Anyone still live at home?

[luvsterriers]

Anyone in their 30s, single, ladies, still live at home with their parents? Cost of living in DC area is so high! I can't afford my own place, even a one bedroom condo in this area with the salary I make. Now I'm also wondering for those of you who do live at home and are single, when your parents go away for weeks do you feel sad that you have the house to yourself, even though you may have pets?

Just some questions. Hopefully I don't sound immature.

[Nancypt]

Hi,
I am in my 40's and have lived on my own in the past. Right now I am living with my mom and until May of this year with my dad (he died in May). I have been helping take care of them although my dad was driving up until he died. I didn't want to live alone and it is hard to find a good roommate. Also could not see giving rent money to someone else. My mom has a mild case of dementia and could not live alone. I am the only single sibling in the area so am her primary caregiver right now. I recently bought a condo(it is in escrow) and will rent it out until my mother is gone. I need to have a place I can go when she is no longer able to stay in her house or dies. Unfortunately I can't afford to buy her house although I wish I could. Yes, it was nice to be alone when my parents went places but I still missed them. Any other questions feel free to ask.
Nancy

[luvsterriers]

I hate it when parents are gone even for few days. They will be gone overseas for 2 weeks. I do work full time which is a good thing. I also have a West Highland Terrier. The thing is when I'm at work, I worry about if he is ok. I leave home at 6am and don't get home till 5pm. My commute is long too since I work in DC. I just want to hurry up home and take my dog out for a walk and feed him and just be with him. He is my first dog. I have no siblings at all. I shouldn't feel like this at my age.

[Nancypt]

Hi again,
Don't worry I feel the same way. I have 2 pugs and worry about them when I am at work. In fact, I am getting ready to go to my moms beach house with my sister and mom and worry about leaving my dogs home alone for 2 days.
Nancy

[luvsterriers]

Cats I think are more independent than dogs. You can be away for the weekend and cats are ok. But dogs on the other hand need companionship. My dad's family all live in New Jersey and we always bring our Westie with us. Some of mom's family live in Washington State, and we would have to leave our Westie at a resort which makes me so worried. I hate it when my parents go away even for few days! It's insane to miss my parents so much at my age! I have no siblings at all and no man in my life and no children. With IC, I can't imagine having children anyways. Plus I despise my job so much that I believe it has made my IC worse. I see doctors more often now. My grandma (mom's mom) died in July and when she was alive she rarely saw doctors. I want to find something closer to home that way I can go home for lunch and take care of my Westie then go back to work. It would be more better that way when my parents are out of town. My parents are actually in another country now! Two weeks should go by fast, but when having a dog it makes it go so much slower. If we didn't have a dog, I would be a little less worried, because there is no one at home to be worried about. Leaving my Westie alone for 10 hours while I'm at work is terrible! But one of mom's friend is coming by the house to let our Westie out. The problem is though that mom's friend never owned dogs before! But it should be simple enough to put leash on him and let him do his business. She is a realtor so her hours are flexible. I just HATE this job and HATE it when my parents leave. I know I should be grateful that at least I have a full time job with medical benefits. But still this job is making me so ill. I have to take the subway into work which is 1 hour 15 min. There are NO bathrooms on the trains! So I can be in pain the whole way into work. That is why I am praying to God to help me find something closer to home. There is a job fair coming up that is near me that I am attending. Hopefully those jobs are closer to my house.

[mary124]

My kids who are in the 20's still are at home (one is 21 and the other is 25); I went to my husbands reunion this past weekend and when we were talking about kids and grandkids-I mentioned that my are still at home (I got all sorts of looks and comments like "I kicked my out at age ...." or "are you going to let them stay home forever?" I tell them that in the Austin, Texas area everything is high and it takes 2 incomes to make it. Besides as long as they are working or going to school (which both are) then they can stay with us for as long as they need to. Its when they don't do anything then that is when I will kick them out.

[kuntrygurl78]

I was in my 20s and lived with my grandparents for a few years. I had gotten down on my luck, and I lived there until I moved in with my now husband. I loved living there with them! Im also glad I got to live there because 6 months after I moved in, my grandma had a stroke. I was able to help with her care. She died a month after I moved out.

To the person living with your parent with dimentia: my heart goes out to you. I work in a nursing home, and I know how hard that can be. If you ever have any questions feel free to ask!

If something were to happen to my hubby, I would never feel bad about moving home again. Im sure your parents value the time you have together, and Im sure you also do. In many countries, children live with their parents until they are married.
:grouphug:

[luvsterriers]

I am half Korean and yes it is true that unmarried adults do live with their parents till they get married. Also it is custom for the married woman to live with her husband's parents. But some couples get a place together. I do know someone who has a 26 year old unemployed son and has a live in girlfriend as well. He is half Korean as well. He still lives at home and his parents haven't kicked him out. I think it's awful to kick your own child out of the house especially if they have no job. How can your child survive then without a job if you kick him or her out? If people look down adult children who live with their parents they shouldn't do that. Things are very hard right now due to unemployment. If anyone criticizes someone else because they are of age to leave the home that's none of their business. Maybe those who criticizes make $$$$$. I know young people in their 20s who do live on their own and are fine and drive fancy cars too. They have the money to do it. I don't.

I think just saying bye is hard. When we have company over for dinner and then they leave I feel so sad! I feel more comfortable when people are at the house. But sometimes you need your own space and freedom. When my grandmother (mom's mom) was alive and mom would call Korea, I cried on the phone. My grandmother just said Hi Anna, and then I start crying. I can't even have a decent conversation with her. Ever since I was little I have done this. So maybe by me leaving Korea and having to say bye to my grandmother, now whenever someone leaves, I feel left out, abandoned and lonely.