kinda a personal question

[Emmy1151]

Hey guys...i have been diagnosed for not even a week yet...but all i know is last time i had sex (whish was a little over two weeks ago) it made things sooo much worse...and now im honestly scared to have sex becasue it has gotten a little better since then and i dont want to make it worse yet. I have not started any treatments yet..i go to the doctor friday for that....but after starting treatments and getting on the right ones will sex become noram again or is it going to be painful forever!?..certianly hope not for my sake and for his lol!:hmm::hmm:

[anewday]

Hi I am so sorry you are experiencing one of the IC problems that many of us face.

I find it's best if I relax before. I am prescribed valium at bedtime for my bladder, so if it's gonna be a "special" night, ahem, I take my valium early and give it time to work (not too much time or i'm dead asleep, lol). Also relaxing in a warm bath beforehand helps. If I am totally sore, I just, ahem, take care of my husband. He knows what I am going thru, sometimes we just cuddle. Also remember lots of lubrication. You can do a search on this topic, there are lots of threads (I think even a sticky in the relationship section) on this topic with great advice.

[anewday]

http://www.ic-network.com/forum/showthread.php?t=22522

Good link for tips :)

[vm]

Definitely check out the tips, Jen posted. That way sex now could even be more comfortable.

I can only speak for myself, but sex is definitely "back to normal" for me. Sex wasn't really painful when I was symptomatic, but I always flared afterwards. I don't flare anymore after sex and haven't for a very long time. So, for at least some of us the answer is, "Yes, sex will get 'better'!"

[dverba]

i have other issues that come with ic so i am generaly sore (there) anyway. sex does not seem to worsen the ic but it does make my ohter symptoms worse. i like a hot bath (after) rather than before. i was also perscribed a numbing med that i can put on after for topical pain. i am still working on the whole sex thing my self and i am 38 with 3 kids. always know you can talk about these kinds of issues, this is what we all live with here.

[traceann]

It used to make my symptoms worse too, so I'd say for the first couple months after diagnosis and being on the diet and my meds poor hubby was in the None Club, lol. We abstained from actual penetration for quite awhile. And when we went back to it, we eased into it very gently and he knew that if I said "stop" it meant stop!! LOL But eventually between the diet, meds and some of the tips - things got back to normal for me! ;) Think positive!!

[Kirs10]

I do have painful sex........I have had it for many years. I don't know of anyway to not have pain but I can tell you that sometimes I just have to do it and deal with the flare that is going to follow.
I know this doesn't help much but you are not alone with painful intercourse.

Good luck.

[BellaLuna]

not to sound discouraging but my sex life has gone from a few times a day (before my diagnosis) to not even being able to make out because getting turned on alone flares me up... stupid I know. Best of luck, I am just thankful my new boyfriend understands bc it certainly ruined every other relationship I was in :mad: