Pelvic Muscles Tightening Again

[nccarol]

I'm in a new relationship and have not been sexual for years now. My old problem has returned, I am tensing the pelvic muscles so he isn't even able to enter. I am so tired of this ordeal. He is gentle, understanding and knows my situation but I am getting myself stressed. I have been having incredible sexual urges for him and the IC has not flared as bad as it used to with sex but I'm sure that will come. Is there hope?

[Sarojini]

Hi Carol and welcome to the boards :welcome:

I'm sorry you're having trouble with sex :( I think that sometimes, if you remember sex used to hurt, you can just involuntarily tense up your pelvic muscles. I think a lot of IC patients struggle with this, so you are not alone.

Have you tried taking a hot bath/using heating pads on your pelvic area to relax the muscles?

Additionally, you could talk to your doctor about this pelvic floor trouble... sometimes they can prescribe very low doses of muscle relaxants (like Valium) that you can take. These are supposed to help your pelvic floor relax, but the dose should be low enough so you do not get drowsy and/or "high." Additionally, the doc may be able to suggest drug-free solutions... things like physical therapy or biofeedback for pelvic floor dysfunction.

Anybody else out there have any suggestions??

:grouphug:

Good luck... keep me posted...

[Sarojini]

Oh, and I forgot to mention, try using LOTS of lubrication. My husband and I use lots of a lube called "Liquid Silk" and it really helps ease the discomfort during sex. There are other lubes out there, too. :)

It really helps.

[janelle77362]

I am sorry that you are having such a diffcult time with sex. :(
I can relate though. In my case it is a mental problem. I am terrifed by sex because of the pain I usually having during and after sex. :yikes: I have learned that lots of lubrication works wonders. Also try being on top and controlling the intensity and depth yourself. Take it slow at first and take breaks if you have to until you can go all the way. Make sure to tell your partner to relax and not to move since him moving can cause you to tense up more. Eventually you will get there. (and he will be drueling with anticipation:D) Just remember to relax and take it slow it may not work on the first try but you will get there eventually.
Good Luck and Best Wishes to you!
Janelle :butterfly

[nccarol]

I was wondering also since I had a fear of sex from a very young age about 4 years old when aI had to go to a pediatrician and was having urinating problems and sure some of it was mental anxiety. Do alot of people with IC have any childhood trauma issues also or is the start of the IC the main issue or both.? Thanks for the input and I guess for us things don't just come naturally!:(