sex and Flare???

[debzx]

Hi back again!! Just wondering if sex could have caused this flare!! up til 6 days ago felt okish just stomach ache!! then had "you know" and within a day or 2 not only sore but have an infec too!! I am a stoner and have 1 in the rt kidney perhaps this is infected due to Sex??flare?? clutching at straws at the moment . just had a good cry whilst in the bath!! So very disappointed because after my cytoscopy/dilitation last month 11th i felt instantly cured and really thought that was the end of it all. so feeling sorry for me at the moment.


debzx

[Indy]

This is so personal but--I make my husband wash himself off or shower before sex. I also use an obstetrical wipe to clean off and immediately pee after sex to avoid the possible infection.

[Sarojini]

Sex can definitely cause flares... many IC patients complain about this (myself included)!

In addition, Indy is right about everything... it can cause infections too. Generally, if you and your partner wash before having intimate contact, and you urinate before and after intercourse, that will help. However, some women are really susceptible to infections after sex, and if that describes you, you can ask your doctor about taking a prophylactic antibiotic whenever you have sex. This means you just take one or a few pills after doing the deed to ward off the infection.

Frustrating, isn't it?? :grouphug: :grouphug:

I hope you feel better very very soon!!

Jen

[vm]

Yep, in complete agreement with Sarojini. I have flared from sex and have gotten actual infections ---- even when we did shower before and after, pee after, drink lots of water, blah, blah, blah. I got my doc to let me take an antibiotic after sex to try to ward them off. So far so good. :)

[StarGazer]

Hi Deb:

Your thread caught my eye because I think - and I am not sure because my whole odyssey has been strange - sex contributed to me developing IC.

Without offending anyone, I had a long, playful weekend with my boyfriend. I developed what I thought was a UTI. I had not had one in many years, but the timing was too much of a coincidence. There was nothing else going on in my life that would have caused it.

When we had sex, I would feel terrible the next day - burning, tightness, hot pain - even though I would not be terribly uncomfortable while we were "together".

The really sad news is that he broke up with me last week. So, while my heart is suffering badly, my bladder might improve. Tough concession. :(

Good wishes to you. I hope you find the answers and relief you are looking for. Peace.

[moelissat]

I have always had problems with flares after sex also.The past few years my URO has prescribed macrobid after.That,along with of course peeing before,and IMMEDIATELY after,AND drinking lots of water has helped with UTI symptoms.Hang in there! Melissa

[SheriG]

I am so sorry for what you are going through. It is bad enough to have IC , but to have it disrupt our most intimate times with our mates....well that just plain sucks!:cussing: I remember in particular, one of the last times I actually had sex w/ my hubby. It was the night before a drive to Cape Cod (3plus hours). Well, I cried, doubled over in pain, from the time I got in the car, until the time I got home. I was so miserable for so many days, that neither of us feel like it is worth it anymore...sad way to feel, but what can you do?:hmm: I do so hope that you are feeling better soon, and that you can enjoy your hubby and your marriage. Happy Bunny Day!:bunny: :grouphug:

[creatingkarma]

Sex is very difficult for my husband & I. It hurts during & after for a couple days. And it seems like every time it's attempted, I too get a UTI. My husband understands that sex is painful for me, but he's still a man & still begs for it every day. I've gotten to where I don't even like being close (snuggling, kissing, etc.) because I'm afraid he'll want to have sex. Everytime he mentions it or makes any advances, I have a major panic attack. I know that there are other ways to have sex that does not consist of penetration, but that too has become a source of panic to me. When he's getting all the pleasure & nothing pleases me, well, it becomes more of a chore than anything. He's always whining about how long it's been or whatever & I just think - At least you are getting some satisfaction. Just because I can't have sex doesn't mean that I don't have those needs also. When he starts his whining, I just remind him of how long it's been since I've had any relief. We have found something that makes the trade fair - a good foot massage. Having my feet rubbed is the closest thing to sex for me & I like it just fine.

Karma

[debzx]

Thanks Guys

we all seem to be in the same boat!! I have today started a second course of Antibiotics because the first did nothing!! and all because i had "you know" last week!! ( would rather had read a book!!) but hey 16 years of marrige/4 kids and IC/kidney stones takes a toll!!Lol.

Am gonna have to find out more from my Gp about the results of my Cystoscopy!! he mentioned a redning at the enterance ( but i didnt get a word for were?? so am still nine the wiser.

Supposed to be in work in the morning, Am praying that this flare calms down abit. Didnt sleep at all last night for pain and a rather loud, grunting snore from the hubby!!Lol.

debzx

[heybrej]

creatingkarma-
wow, you could not have described my relationship with my boyfriend better. I know exactley how you feel. My boyfriend and I are young (18 and 20) and live together. This is the time when our sex lives are supposed to be at its best. I for sure notice that sex causes me IC pain as well as the occasional UTI. Not only that, the penetration hurts as well. He feels so bad when he hurts me, but like your husband, always begs for it. It kills me to push him away. I used to love exploring with fun different positions, but now all we can do is mitionary because anything else hurts my bladder too much. Before I was diagnosed with IC, I was worried that i had some other problem "down there" because of the pain during sex. it was something I had never experienced before. I just hope that someday i will go into remission and get my sex life back!... :bow:

[creatingkarma]

You & me both, sista! I can't even handle missionary. Not only do I have the IC pain, but I also had to have total reconstructive surgery down there after having my 1st child. It's very trying on a relationship, not to be able to have sex. My husband must really love me to stick with me for 9 years!:kissing:

Karma

[Katrina]

Sex can cause flares...has me many a times....and can definatly make you more likely to get infection...others gave some great advise on how to avoid them. Some docs will give a prescription for antibiotics to IC patients to take just after sex.

I hope you feel better soon and can avoid the problem.

If you were to flare without the infection...I would recommend resting ...not moving at all (ofcourse after you pee and stuff) for atleast 15minutes after sex...and possibly using heat during this time....the more you rest after sex the better.

Best Wishes,

[debzx]

Hi Am at my wits end now!! After the last little"rumpy" ended up with infection and had 10+days of Antibiotics, listened to all the advise and thought would use something next time!! Huh!! This morning!! lazy lie-in and you know how it is!! thought infection gone/feel great/if we use something will be ok!!! BOY was i wrong within an hour i had pain, now i feel the old symptoms creeping back and have 1day of antibiotics left so am hoping that will do the trick!! or will be in full flare again this week, Boo Hoo!!

Should have my Biopsy results back this week too!! am wondering if SEX is irrating the neck of my bladder and thats what is triggering the flares??

debzxx

[heybrej]

Yeah, when I go the my uro on monday for my instillation (1 of 6, AGAIN...) I'm going to ask for some antibiotics for sex and see what she has to say. I had been doing really well since thursday, and today i started to get some mild pain at the opening of my urethra again....grrr....i much perfer actual bladder pain (weird, huh). I was supposed to spend the day with my mom shopping, but had to cut it short. *sigh*

[debzx]

Hi All

had a chat with my employer today who is a GP, she said that even if you pee and use condoms its the DOING!! that irritates and causes flares!! so i guess one has to be gentlle or just dont do anymore lol.

Debzxx:thumbsup:

[nckelliegirl]

I had never associated the pain I felt with bladder pain. I'm a single parent and my partner is a single parent, and when we both have kid free weekends, we try to enjoy them. I've started to really notice the increase in urgency and retention (not to mention the pain) within hours of those encounters....grrrrr.....