Is this a board for me? Childfree?

[Kara29]

Here's a place for those of us who could not have kids can talk about our feelings and how to go on in a society that is filled and centered around families and kids. This is a group of us who can't have a child or that 2nd or third child they wanted via their own bodies due to our illnesses or age. It’s a place for us to share our sad days and to also offer each other reach out and support during these times. The Holidays are particularly hard and upon hearing about other women friends of ours and family members getting pregnant and raising such beautiful children.

Hope is a very hard thing to finally let go of. I don't give up easily but at 7 years with no children and adoption, not the right choice for my Husband and I.........and only being 32 there is a part of me that doesn't want to let go of the hope of a miracle of some sort. I was a miracle myself. In May I will be choosing an operation that makes getting pregnant something that would be a bad idea. I chose May for no particular reason. Right now My Husband and I are still riding on the coattails of hope but are starting to come to the reality that we need to move on or else this will start to kill who we once were as two, and happy. Now we have to come to grips with the realization that pretty much we will be living a childfree life.

There are a lot of us who can relate to this and this is the place to share our feelings, frustrations, fears, and vents. This is a safe place and we should feel we can be open to each other as we all go through this together. Let's offer support of those of us who have chosen not to adopt and live with furry things instead.

Kara (Support Volunteer)

[leelee88]

Kara,
I think this is a great new Board..I cannot say I know what you are going through but my heart does go out to you..I know whatever is to come you and your husband will find the strength to get through this together! (((hugs)))

[crazy_beautiful]

This board is a wonderful idea. After losing one then fighting to have Ashley, spent 7 of 9 months in and out of the hospital and they nearly demanded me to abort her, she would be down syndrome and never live to be 5, I have a thriving 20 year old in college. Before I had Ashley I lost a baby 20 weeks, I had Ashley and when she was 4 years old I lost a set of twins at nearly 20 weeks, and relented to a tubal (that never took place, I found out 10 years later, a whole other story)
So it was hard knowing I could never have any more kids. Then Jake and Savannah came into my life. It my not be and option for all, but foster parents are needed desperately all over the world. You can even opt for children that the parents rights will be terminated and will be going up for adoption. You can love anothers child as if they where your own. Even when despise the thought of the biological parent.
if anyone is interested in wanting to know about foster care I can do my best to answer your questions.

[traceann]

I agree with the ladies - GREAT board! I too know how hard it is to finally try to accept the fact that there might not be any children in my future - I mean, I will be 40 in Feb! It wasn't easy to come to, but I'd done it - and I have to say it was years in the making too. Granted, that's not how it turned out, but I'd been trying for years from like age 26 forward, so yeah, I know what it's like to finally just let myself accept it was OK if it didn't happen, have a great husband who if I had to be childless, he's the one I'd be it with.

GREAT board!!!!!!

XOXO