ellenjb
03-14-2009, 11:00 PM
I posted this in the pregnancy section as well so I apologize for being redundant! Can someone please tell me if I'm just overreacting due to pregnancy hormones or if there is some validity to my feelings...
Today was our city's st. patrick's day parade (pre-IC was my favorite day of the year....now, not so much considering it's hard to walk two steps without feeling like I"m going to pee my pants). I will start out by saying my husband and I are only 28, so we're young. His brother came in and we spent the day at different parties along the parade route with our 11 month old son and then my husband and his brother went out to the bars. So fine with that! no big deal. If I were not pregnant, I would have been in the bars too (just not drinking). Well they get home tonight, and the first thing he says when he walks in the door is how he still has "game" and how many girls were coming up to him!! First of all, I'm 6 months pregnant, am as large as a house, and feeling unattractive and depressed enough over the IC. Do I really want to hear that my husband was basically at a bar flirting with other girls????!!!!!! No woman EVER wants to hear that...am I being crazy??!!!
He then proceeded to tell me that what he meant was that he felt "young". Now, mind you, my biggest fear is that this whole IC thing is ruining not only my life, but his and my son's as well. He knows that is my biggest fear, so for him to tell me that he felt young for once, crushed me. My heart always feels like it's in a million pieces b/c I was basically just diagnosed with IC, instills during pregnancy are not working, and I feel like I"m never going to feel like myself again. I already feel like I have ruined his life, and hearing him say he still has "game" and felt young again, just validates my feelings. I realize he is dealing with the IC too, but come on....suck it up. I'm the one sitting here in constant pain, pregnant, and doing my best to work, take care of him and my child. I have nothing left in me, and this just broke my heart. Any advice or thoughts would be great. thanks!
Today was our city's st. patrick's day parade (pre-IC was my favorite day of the year....now, not so much considering it's hard to walk two steps without feeling like I"m going to pee my pants). I will start out by saying my husband and I are only 28, so we're young. His brother came in and we spent the day at different parties along the parade route with our 11 month old son and then my husband and his brother went out to the bars. So fine with that! no big deal. If I were not pregnant, I would have been in the bars too (just not drinking). Well they get home tonight, and the first thing he says when he walks in the door is how he still has "game" and how many girls were coming up to him!! First of all, I'm 6 months pregnant, am as large as a house, and feeling unattractive and depressed enough over the IC. Do I really want to hear that my husband was basically at a bar flirting with other girls????!!!!!! No woman EVER wants to hear that...am I being crazy??!!!
He then proceeded to tell me that what he meant was that he felt "young". Now, mind you, my biggest fear is that this whole IC thing is ruining not only my life, but his and my son's as well. He knows that is my biggest fear, so for him to tell me that he felt young for once, crushed me. My heart always feels like it's in a million pieces b/c I was basically just diagnosed with IC, instills during pregnancy are not working, and I feel like I"m never going to feel like myself again. I already feel like I have ruined his life, and hearing him say he still has "game" and felt young again, just validates my feelings. I realize he is dealing with the IC too, but come on....suck it up. I'm the one sitting here in constant pain, pregnant, and doing my best to work, take care of him and my child. I have nothing left in me, and this just broke my heart. Any advice or thoughts would be great. thanks!