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GloriaP
04-20-2004, 01:38 PM
I have been on Elmiron for 16 months and I am in another bad flare. I went for my regular appointment to the uro today and he is running out of ideas. I am taking elmiron, ditropan, pain med's, sleeping med's & now he is putting me on a mild anti depressant. I am supposed to try these for 2 months and see if it will cut down the number of bathroom trips. I have a demanding full time job with lots of meetings and car travel and have to keep excusing myself to take bathroom breaks. I wish I could tear my bladder right out of my insides.

On top of the pain of the flare I have two ageing parents and my Mom took sick last week and was taken to hospital. They put her on anti-biotics for a lung infection (she has had a chronic history of lung problems). She is home from the hospital but she sounds terrible. My folks live about 2 1/2 hours away and I feel like I should go out there this weekend but I am in such pain myself that I don't think I can do it. My flare's don't last just a couple of days.......more like a couple of weeks.

My husband (we have been married for almost 30 years) went to the Dr.'s with me today. He has tried to be supportive in his own special way but I think is getting extremely frustrated with this whole business. He was very quiet all the way home. The uro suggested that if these anti-depressants don't work then he will try me on bladder instillations in July. My husband said I take enough pills now and should have chose the bladder installations immediately instead of trying the additional med's first. He says I should just put the pain out of my head! I would love to know how to do that!!! I know he is frustrated because our lives have changed so much since I have developed this illness. It is difficult to travel which we both enjoy doing, because I need to be close to a bathroom all the time. For the last 5 months our intimate life is almost nil because of my everlasting pelvic pain I do not want anything near that area. It feels like I do not have very many good days at all. I am so discouraged and angry right now.

Oh yeah and the tip of the icing on the cake! At the Dr.'s office today the examing table had the disposable paper with symptoms of IC written all over it. The paper stated that this Dr. was participating in a study for IC. What is that all about I have had this for almost 4 years and nobody knew what the heck was the matter with me, now they are posting the information on disposable paper?????????

I know this message sounds really negative but I really needed to get this off of my chest. I feel like I can't complain to anyone in my family anymore because everyone is frustrated with hearing me and nothing much is helping. I am so sick and tired of taking all this medication that doesn't help much.

Please remember my mother in your prayers. She is a very special person and participates alot in her church and community. I would be very sad if I lost her.

kelly McC
04-20-2004, 02:29 PM
:grouphug: :grouphug:
sorry your not feeling so well.I hope you can get some relief soon.
I will keep you and your mom in my prayers. We are here for you .Take care,
Kelly:kiss:

Sandy N.
04-20-2004, 03:53 PM
I am so sorry about everything that is going on with you.It sounds like a mirror image of my life different circumstances but trying to cope.As they just keep telling me ,things will get better. We just have to be patient. I know that is hard when all those around need us to be strong. I too struggle with a husband who has had enough. Lets just keep supporting one another and keep praying for a miracle to happen....Sandy N.:pray:

dyno
04-21-2004, 01:33 AM
Hi Gloria,
You have a lot going on right now and I wonder how much all the stress is contributing to your problems? I know for me stress is a big trigger.

It sounds like your Dr. is trying to do the least invasive things as possible first, which is good.

Traveling can be a challenge. When we do long trips we have a porta potty in the back seat, just in case. I also carry a travel john in my purse. Again the stress of travel can set me off so I have learned that wearing one of those stick on heat pads helps keep my bladder relaxed.

Good luck and hang in there.:kissing:

amethyst79
04-21-2004, 02:30 AM
Gloria, I think we all have those negative days, especially when it seems all of the problems are the root of IC or related symptoms.

Seems easier said than done, but a deep breath, time out, and thinking about what I can still do make me feel much better. Stress is a horrible thing with some nasty physical side effects that just seem to irritate everything!

Hang in there :kiss:

Chelle

vm
04-21-2004, 06:33 AM
Oh, I bet all that stress is killing your bladder. :kissing: Be gentle with yourself. I hope the antidepressant helps and if it doesn't, I sure hope the instillations provide some relief.

Reba in Arkansas
04-21-2004, 06:58 AM
Hi Gloria,
I am so sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time. If you need to vent, this is the place to do it. I had the bladder instills. They hurt me, but it's been a while since I had a round of treatments. Every friday for six weeks. Looking back now, I realize that it's time for me to do it again. Something about it helps. Maybe its in my head, but it seemed like it stretched my bladder out a little or maybe my urethra. I completely understand about the sex thing. You feel guilty if you don't, but you know you'll pay for it the next day! My husband looks like a sad hound dog most of the time :rolleyes:
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF! My mom is 71 and she's always been the one I could depend on and now it seems like she's depending on me more and more. Aging parents are tough. I put my dad on a plane yesterday to Alaska and from here in Arkansas he has to make 3 stops and he has implants in his back for pain, etc. and has to go though all the new check point security. It broke my heart watching a little old man have to take off his shoes, etc. My sisters and me just lost it.
You are definitely in my prayers and your family too.:pray:
I hope you have a better day tomorrow.
Keep your chin up:thumbsup:
-Reba

SharonA
04-21-2004, 08:06 AM
Gloria...:kissing:

You are carrying a huge load right now and have a lot of stress in your life. I have found that stress is a major factor in how I feel. I work very hard at trying to keep myself calm. Doesn't always work, but I continue to try. :)

I hope things get better for you...:)

GloriaP
04-21-2004, 01:53 PM
I am feeling a little bit better today. It helped to vent I think. This site is such a benefit with those suffering from IC. It really helps to know that you are not alone and the only one suffering from this.

I realized when I read my post this evening that I am dealing with alot of stress right now. I need to work on dealing with it a little better.

I will call my Mom tomorrow night to see if she sounds any better. Thank you for your support and prayers.:angel: