Really Depressed lately........

[Kirs10]

I have been really depressed lately. I feel like I am never going to be pain free, or free from the bathroom. I feel that I can't go anywhere that will require me to not know right where that bathroom is. I spend most of my day lying on the couch with my heating pad in one place or another. I am taking major pain meds and they cause to sweat really bad, when I use the heating pad that makes me sweate even worse.
I spend most of the time in pajamas and lounge pants that I wear if I have to go out(I live in the sticks and going to town means that I might seem 20 people). My husband hate it though and he says that when he sees someone out in their lounge pants he thinks that they are one step away from wanting to die. I am taking my prozac daily, and my lamicatal as well, but I am still really depressed.
Oh yea I also have fibromyalgia and it is just as painful as IC and I am taking lyrica for that. So that doesn't help with the depression. I really feel like I am 120 years old all the time, I get up and I grunt all the time, go from bed to the couch and back to bed.
What kind of live is that to live.
sorry for going on so long. Thanks for listening.

[ICNDonna]

One thing you can do is to get some very comfortable "daytime" clothes so even if you are laying around, you still look dressed. You might even find it improves your mood to put something attractive on your body.

Warm encouraging hugs,
Donna

[Kirs10]

Thank you
That is good advice, I am not sure where to get them, but I will definitely look into finding some other clothes.
Thank you alot.

[sara74]

Hi

I know how you feel. At my worst I have found it an effort to even have a shower most mornings. I'm still not at my best, i'm not sure when or if that will ever happen. Have you thought about going back to your doctor and discussing other antidepressant meds/options? 24/7 pain can send the strongest of people into a depression. I hope you find something that helps you to feel better soon.

[debraski]

I am new to IC but I know about depression. I did not see a specific med that you have for sleep...but getting good sleep in is huge! It makes a huge difference to your day, week. And it can snowball..so it is imporant that you get a good sleep. I use a couple different sleep medications along with my pain med at night.
When i first found out what this IC was, I felt like I had no control over my life. After freaking out for a couple daays, I drank some pop and said yes i do. I have choices. And now I am learning whatever I can and also coming up with my own game plans so I can have some control over my body.
Have you tried physical therapy/yoga?
I try to think mind over matter. This site has helped me out a lot.
Hope to hear you are doing better.

[TrinityEngel]

I know how you feel. I'm currently unemployed so I really don't have to put on "regular clothes" if I don't want to. But I noticed that lounging around in my PJs/sweats alll day and showering minimally made me feel even worse and more like a sick person.

Lately, I've been forcing myself to get up, shower, and put on nice clothes and try to step outside of the house, if only for a minute or two.

[ICNDonna]

Actually the "activewear" department is an excellent place to get some comfortable, yet attractive, things to wear. There are some wonderful colors in jogging suits that are just as comfortable for lounging around.

:)
Donna

[amaranthe]

I know how you feel. I am in my 30s, yet often think my life isnt much different from your average nursing home patient! I mean, they lay around all day, watching tv, and so do I. But, at least someone's there with them to make sure they tend to basic hygene, eat regular meals, and dress everyday! I swear I need someone like that too! I often go days without even combing my hair if I dont have to go anywhere, and stay in my pjs for days at at time too. When I DO go out, like to a school function or something, I look around at the other Moms and see how put together they are with makeup and jewelry on that coordinates with their clothes, and think how most of them do it everyday, and then leave there thinking, "What in the world is the matter with me that I cant seem to do those very basic things?!!!" I mean, yes, I am sick and feel bad all the time, but most days I dont physically feel bad enough that I couldnt manage that. But, it is the depression that breaks me. I AM on an antidepressant, but obviously it needs to be upped. So I plan on talking to my Dr. at my visit in a couple of weeks and lay things on the line and ask for some help. I hope that you'll do the same. you are right... this is no way to live (for either one of us!)

Anyway, I know my post wasnt particulary helpful....I mean you already know what you need to do, same as me. But, I just wanted to let you know that you ARENT the only one out there that's dealing with this. I am right there with you, so I definately understand. Please feel free to pm me anytime if you want to talk to someone else going thru the same thing. Maybe we can help motivate each other, (or at least do the well checks like they do in the nursing homes! :))

Sending hugs of support,
Amaranthe

[Kirs10]

Amaranthe, Thank you much for the encourage meant. I take alot med's but not one specifically for sleep. I will talk to my pcp about that. I have called and have an appointment with a new psyc. that accatually see patients during the day and not at 8:00pm. And I am in the process of getting a new therapist that I can talk to about all the things that have kept me do for years.
I do put on nice clothes when I leave the house and I know what you mean about all the other moms looking more put together.
My daughter is graduating in June and the mothers have been raising money for Operation Graduation, for te senior alcohol free trip. They kep calling and asking me to help, but I hurt so bad that I can't do the things that they want me too, so that makes me feel bad and like a bad mom..............my daugter understands but I feel like a slug for not doing my share.
Well, anyway I am hoping that the appointments I have lined up will help me with all this depression....
Thanks again for all your help.

[Cortana-mana]

I love simple cotton throw on dresses, particularly with an empire waist because they don't put any presssure down there. O fcourse, the weather has to be warm for those.

[kiffy313]

Hi,
I find that skirts with elastic waists are very comfy...and can be easy to make, too...I usually have to replace the elastic in most skirts and pants I buy anyways, as I need it looser for my "IC belly"...It is easy enough to change out the elastic while sitting in my "office" (my family and I refer to my restroom as my "office":toilet:...If there was a market for toilet seat testers...I could make a very good living...:rolleyes:...I have also been known to make an easy plain skirt out of a table runner/cloth...take rectangular material of size you choose, fold in half, sew up one side, turn down material at one end, stitch a casing from it to thread elastic thru ( I put a safety pin on one end of the elastic-makes it easy to thread the elastic thru), check and make sure elastic is a comfy length, sew the cut ends of the elastic together, then sew the casing opening closed. On the other end, turn up and hem to desired length...If you want the skirt bigger, just make sure the cloth is wider/longer...I also sometimes will leave like a slit open from the bottom to just about the knee on the side to make it easier to walk and move around. For me there are times that I cannot even wear my cotton undies, and with a skirt I don't have to worry about it...(make sure material is not see-thru...lol). Now, mind you, it may take me a while to get it done, as we all know it is best not to plan too much ahead with this IC...but it works for me...I hope this helps, and if you have any questions, let me know...
Good luck,
Kif