IC versus Gout

[Mrs. Peel]

My husband has been on a kick lately. He has gout, which is extremely painful. He takes colchicine and rarely has an attack, even eating nitrites and drinking beer.

He argues that I should "walk it off" or something, like he does with his gout. I was diagnosed a month ago and I'm still healing.

Tonight I told him that when his gout makes him pee blood clots, we'll discuss it further, but I don't know if he got the message.

I am not IC. I'm always on the edge of overdoing it. I need moral support.

[VickiB]

Tonight I told him that when his gout makes him pee blood clots, we'll discuss it further
:lmao: I like that! :lmao: And good for you for saying it! We all have to do what we feel is best to deal with our health issues.

That is a tough one though. My hubby is the same way. His way is to 'suck it up', walk it off, just deal with it,...though he'd never go so far as to dare tell me to do the same! -I think he likes my cooking too much.

Vicki

[dg2901]

I know a couple of people who suffer with gout--one of which has had to undergo surgery twice due to disfigurement that its caused to one of his hands. I wouldnt doubt thats it incredibly painful. Having said that, we each deal with pain in our own way. Its fantastic if one can just "walk it off" or "suck it up". Others its not so easy to take that approach. I wouldnt dare tell someone how *I* feel they should deal with their pain; I find it incredibly selfish when people feel the need to do so.
I unfortunately have had this said to me in the early stages of my symptoms---rest assured this person would never attempt to tell me that again. I find its best to just be by myself when I'm not feeling well. That way I can b*tch and complain all I want w/o getting on someone elses nerves.

:)
D

[bluetou]

Maybe your husband needs a bit more knowledge about IC, sometimes ignorance to IC can cause ignorant comments. I am sure his comment was said because he believes you "can walk it off".....not even realizing the discomfort and pains that come with IC ...it it were so easy...we would all be walking it off.

((HUGS)) hand in there and maybe allow him to "get it"....I have actually made my husband read articles on IC and some posts so he can relate to the pain and agony involved with Having IC. I think it has made him more compassionate and understanding to my needs.

Now that I have some IBS issues brewing....I have started putting up IBS information....

Somtimes two sets of eyes are better then one....he now helps me deal with the health issues by providing some tips and advice I may have over looked.

Ok...I am rambling now...sorry....

I guess I just wanted to send you some moral support and ((HUGS))

Peace
Blue
:pray:


My husband has been on a kick lately. He has gout, which is extremely painful. He takes colchicine and rarely has an attack, even eating nitrites and drinking beer.

He argues that I should "walk it off" or something, like he does with his gout. I was diagnosed a month ago and I'm still healing.

Tonight I told him that when his gout makes him pee blood clots, we'll discuss it further, but I don't know if he got the message.

I am not IC. I'm always on the edge of overdoing it. I need moral support.

[ICNDonna]

I think he's just being hopeful that the IC will "go away" --- and he's actually caring very much that you are hurting. Loved ones react in different ways. Hopefully in time he will learn to understand that it isn't going away and can accept that.

Warm hugs,
Donna

[Mrs. Peel]

Thanks, everyone. I think Donna probably came closest. I've been misleading myself a little.

My husband is tired. He has been covering hours at work for me (until two weeks ago) and doing almost all the housework along with the yard, he's been driving back and forth 1 1/2 hours each way to see his dad in a convalescent center, moving furniture upstairs from the downstairs apartment and from the upstairs down to get ready for his dad and dad's live-in caregiver, putting up with siblings who just don't get it. Bringing his dad home Friday.

I've been manning the phones and doing paperwork. Took the caregiver grocery and special needs shopping. Had to get tough with the convalescent center dragging their feet as they tried to squeeze a few more days of private pay out of Dad. And having nagging pain and losing weight, messing up my hydration and nutrition while I try to learn how to eat and drink again.

No wonder we're not getting along like the lovebirds we usually are.

Thanks for being there and letting me vent. You are life savers! (And I get to see not one, but two shrinks tomorrow.)