Struggling with support of Hubby

[Michelle in KC]

Donald is trying to quit chewing tobacco. He is about a day and a half without now and he is being a WITCH. He's pissy and he's mean and he is so short tempered. He is chewing on sunflower seeds. Has eaten the last of the lemon heads. AND ~ says he does not want me to go to Wal-Mart and buy him any more hard candy or nicoderm patches. This all started from his doctor telling him to stop. Donadl has a bad sinus infection and cold and was at the doctor for that. He said the skin changes in his mouth are not cancerous looking, but can turn that way easily. So, I guess having a doctor tell him that must have worked! If Donald is able to kick this habit, I will just KISS that doctor! But, in the meantime, I am living with a bear. Any suggestions? Ideas? Anyone want to let me come live with them for a week so I don't have ot deal with him? Thanks. Michelle

[vm]

Sure, send him on over! :eek:

Maybe just try during this time to not take anything he says too personally. Easier said than done, I know... I can't stand to be around someone crabby either. But that would be my only advice - just tread lightly and let much of what he complains about go in one ear and out the other. In a couple of weeks if he is still doing it then kick him in the hiney. ;)

[ICNDonna]

Just be sure he knows how very proud you are that he is doing this. I know it's difficult to quit any kind of tobacco. Even though it's been about 20 years, I still remember those first few days.

Sending an encouraging hug,
Donna

[Katherine]

It is hard my dad quit smoking he had smoke for 40 yrs.
he was a bear the first 6 months.
Mom took 2/3 of the money he spent on cigerates. in a jar and when he quit for year she gave it to him and told him he could buy what ever he wanted. He smoked 3 packs a day Mom took what would been that amount each week stuck in that jar.
She took the 1/3 and they went out to eat and had a cerebration.
He was so proud.

[MakinIT]

So sorry you are dealing with the new non smokers....bummer. My parents have tried for years on and olff to quit. (like at least a dozen) Even my sister inlaw dying of lung cancer from smoking didn't do it. (Last summer's tragic surprise...she was diagnosed 2 weeks before she died. )

Take heart....He will continue to want those even when he's "not addicted"...Good night!

Tracey

[MakinIT]

geez I'm feeling sheepish..sorry, I was really tired when I wrote that..did not notice he was a tobacco chewer. I guess that's pretty damn hard too. My brother in law, the husband of the sister in law who dies of lung cancer, chews tobacco, but a dentist found suspicios sores in his mouth. Dave quit chewing...He is scared because the kids would be alone, should anything happen to him. So, I've noticed his back pockets dont have the usual ring, or that he has a pouch on him.

Good luck to your husband and to you on this journey. It aint easy.

Take care-T

[Michelle in KC]

I am so stressed out with his grumpiness! If I were a smoking or drinking woman, I'd sure be doin' that right now. He's a BEAR. Mean to the kids. Not so nice to me either. AND we are supposed to bowl tomorrow night. 3 hours of a smoke filled bowling alley. Yippee. I wonder if I can talk him into the nicotine patches now. I told him that if he had the urge to chew we could sneak away for a quickie. ;-) Well, he did not seem to think that was very funny. O-well. At least he's at work all week and not in my hair for 9 hours a day. <sigh> Michelle

[ICNDonna]

Since he's used to chewing his tobacco, it might be that the Nicorette gum would help him most. However, if he's been away from tobacco for a few days he might be close to getting the nicotine out of his system.

When I quit smoking, after I kicked the gum too, I ate fire balls for months!

He'll make it --- and when he does, you'll be so glad.

Warm hugs,
Donna

[Mimi-in-Chicagoland]

My dad lost tons of weight on his "fireball diet" :D when he quit chewing. That lasted a few years. He's chewing again now. Chewing is a hard habit to quit. Sorry, Michelle. I know how nasty they can be without their fix. (((Michelle))):hi: