View Full Version : Yikes, happy but nervous
03-08-2004, 12:34 PM
I dont know where to put this for all your great input, so I put it here....
My husband and I are now officially househunting. I have a real estate agent, and she sent me 4 properties to see, of course only one is where we want it, but I'm going to see that with her on Friday, 'lunchtime'.....
Now, I havent really had much association with the real outside world except for the same woman at the checkout counter at the grocery store, and the girls at the drug store, or doctors office....that'd be it.
I'm worried about this......I dont know why, I used to make a living talking to people and interacting with them, but this is giving me great anxiety, mostly because I know NOTHING about this, I'm worried my IC or fibro or something will cause me problems, etc.
Anyone got some advice for me about how to do this house buying thing....My husband works a good bit and he wont be going with me on Friday. I have to put on clothes that bind my poor tummy, cant pee for the car ride there, and this is a new house, so prolley no potty there either.
I am happy and excited out of my skull, so this is a success story to some extent, but its also a source of MAJOR anxiety.
03-08-2004, 12:58 PM
I don't really know how to help you here, or what to suggest... but I can definitely sympathize!! I just hate it when I get started worrying about whether or not there will be a bathroom where I'm headed, or how I'm going to deal with a car ride with someone I don't know well driving.
All I can say is, try not to worry or think about it too much. I've noticed if I fixate on it and stress about it, I end up making it worse for myself. :)
Also, I want to say CONGRATULATIONS on the house hunting! I know it is a bit stressful... but SO exciting too :D
03-08-2004, 01:02 PM
just an idea can you get a family member or a friend to go with you for support. do you take any nerve pills for anxiety. that could help also.
i hope everything goes well happy house hunting. xxxxxxxooooooooooo.
if you need to talk before going if you will pm me i will send you my number or we can talk threw a pm and i will try to help you talk threw your worries. i know how nervous people can get over new things i'm one of them.
if you need me pm me
Rhonda. I will be there for you as much as i can. grouphug
03-08-2004, 01:09 PM
I agree that having someone go with you is a good idea. And keep in mind that the realtor who will be showing you the house is someone who is very anxious to please you. So if you need a potty stop, speak up and let her know. Unless the house is still under construction it should have a working water system, but you can always telephone her and be sure.
I think looking for a new house is very exciting. I hope you find just the right one very soon.
Sending warm hugs,
03-08-2004, 02:03 PM
I think it can be difficult to go out into society alone again with ic. It was for me as I have a control problem and have found that with ic ihave little control . I have also found that I have not been out as much as usual. I put this all together and can get myself in a panic. I tend to look at the worst thing that can happen, I have it, standing in the middle of the new home with the builder and my realtor as well as another couple and their realtor,hm,oh wink yes I feel as if I am frozen and urine is rinnig down my leg, all are staring at me and the baby starts screaming.Yes, for me that can be the worst thing I can handle, so what is the problem? kissing
03-08-2004, 03:51 PM
I agree with Donna. This woman stands to make a good bit of cash by selling you a house. She wants you to be happy. If you aren't, you're not going to be jumping into a deal. I would call ahead of time and explain your situation. She should be able to find out if the water works or if there are porta potties from the construction - where the nearest gas station is, etc. Go prepared and then you will have one less thing to worry about.
03-08-2004, 11:31 PM
lmao your like me I know the girls and the pharmacy I spend alot of time there lmao and the doctors office... not much any where else.. grouphug seem that my home bound life has made us scared to get out into the real world..... Why not take a family member or friend with you for support and a second opinion on the new house wink and by all means tell your agent I have IC so I may (most likely will) have to stop and use the rest room, I hope this isn't an inconvience.. If it is let me know and I will meet you there wink ..
Good luck and let us know :)
03-10-2004, 09:45 PM
Thank you all so much for your replies. Sorry I am so slow to respond, I havent been online for a couple days as things are totally nuts here and I am starting to have right sided flank pain, which was the first symptom I had when I had that E. Coli infection and was supposedly passing stones, and got landed in the hospital.
I have been packing up this place, doing laundry, and generally going nuts monitoring my temperature every 2 hours to see if I'm getting another infection or what.
I CANT do that now, I can NOT get sick, can NOT pass stones now, and need to be at my best, which is probally 50% of what it used to be nowdays.
Anyway, wish me luck, and cross your fingers for me, I need all the help I can get here.
03-11-2004, 03:45 AM
Best of luck to you!Hopefully you are not getting sick again. grouphug
03-11-2004, 09:19 PM
Thanks Michelle. I hope I'm not getting sick again too!
The house we were going to look at was under contract, so, we arent going to look at it. I am going to find another realtor because this lady is used to working with upscale, 500,000 dollar houses, because this area is very expensive and I felt fortunate to have a townhouse here that I USED to be able to afford.
She made my request, and our budget sound like peanuts, and its not, I've done my research on the web on the available houses in Charlotte, and in the area we are interested in.
She just wont get as big a commission. I pictured her with big, bleached blonde hair, diamond everything, high end shoes, etc, and here I was gonna slip on my comfy jeans and sneakers......I just didnt feel comfortable. So, its off to find the right one today.
This I can do from home thankfully. We move to my husbands townhouse on Sat and Sunday next weekend, and I have my work cut out for me, bigtime!
Anyway, Love to you all, I cant express my gratitude for all your help.
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