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[carly]

My husband wants to take our youngest boys (13 and 14) to Washington Dc to visit a couple of his aunts who have cancer. I have been there 3 times. We wanted to drive, but it is 24 hours. I just don't think I can do it. I want him to fly with the boys. I do not want to go, because I can't stand in lines to see the sights. I don't think I would have enough access to a restroom, and I really can't stand or sit for very long. What do you guys think? I've already seen everything, and I want my boys to enjoy it. Between my lungs and my bladder, I just don't think I can do it. We can take a long week-end as a family and go somewhere closer. I think I have to start to be firm on what I can and cannot do. Thanks for your advice!

[ICNDonna]

Tht is definitely a long, long drive. If riding in a car is a problem for you, it would definitely be a good idea to fly. Is a hotel stay planned? If so, you could go along, but stay in the hotel or do some nearby things while hubby and the two boys go sight-seeing. That way they could share their experiences at the end of every day and you could go to dinner as a family.

Warm hugs,
Donna

[MakinIT]

I'd have to agree with Donna. My husband no longer expects me to go anywhere if I don't want to and that includes the 10 hour drive to Chase, B.C. to see his sister at least 4 times a year and 5 hour drive to see his mom a t various points. There is a point along the way to his mom's where there are no toilets for about 2 hours and I refuse to pee on the side of the road. Your hubby is going to have to understand how painful such ajourney is, besides the potty issue. My gut just gets to hurting after being in the car for an hour or so. Only you can work this out with him though. Mine is disappointed, sure. The kids (especially my 14 year old daughter) have been awesome with the guilt trips but I sat her down and just told her what exactly I felt and how I got that way. she seems better now, but now she is bummed because Idon't take her shopping anymore (I will not walk back and forth andback and forth as she spends 3 hours deciding on a pair of socks!) :p So she feels like we have no "bonding" (ie: spending money on her with me there...I'm an easier parent about that than dad)

Ok..signing off TA, TA...
Tracey