....still in the same life I had in HS. Only difference is I have cats instead of dogs, same house, I'm fatter and have IC but I have all my hair where in school I was bald. Wore a wig so I wasn't so out going like I was before that happened. I have alopecia. Maybe part of feeling sad is I feel like my life turned out to nothing in the end.

[Zygala87]

I think FB is addictive. I've heard many family & friends say they have no time for it yet once home they check their email then FB. Maybe your High school people are telling the truth the way they see it. How nice of you to try to support these people by shopping at their store. All life has great value and so does yours. We are all special in our own way and are here for some good reason but may not know what.
I say this with all love and kindness. You are not stupid. The word "retard" can be very hurtful to many people. I feel you are a person who would not want to do that. I tried FB but got nervous when people I do not know asked to join. I decided it was just not for me. About everyone I know does enjoy it so good for me. I'm different and don't care. We are all different and that is a good thing. Hugs, Ziggy

[Mothergoose]

Take my case I am sure i probalby hurt peoples feelings too, People would ask if I FB and I said no no time, then my daughter moved to another country so i signed up to facebook so i could keep track of her where abouts and see her pics. I would signin look at her stuff and just ignore the rest of it. i ment this at no slight to any of the other of people i know on the site just i really don't have time for one more thing to be added to my life to be expected to check on daily.

Now things have changed again my son has now moved away to another country and his hotamil wasn't working so I had to use FB to contact him for a while, but I am sure people can see i don't do much else while on it.

MG

[sailawaygrl]

I certainly didnt' mean to imply that being out of HS over 20 years made it irrellevant. Hurt is hurt no matter when. Some people like to stay in the past because that is where they were happiest. If you weren't happy there, I wasnt exactly happy in HS, I wouldn't go "back" there. Find new friends on FB. People from here and such. You are not a failure because you didn't go to college, I didn't and I don't feel like a failure, I have my regrets but know I didn't fail in life. Each day we are alive is an opportunity to succeed at something. Like loving your animals....you succeed at that...and they appreciate it. If it makes you happy, it is not failure! Try to smile today!

[amaranthe]

When I first went on disability, I sort of felt like I had a drop in value too....sort of like I wasnt "equal to" the working people anymore. But, now I realize that many people who are working would kill to be able to stay at home. Even though I am not physically able to do clean house like someone well, (or cook 3 meals a day), I now realize that I still contribute to our home by doing all that I can do. On the days I can, I do some serious cleaning, and when I am able, I DO cook. I know you clean alot and cook too, and remember someone has to do that. The employed members of our households would certainly have to do a whole lot more at home if we werent here doing it. So, we definately make their lives easier. Also, when we come on here and help others, we are contributing to society as a whole, and doing our part to help make the world a better place. So, dont feel down about not having a degree or fancy job. You are you, and that is plenty good enough! :)