Does anyone ever feel like this for no reason?

[luvsterriers]

I just am so sad today and in tears. I had to close my office door. Has anyone felt sad for no reason at all?

[Skynard]

Yes, but it WAS for a reason. I was having trouble with my medications and did not realize it. What are you on, if you don't mind me asking?

I have had days where I just cry because I long for my old life. It is gone and I sometimes feel like I have lost a friend or a part of me - feels almost like going to a funeral, if you know what I mean.

I hope you have a better day. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Feel free to PM me if you just want to vent!

God Bless

Skyn

[Big Red]

I do most of the time. I stay at home all day by myself unless I babysit my 2yr old grandson. I am feeling that way today and there is no one who cares.:confused::confused:

[luvsterriers]

I always believed people that supposedly care about me and love me don't really care or love me at all. For example parents. I know this may sound harsh, but I believe some members of my family rather see me no longer here. I have always thought this since I was a child. Life before IC was sad too, but having IC made life worse. I fear death all the time and just a fear of being alone as a I get older. Sometimes I do wish God can take me home.

I was on anti anxiety and depression medications, but I got terrible flares from it. Elavil made me more depressed! :(

It's just that no one seems to understand what IC is and what it does to me and other people who have it. Mom just went out and got some food items at the grocery store, but it had tomato paste and MSG. MSG is a big no no! So she got all mad. I mean she knows I have IC. It's so annoying when people think IC is just a excuse or whatever. It's a disease. I might as well buy my own food and cook myself. I would move out but I don't make much money at my job. Being that I live in the DC area, homes here are so high and even 1 bedroom apartments is too costly. I don't know what else to do. :(

[Skynard]

Do not let IC define or defeat you!

I care!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[lalarainbow]

I get depressed too. been on an anti-d for many years
I have a disabled alcoholic husband and that stress just does me in sometimes.
I don't always sleep well and that can take it's tow.

I can get on my pity pot but got to get off it and try to look on the brighter side..
Not an easy thing to do.

[luvsterriers]

I do most of the time. I stay at home all day by myself unless I babysit my 2yr old grandson. I am feeling that way today and there is no one who cares.:confused::confused:


:( I'm sorry Big Red. I don't have any social life at all due to this IC. I have had it since I was 21 and I'm now 31. So my 20s should be the time to enjoy life and be young. Not for me :( I read that you are in remission. :) I do hope you are doing ok. I have a lot of stomach issues too and see so many doctors. I see more doctors than my grandmother who just recently passed away. She was 94. A lot of grand kids she had. UTI's once or twice a month especially after periods. Feeling like something is inside my stomach, then going to get ultrasound of pelvic or stomach, blood tests for anything I'm afraid of, etc. I'm just scared of getting any disease. The only thing that keeps me happy actually is my West Highland Terrier. I still live at home though because I can't afford to get my own place. I have no siblings either. I don't like to be clingy, but I guess I am. Being an only child can be very lonely and hard. I'm afraid what will happen to me once my dog and my parents are no longer here. I don't want to dwell on it. We all die someday. Death is just a scary thing for me. I have talked to professional mental health providers and even my local priests. You want to get better and be happier and more positive, but how? It amazes me when I read stories of people who are way worse than me having a more positive outlook on life. How do they do that? I read Joyce Meyer's newest book "Never Give Up." The stories in there amazed me. How can they be so positive? It's so hard to be positive. :(

Oh what am I talking about:bonk: My own family doesn't care if I live or die. :confused:

[Bromwynn]

My awesome dearest sisters, :angel:

yes sisters, because the way I see this, since I have family who have no heart, I have had to walk away from them and focus on my kids,hubby and myself so for me you ALL are my brothers and sisters.


I care. I think we all go thru this whether its our meds or hormones or just feeling the pressure of dealing with this horrid disease. and when our loved ones are gone the pain is deeper and you feel more alone.
I do understand that, I think we've all felt it too, so much stress and bills. not enough money. I've been submitting poems to the art for ic website and just writing how angry or sad or frustrated I feel helps. please pm me anytime, all and any of you. I know how much this hurts, just to try to explain the heartache out loud. that's why this site exists, and some day we will be more in the spotlight and getting research and answers. just know we love you and each other here and hold on.

if you need me, email me, please. if i could stand at your doors and fight this disease away I WOULD. for all of us.


/hugs
bromwynn

[aleet7]

Anna and Big Red,
many of us get discouraged but we have to believe that we are one day going to feel better! I got my diagnosis 1 month before my dad passed away. I was in a flare at the hospital by his side the entire time for 2 weeks! I was so sad and in severe pain that sometimes I have no idea how I did that! Today I am in remission after having kidney stones removed! My uro said that my bladder looked like a normal bladder(a year ago I had hunners ulcers). I am so grateful to feel normal because I wasn't sure it would happen. It was so tough because no one in my family had ever heard of IC and thought that I was making up this illness. I had to cook for my mom while my dad was in a coma because she had not strength to do it herself. She had no IC friendly foods in her house at all! I believe that my bladder got better because I stuck to my IC diet and took my Elmiron religiously. I tried other supplements like cystaQ also to get my bladder better.
We have to be proactive in our own well being because we can't depend on anyone else to do it. I was sure that my husband did not understand what I was going through because he would get mad at me when I didn't clean house when I was in a flare!
I say all of that to say that it will get better. We have to find things that help us through the toughest times(antidepressants, heating pads, warm baths, etc...)We need to stick together and encourage each other because one day it will be you guys that are in remission and here telling others how to make it through the tough times.

Hugs and Best Wishes!
Aleet

[luvsterriers]

The only way I feel normal is when I do cysto/hydro. But the normal feeling lasts about a month and then the pain comes back. No sense in going through that. I do hope that someone in this world will come up with a cure. Can't really travel long distances with this IC, plus I hate leaving my Westie at some resort where I have no clue if they are abusing him behind my back. Can't trust friends, can't trust families, can't trust co workers, etc.

[maryla]

Anna Honey,

you can be my daughter anytime you want!! Just know that your are loved here!!

hugs and blessings

[Bojana]

I am just having such days right now, for a week I am really in pain and the frequency is just killing me, wondering what the heck do I have to live for. I don´t remember when it was last time when I was crying for days and days.
Big hugs:pray:

[nat29]

You guys had hit all the head for me.

I work from home and I get very depressed looking at the same four walls all the time.I mean I have some friends but they all have kids and I don't so we don't get to run around that much. I go over to her house alot. I mean I am a people person too. I like to be around people. I have to do something to get out of this depression.

I wish sometimes that God would take me to heaven too.

I have IC too and my husband hears me cry alot and he hates it. I am in a real bad flare up and I have been on anti-depression meds But they constapate me bad and that makes my IC worse.

I'm having trouble with my IC again and diet.

Any advice.:smile

[nat29]

Dear Bromwynn,

Thanks for that. Can we ask for people's e-mail address on here and can we give out ours?

[Skynard]

I am so sorry about how all of you are feeling. I too get down when I stare at all four walls. I am dreading winter's arrival because then it makes it even harder to get out. I don't know if any of you are involved in any outside activities, but it sure helps to be around other people. My son and I work at a food pantry for instance. It takes your mind off your own situation and makes you realize that everyone at some point in time, have their own struggles. It makes me feel good just making others feel good.

Skyn

[luvsterriers]

Parents went to visit mom's side of the family in Seoul Korea. Well it's a huge family on mom's side. My cousins range in age from 27 to 50. They are all married, have children, and are very successful in their careers. I feel like a loser. I'm not married, I don't have children, and I make very low pay. Mom is the ONLY sibling that has no in law or grandchildren at all. My aunts and uncle probably brag about their son in laws, daughter in laws and grandchildren. One of my cousins is 40 and he's rich and drives a Mercedes. His wife was a former model and she's just a stunning person to look at. Perfect skin, perfect smile, everything about her is 100% perfect. They have two beautiful girls as well. What is one thing that I have that my cousins don't have? Well hmm, IC! Oh yea plus I'm LD. :(

[aleet7]

Awe Anna! You are not a loser! You are just going through a down time but it will get better! You are not alone and you are a wonderful person who deserves to get the best out of life. We all have times when we are not happy with our circumstances(health, finances etc..) but things do get better. We have to find what works for us and stick with it. We have to focus on what we need and what we want. Make a list of things that you want to accomplish and start working towards those goals!
When you feel at your lowest, pray to God to make things better and believe that he will do it.
Things are pretty bad for me right now(IC, kidney stones, my finances sometimes weigh me down). But I know that things won't always be this way.

Do you think you could use something to help you with depression? I do take meds for depression and I realize that it doesn't mean that I'm weak because I need help. Have you talked to you doc about how you're feeling? Please know that we are here for you!

)))HUGS(((
Aleet

[Bojana]

Big hugs to you,Anna. I know how you feel. I am almost 36, without a family, without a job, staring a new life in new country and I also feel sometimes like a loser, wondering why I am the only one in my big family (well relatives since I am the only child) with always bad things happening, I am the most sick one, I wonder where the heck did I get these gens from since everyone else have no problems, they are healthy, all having jobs and families and good lives...but I am having issues from the beginning (being born 2 months too early I know thing this has something to do with bad health from the start):confused:
I guess what keeps me up is my spirituality and believing that someone this must be good for something in the end, but it sure isn´t easy. Well right now its good to be in other countries away from family and all the relatives so I don´t have to be compared all the time and see their "happy lives".

I am not taking atarax and I think it might help a bit with "mood" as well, maybe it will help with my depression as well, if not I will talk with doc and try to get something. As others said, you are not a loser or weak if you ask for meds to make you feel better.

Hang in there, there just must be better days in store for us.

Hugs, Bo

[autumnheir]

I wish we could all get together in person and just have a big sleepover!! :)

A couple of weeks ago I felt so depressed over IC/fibro/PTSD.

This is NOT ok.

I saw my psychiatrist, my therapist, and my uro this week. We're working out meds. It's tough with interactions...but I am beginning to have hope that we will find some way of getting me through....

It hurts me so much to know others are suffering as I am......but we are NOT NOT losers!!!! Ok? In fact, everyone on these boards is loving, kind, caring, sensative......incredible human spirits!!!! :angel::angel::angel:

Of course we get depressed! We're in pain, we feel alone, and most people in our busy, self-centered world don't have time to understand.....

But you know what? A person doesn't NEED a reason to feel sad! Just being alive means we feel different emotions...and that's positive! It means you are sensative, beautiful, and human! :) Unfortunately, they don't teach us about emotions in school! Feelings are there to tell us what's going on inside! Mickstjohnsgirl, if you are feeling sad, feel sad! Cry! Shout! Laugh! It's ALL good! You are such a sweet soul....and you are in a lot of pain. I wish you didn't hurt so much (at all!), but just know, please, that you are WHOLE! You are ok! Your feelings are not YOU.....and other's opinions are not you either!!! We all see your spirit here....and we value you, your words, your thoughts and your feelings...(Ok, stepping off my soap box now...) :p

I feel like a loser often and I have a lot of self hate. But it's WRONG and I'm trying to change it. I am a good person. If someone doesn't see me....it's probably because they don't see themselves and they are suffering. I don't have many friends....but the ones I do have are real friends! (And none them live within a 4,000 mile radius of me except for my husband and my dog!) ;) But what we have here is family....a family of caring, sensative, sweet, loving, gentle souls.....we're so lucky!

Maybe it's all the meds getting to me...I'm doped up on pain meds? :p I'm just so grateful that you're all here and that we can be ourselves with people who DO understand....If I sound like a babbling fool, please ignore me! If what I say makes sense or has any value, please don't ignore me! :-)

Take care, my IC family!!

Autumn

[Skynard]

Autumn - glad to see how much you have grown in the last couple of weeks.......

Wishing you well on your journey.

Skyn

[curlycue]

hi ladies I have been on Prozac for a number of years. It really helped me. I fought it for many years but this disease is hard not to get depressed. I am not telling you what to do but this is what helped me. Good luck

[luvsterriers]

Well I moved from Seoul to Northern Virginia in 1995. I haven't been back to Seoul, but few times my relatives have visited us. Some of mom's family have immigrated to Seattle as well. I always believe marriage is just the thing to do. It's normal to be married and to have children. Marriage may solve issues and make the person happier. But I don't know. Everyone on mom's family is so happy. They have no issues at all. My cousin who is rich can send his daughters to the best colleges. He can afford a top college like Yale or Harvard. To be very smart must make the person so happy because life is so easy for them. Doctors have got to be the happiest people in the world because they are smart and rich. If a woman is so beautiful, she wouldn't know what to do with all the phone numbers she has gotten from men wanting to date her. I will never visit Seoul because I will be able to see all my cousins so happy with their lives. :(

Today isn't a good day either. Even though Yankees won the World Series and we finally have a Republican Gov in Virginia, today isn't a good day because my grandfather died a year ago today.

[autumnheir]

I am sooooo sorry for your loss mickstjohngirl :(m I am sending many :pray:ers your way today.....

Being rich, smart, or beautiful does not make a person happy. Look at all of those celebs out there who are miserable, anorexic, doing drugs, and having affairs, etc.! I have an aunt who lost her husband in a car wreck (they were hit by a drunk driver! She was in the car, too and he died, and she became partly paralyzed and she was only in her 30's or 40's when this happened!!), one son died of a drug oversode, another died of a heart attack in his 50's, and her daughter has severe arthritis.

She is the happiest woman I know!

She is so grateful for every minute of her life. She lives alone. She's hardly rich or outstanding in talent or beauty. But she is so grateful just to be alive (despite her personal pain...physical and otherwise...on a daily basis). SHE has true happiness because she is grateful to be alive and for every breath...

Furthermore, your fam who seem so happy...you don't know what goes on behind closed doors!!

I want you to be happy my friend !!!! (((((friend)))) if hugs are ok? I wish I could show you your beauty and your humanity and your goodnesses!!!

I hope that today you know that we are your IC family and we are praying for you and thinking of you and wishing you only peace......I'm sure your grandfather wants only good for you. It sounds like you were close? Would you like to tell us about him and about your relationship? We ICers love to listen!!!

Please take care and give yourself some extra love and compassion today...I know that's what you would tell me to give myself if I were in your shoes!!

Thinking of you,

Autumn

[aleet7]

Anna, I'm so sorry about your grandfather! It's just a little over a year since my dad passed away. I have the best memories of him and that is what gets me through this! I think that if my dad and your grandfather had the chance to come back...they probably wouldn't since it is so beautiful and wonderful in heaven. This brings me peace!

I just read Autumn's post to you and she is so right. Money, things and beauty do not make a person any more special than anyone else! I think that we see them and think that they must be happy because on the outside they appear to have it all. I know a lot of doctors and lawyers that are miserable because they worry about how to keep their money! Joy and happiness does not come from money or things. Even some married couples are miserable! I have a single friend that obsesses over getting married. My response to her is to enjoy her single life because marriage brings about a lot of changes. I've been married for 24 years and it gets so hard sometimes that I want to get out! It's a lot of hard work just as everything else is.
You need to know that it is ok to be sad sometimes but not most of the time. Many of us take meds that help our mood and bladder at the same time. You need to know that you are a wonderful person even when you don't feel like you are. People love and care about you(including all your IC sisters and brothers). Hang in there Anna!
Hugs,
Aleet

[maryla]

Anna,

I read your posts and I feel very sad for you. I hope you do not mind me being so blunt with you. But when I see someone that I love and cherish as a co-ICer that keeps beating up on themselves like you do, I feel compelled to tell you that you are not all that you say you are and I say this in a loving manner. And I want to ask, who told you, you are not enough just as you are? And I beg you too PLEASE stop listening to those who tell you this garbage. And to start giving yourself positive affirmations. And Please stop letting others define WHO and what you are! For example we have IC, but that does not define who we are!

I'm a true believer that if we think negative, we will draw in negative and act negative and just the opposite with being positive. WE ARE WHAT WE BELIEVE.

Yes, it is okay to get on here and rant and rave. Sometimes we just have to do that. I have my crazy days too! But what I hear from you runs much deeper and that is a feeling of self-worthlessness that runs deep. FEELINGS AREN'T FACTS!! And comparison of yourself with your family of what they have, which sounds like in your eyes they are worth more than you are. NOT TRUE!!! AND STOP BEATING UP ON YOU! I realize that some of this stims from your culture. But you have the choice to not listen to those old tapes. Make new ones!!

So what if your cousins are rich! And you don't make a lot of money. THAT DOES NOT DEFINE WHO YOU ARE!

We have 2 friends that are doctors and one lawyer friend. You think they don't have problems?? Yes, they have many!

For one, you are a very loving person. If you weren't, you would not be on here sharing your heart and soul to us, Right?

You are a child of God, AND GOD DON'T MAKE NO JUNK!

Have you ever looked in the mirror and told yourself, you are beautiful just as you are? Do it! Start loving you as much as we love you!!

I also, read that you have a learning disability? THAT DOES NOT DEFINE WHO YOU ARE EITHER!

My brother has a LD as well and let me tell you, He is my hero. He cannot read or write past a 3-4th grade level, but he has helped me in my life more than anyone can comprehend. That does not define who he is either. He's a loving caring human being beautiful just as he is!!! I don't know if I could have survived the past years without his help. He helps me so much!!

So, I incourage you to make a list of positive affirmations and carry them around with you and when you want to start beating up on you. Pull them out and read them. Read them every day, every minute if you have to !!

I realize that maybe I should have PM'ed you this message. MY hope is that others will chime in with positive affirmatives as well.

I LOVE YOU JUST AS YOU ARE!!!

ps. I'm sorry to hear about your Grandfather. I miss my Mommy and Daddy every day in some form or the other.

Hugs and blessings

[Bojana]

Thanks Mary for this post, I think more people than just Anna needs to hear this, I know I need to hear this as well and stop being so critical with me and stop comparing me with my relatives and stop beating me up cuz I don´t have "things I should by now" like family and work and and and.

Anna - I am sorry about your grandfather. I lost both my dad (biological and stepdad) and my granny who was more like my mum and I really miss them these days when I battle it with IC and everything that comes with it. But what brings me peace is that I know they are in better place and just maybe they can help me in from other side somehow.:)

[ddktt]

Yes, for me it is hormones.

If you have not had your hormones checked by an expert in this area you might look into it. It can make a world of difference to go through life with balanced hormones.

[luvsterriers]

I try and be friendly as much as possible, but no one wants to be my friend. I try so hard to be loved, but don't get it back in return. I don't know why I believe this but I believe even people who are in my family rather see me not existing anymore if you know what I mean.

Mom and dad must have felt awful in Korea visiting mom's family. What can they say good things about me? I mean nothing is going great. I don't have a man. I don't know why people do this either. I think its a women thing or maybe just a asian thing. Women ask me when I'm going to get married. It's none of their business! That's why when people ask me that I get really upset. They think I'm dumb because I'm in my early 30s and still single. My cousins, aunts, uncles, etc in the family all got married before age 30. So probably they think I'm dumb. It must be great to share something with a spouse. GO on travel with your spouse and kids. Can't really go on a cruise alone. That would be sad. At this point, I am avoiding travel at all costs because of the IC.

No one on mom's or dad's side of the family has LD or aspergers like I do. Everyone, kids included are doing so good in school and getting A's. The kids will most likely go to top colleges in Korea if not colleges in the US like Yale or Harvard. My rich cousin can afford to send his 2 girls anywhere in the world. Must be a great thing to not have LD or aspergers or any type of disability that affects learning. Life is way easier without LD. I dreamt about my life without LD and how great it would be.

[maryla]

You are very welcome Bo!


Anna,

I LOVE YOU JUST AS YOU ARE. Have you told youself this while looking in the mirror???

Hugs and blessings,

[Cathyp20]

Anna, Do you have support for your Asperger's? A lot of cities have groups for adults with Asperger's. Just Google Asperger's adult support group and your city and see what you come up with. Although not diagnosed my son probably has Asperger's and I think maybe I do also to some degree. I understand what you said about it being hard to make friends. I am always saying the wrong thing. There are also various online support groups for people with Asperger's. You may be able to get a job coach or other assistance in finding a job. Some people that have Asperger's get disability payments. If you haven't checked into what is available in your area you should. And don't compare yourself to your neurotypical relatives. Cathyp20

[aleet7]

Hi Anna,
my son has Asperger's and he is a wonderful young man! It totally does not define who he is. He has some struggles but he knows that we support him 100%! My son's best friend has Down's syndrome but they are the closet friends ever. They totally relate to each other and have the best time together. I say all of that to say that you have to find a friend that totally relates to you. I wonder if you just "think" that no one likes you because you learn differently. I know that if someone would get to know you they would fall in love with you. I can tell because I can sense that you are a wonderful person! You need to tell yourself that everyday as Mary said.
I also agree with Cathy that there are support groups online and that would be great for you to meet others that also have Asperger's. We don't care that you have Asperger's here and we think you're AWESOME!
Best Wishes!!!
Aleet

[luvsterriers]

Not feeling any better. I just feel worthless. Mom's friends all brag about their grandkids and son in laws or daughter in laws. Life is boring and unhappy. I read these and it made me feel worse.


1. Studies show that attractive folks (women and men) are treated better and viewed more positively. They’re more likely to be hired, earn more money, have better grades, have more polished social skills, and even commit fewer crimes. Other people are more likely to help them.



2. Financially richer people tend to be happier than poorer people, according to sociological researcher Glenn Firebaugh, Pennsylvania State University, and graduate student Laura Tach, Harvard University.


3. Married people live longer as well. Single men have mortality rates that are 250% higher than married men. Single women have mortality rates that are 50% higher than married women (Ross et all, 1990). Having a spouse can decrease your risk for dying from cancer as much as knocking ten years off your life. Single people spend longer in the hospital, and have a greater risk of dying after surgery

[ddktt]

Anna - I am sorry you are feeling so low, but reading and taking to heart statistics like the above will not help you in the least. Please re-read what MARYLA wrote above. I couldn't agree more. You have to change your thinking around.

20 Years ago I found a teaching that has helped me live wonderful life. It's in a monthly newsletter called Abundant Living. It is even sent out to prisons where they get very little reading material and the letters to the editor from people locked up in jail and still feeling empowered are amazing.

Check out some books by Jack Addington or Delia Sellers for more information. If you want the address for the free newsletter PM me.

[Cathyp20]

Annie, Are you taking any medications that are affecting your mood? Sometimes medications can make you depressed and you may need to discontinue it or change medications with a doctors supervision.
Also do you have a therapist that you can talk to or could you go to one?
I have been taking Elavil for my IC but a side effect is that it also helps my depression. Maybe your Family Doctor or Urologist could prescribe something for you if you have no therapist?
You really need to talk to someone that can help you.
In the US I think the divorce rate is about 50% so getting married and having children are not the route to happiness for a lot of people.
Cathyp20

[luvsterriers]

I have always been depressed even as a child. All of my cousins and rest of my family have NO LD or aspergers, so life is way easier for them and much happier for them compared to me. They never were teased or tormented as children and even now. They have better lives because of no disabilities ruining their self esteem and self image. They feel good about themselves because they have no issues. School was so simple for them. Tons of friends too. I'm just a loser. I feel so ashamed. All those people who have hurt me I truly don't care what happens to them at all. None of them have ever asked forgiveness. I even tried joining a Christian singer's fan site and wow the people on there were so cruel to me that I left. I thought Christians=kindness, but I was wrong.

[aleet7]

Anna, I hate to see you feeling so down but as you explained, this is not something that has happened over night. I think that most of us have been teased as a child, I know I have for one reason or another. Have you ever talked to your parents about how you feel?
Christians are only human but this is no excuse to be cruel to anyone! I recall the kids at my church making fun of my son, I considered leaving but God said no. Today those children are now in their 20's and they respect my son because he never gave up! My family is in awe of the only child in our family to have Autism and to accomplish all that he has which is more than some of the kids in our family with no disabilities. The answer was prayer and positive thinking. I can tell that you feel like you're the only one going through this but you are not. You are not alone in your struggles. Others like you are going through this. You need to connect with a support group to talk about your feelings.
How is your IC? Are you controlling the pain ok? I ask because I know this can also cause depression. If you have any questions please don't hesitate to ask one of us.

Hugs,
Aleet

[luvsterriers]

I would have done terrible things to those kids who made fun of your son. I was always made fun of, yet I never bothered no one. So here I was with LD and aspergers not bothering anyone and getting teased and I knew that those kids teasing me had issues or maybe I was stupid? But still teasing is wrong. Why do adults still do it? I don't know why. I also thought that minister's children are the best friends to have and I was so wrong. I tried getting more involved with Christian singles groups and with making friends through Christian singer's fan sites. There was so much trash and bullying on the fan sites! These were women well into their 20s and beyond! Now on this site, NO ONE has bashed anyone or made others feel bad and this is the only forum that respects others. I admire Cher because she has a disability as well. People on that Christian fan site were bashing her because I liked her. I admire her! That all started with the bullying. I even confronted one and asked her what is her issue. I have asked people who have bullied me what is their issue, do they enjoy hurting others? They don't say anything! I guess because they don't know what to say.

[aleet7]

Bullies bully others to hide their insecurities! I asked a girl that kept insulting my best friend(she is LD) why is it she picked on her. She didn't answer. I asked," are you insecure and it makes you feel good to pick on others"? That question floored her, she had the saddest look I've ever seen(I answered my own question)! That was the last time she picked on my best friend! Bullies have insecurities and they strike out at others to make themselves feel better while inside they don't feel pretty enough or smart enough to meet the world's expectations. The key to insecurity is to better yourself! Find what makes you happy(hobbies or career), study to gain knowledge, and improve on your self worth(love yourself).

[suncaro23]

Anna,
Just wanted to tell you that I am a teacher and I have always found that my students with Asberger's have the best and most developed senses of humor.
I'm sure you also have some fantastic character traits. Try to focus on those and keep them in mind next time you are being picked on or feel bad.
You have a lot of people on here who are showing you that they care! Hang in there.
Dawnja

[luvsterriers]

Aleet7

About that girl that was insulting your friend that has LD, how old is this girl? I would think once you are an adult you should know better. But it's so not true. I have told people who have insulted me why they do that and if it makes them feel good but they never answer. I don't know why. Maybe they don't want to give an answer. Most of them blame me. Blame the person you are insulting? That makes no sense at all. I wonder about those people who insulted me how their lives are going now.

I actually got a gift from my parish counselor about adults with aspergers. That book made me more upset and depressed. Reading about other people with my condition just made me feel so bad. I also got a book by Dr Temple Grandin and it took made me sad. Dr Grandin has autism. Reading about others who have aspergers or autism or LD just makes me feel sad.

Even before IC I was depressed, but IC just makes it worse. I rarely travel. I take a subway to work and it's a an hour and no bathroom on the train. Anyone else has to take a train to work?