protecting myself on mothers day

[icbeauty]

lol. i talked to my mom, and i'm going to church with her on mother's day. we attend the same church now, so i'm sort of expected anyway. and i've missed the past 2 sundays because i've been ill.

but i asked my mom about sitting somewhere nearer to the bathroom in case i lost emotional control. it tends to happen esp when they honor all the mothers and talk about how great mothers are and how if you're not a parent you're pretty much nothing at all (okay, they don't say that, but when i'm emotional, i read into things, and i over dramatize, so bear with me). well, mom and i hatched a great plan.

since i'm able to be around kiddos and babies, we decided that it would be nice to give the moms in the nursery a break and let them sit through the sermon on sunday. so i'm going to be a substitute nursery aide sunday. that way, i will still be there with my mom, but i won't feel like i'm stifling back sobs the whole time like i usually do. and the moms in the nursery who are always there and usually get overlooked during the mother's day thing will get to get their flowers and stuff.

and everyone will be happy. even me. :)

my boyfriend has been plotting with my kitties and my dog though. apparently the kitties and the dog sent him to the store to get something for me for mother's day. i'm their furmom, and they actually want to celebrate this year, lol. so we'll see what the furkiddos have decided on. i have a feeling it will be something smelly because that's the kind of thing they seem to enjoy. ;)

[Mrs. Peel]

Good for you!

I'm sensitive about Mothers Day, too, for the last few years. I don't know why getting older makes it hard. Sometimes I'm bitter about not having been able to have or adopt kids. Sometimes I couldn't be happier.

Your plan sounds like a sure thing. Mine might be spending the day in bed with one of the cats, getting over my first hydro distention.

Anyway, thanks for posting! I look forward to watching this thread.

Karin

[leelee88]

You know, My sister also cannot have kids.. Well Children BUT she has her pets and she considers those little doggies to be her babies and she treats them just so.. And being that you have not or cant have any children does not make you less than ANY mother I know.. A mother is a person who nurtures someone or something.. SO on Mothers Day do not feel sad. Because you are a wonderful person and you have so much to give..(((hugs)))

[Mrs. Peel]

That's so sweet of you, Rhonda, and exactly what I needed to hear.
My husband and I take care of his 90-year-old Dad, so my nurturing skills are really getting a workout.

But I do think Mothers are some of the more supreme beings around here.

[jaime15]

I think you have a great Mom.......I'm so glad she thought of you and the things that will make you happier.
I hope the two of you have a wonderful day together........:angel:

[tigger_gal]

Great post Ronda. I know how over whelming things can be. I assure you your pets think you are their mommy. I am glad you have such a great Mom and you are going to spend it with her at church.

[Kara29]

NO KIDDING LOL!!!!!!!!! (We have to laugh somewhere in this lineup or we'll lose it for good)

But seriously on this topic and I apologize for not being here to support you all but I had major surgery in May and can't sit and shouldn't even be doing so now but I had to write................

I cry a lot and have emotional breakdowns, even if it's not on mothers's day. Everyday I cry for the loss of not being able to have my own children and my Hubby doesn't want to adopt (I don't either, really).

Anyway i was passing through here looking for an old video that I posted a long time ago on infertility but I can't find it.

Kara