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sailawaygrl
08-10-2009, 09:44 AM
I had an appointment with the uro today, no problem. Except that his office is an hour and a half away and I am having a flare and also experiencing a lot of vaginal burning, which is new for me and mostly why I was going to see him, that and to get some refills on my meds. Usually someone is able to take me because the long ride alone is hard on me, not to mention what I am going through right now, but today there was nobody. My husband was working, my daughter had to be at work before we would be back.

So, I had prepared myself to do this alone. (please know that I have always been VERY independent, almost too independent) I went to bed early last night, had my GPS ready, just in case of any traffic delays, and with my brain these days, sometimes I just forget. I got up then answered a call from my hubby, my mom and told my daughter I was up when she came in to check on me. ( I am loved, no doubt). So I got ready, did an instill, packed my water with my freezer packs to keep them cold and set out on my way.

Not even three miles away I started to hurt and burn beyond belief, then panic set in and my whole body began to ache from tightening all my muscles. Then came the tears, I tried to keep pushing on, trying to calm myself, but all I could think of was that long drive there in pain and and even longer drive home in MORE pain-I called the Dr's office and the receptionist was at lunch so I left a message that I hope made sense and came back home.

I am so tired of feeling like a prisoner. Yesterday I mopped my bathroom floor, went to Walmart to pick up meds, as usual, came home, cooked dinner for the first time in months and then collapsed in my bed! I want my life back and sometimes I feel as if the meds are holding me back, then other times I just feel it is my own mind holding me back and then I just don't know.

At times I try the mind over matter approach and quickly find that IC, PFD, IBS, Fibro and CFS are all very real. Then I am just ANGRY!! What did I do to deserve this, what did any of us do to deserve this.

I feel so stuck right now, my hubby is working three jobs, I have had to apply for disability, my house is a mess. I spend my time alone, I know my husband is exhausted but he never complains. I wish I could do something, I am seeing a Psychologist to help me come to terms with all of this and learn to pace my days. I guess I need to ask for patience in my life, I know all this will take time.

I just wish I would I would have made have made it today,

Sandra

LithEruiel
08-10-2009, 10:03 AM
Sandra, I'm sorry. I feel like a prisoner of IC often too and I get very upset. I wish you the best, but I wish there was something more I could do. :grouphug:

VickiB
08-10-2009, 10:17 AM
:grouphug:
It's just not fair is it? I'm so sorry!

It is hard to give up independence or to accept limitations! But we have to do what we have to do with what we've got.

It's a shame that you have more than your share of (undeserved) health issues!

Hugs,
Vicki

carlyscowboys
08-10-2009, 11:00 AM
I feel like when I write on her no one is listening. I have been dealing with this so long with so little relief and just keep trying to go to work and act as if nothing is wrong. I feel like it is ruining my life and no one ever answers me on here.

VickiB
08-10-2009, 11:10 AM
I feel like when I write on her no one is listening.

Hey Carly, I know it seems that way sometimes. I think lots of people are listening but not many are posting. Summer tends to be like that around here and I've noticed weekends are especially bad for decreased activity!

Vicki

carlyscowboys
08-10-2009, 11:16 AM
Thanks Vicki-I just get so frustrated. I will do really well for awhile then when I least expect it-up all night pain, pressure and the frequency which is unbelievable. I once thought I was losing my mind so I count the number of times I urinated in 1 day and it was over a 100. Frustrated beyond belief. So many test, treatments, and basically right where I started and they think it is all due to when I have bladder surgery in 1991 and had to wear a catheter for 4 months.

leelee88
08-10-2009, 11:26 AM
Sandra,

I am sorry you had to go through this.. I can understand though. I have a hard time going anywhere alone.. I started having panic attacks really bad.. So I do feel like a prisoner a lot!.. I just want you to know though I am here for you anytime you need to vent.. BTW I have been going to therapy and it does seem to be helping some.. So you might want to look into that..

Hugs!!!!!

leelee88
08-10-2009, 11:28 AM
I feel like when I write on her no one is listening. I have been dealing with this so long with so little relief and just keep trying to go to work and act as if nothing is wrong. I feel like it is ruining my life and no one ever answers me on here.

I am sorry that this has happened.. I do not think anyone on here just ignores people. I do believe a lot of post just get read and not answered as Vicki said.. I think also it depends on when you post..

(((Hugs)))

Cassaundra
08-10-2009, 11:34 AM
SailawayGirl -

Take one day at a time, if that's too much, take one hour at a time, if that is too much, take one minute at a time. If that is too much, take one breath at a time. Breathe in, and out. Slowly.

You will have some of those god-awful days (I know I did). But eventually with the right combo of diet, meds, etc. You will start to feel better. You will.

Just hang in there.

Carly -

Sometimes I get that feeling too. Just remember that everyone is busy and eventually all your questions can/will get answered.

LithEruiel
08-10-2009, 12:25 PM
I feel like when I write on her no one is listening. I have been dealing with this so long with so little relief and just keep trying to go to work and act as if nothing is wrong. I feel like it is ruining my life and no one ever answers me on here.

I'm pretty new here and I'm kind of overwhelmed by how many posts there are and I don't have time to read everything. I hear you though.

sailawaygrl
08-10-2009, 05:16 PM
thank you everyone, and to Carlyscowboys, we are listening, sometimes we just may be into our selves at the moment, just know that people do care and they do hear you, I do try to respond to others, lately I have been off to myself, not even checking the boards

Ronda,
I am seeing someone also but have only been once, but I did like her. They told me before I came that she was a severe asthmatic but I forgot and put on a very light lotion that morning. When she noticed and said I would have to sit farther away I burst into tears. I am just one big nerve ending right now. I have just got to find the strength to accomplish something on my own, then another and another. Until, I finally get over this, I know you can relate, and you will get there too. Good luck.

Thank you all,
Sandra