Bessie
07-27-2008, 08:12 PM
Hi there,
I would really appreciate any prayers for our family. We kind of have a family drama going on right now and our Uncle is dealing with cancer and also with heart disease. The family is fractured and our Grandmother is 102 with a very ill son (the one with the heart surgery and lung cancer) her daughter stole all of her money out of her safety deposit box, and her other 2 children have already passed away. My husband and myself go every weekend to see her, check on her needs, bring her clothes, etc. I really want to scoop her up an bring her home with me but since I am not one on the blood relatives, I am kind of stuck. Her one son goes and sees her about 1-2 a month and that is about it. I feel so sorry for her. I hate it that the Uncle put her in there and only goes 1-2 times a month. I know he is sick too but he still goes to the dog races, gambling, and other things he wants to do. I need prayer for myself to not be bitter. I just felt like he was kind of a father figure to me but when it came right down to it, he gave someone else an opportunity to buy my grandmother's house for 1/2 the apprasied value. So this person will get to turn around and make $40,000 for nothing. I asked him to sell it to us and let us have the chance to make that money but he said no, he had already talked to him about it 10 years ago. I was never asked if I wanted it, and besides that, I was too busy taking her to her doctors appoointmnets, grocery shopping, running errands, etc. and just spending time with my grandmother. I did not know I had to act like a vulture . I assumed that families did not need to act that way. So in essence, if you try to do the right thing, love your family, take care of them, etc. and then someone else comes along and says I want to buy their house when they die, they will get the first option to do so. Beware of anyone hanging around your elderly family members. I wonder if there is someone I could contact about this? I do know the man who stayed with my grandmother is suppose to be austistic but he has over 200.000 in mutual funds, a home that is paid for, he gets food stamps, he did get social security disability, and I beleive ssi. He has since had his eyes corrected and can see perfectly. He has pushed my grandmother down when he got mad at her and has thrown a pair of scissors at her. If she needed medicine picked up or groceries picked up, he would charge her $10.00 He would not even so much as share a slice of bread with her. He lived there rent free, and utility free for over 10 years. I am just wondering if there is a crime committed here? I took my grandmother everywhere and never took a dime from her. I took her shopping, grocery shopping, doctor visitis, pick up prescriptions, and any other thing she needed done. I am not asking for her house to be given to me. I am asking for the same opportunity as the other guy has......to buy the house for $40,000 Please pray that God will allow this to possible. I could evetually moved there and have my home paid for. It is a very small home but it can be added too. I won't need that much room becasue it is just the 2 of us. It anyone can help me come up with some suggestions on ways to be able to keep the house please let me know. It might already be too late.....but I have to try. I want to keep it in the family name. Thanks for any help, suggestions, or prayers that you can send this way.
I would really appreciate any prayers for our family. We kind of have a family drama going on right now and our Uncle is dealing with cancer and also with heart disease. The family is fractured and our Grandmother is 102 with a very ill son (the one with the heart surgery and lung cancer) her daughter stole all of her money out of her safety deposit box, and her other 2 children have already passed away. My husband and myself go every weekend to see her, check on her needs, bring her clothes, etc. I really want to scoop her up an bring her home with me but since I am not one on the blood relatives, I am kind of stuck. Her one son goes and sees her about 1-2 a month and that is about it. I feel so sorry for her. I hate it that the Uncle put her in there and only goes 1-2 times a month. I know he is sick too but he still goes to the dog races, gambling, and other things he wants to do. I need prayer for myself to not be bitter. I just felt like he was kind of a father figure to me but when it came right down to it, he gave someone else an opportunity to buy my grandmother's house for 1/2 the apprasied value. So this person will get to turn around and make $40,000 for nothing. I asked him to sell it to us and let us have the chance to make that money but he said no, he had already talked to him about it 10 years ago. I was never asked if I wanted it, and besides that, I was too busy taking her to her doctors appoointmnets, grocery shopping, running errands, etc. and just spending time with my grandmother. I did not know I had to act like a vulture . I assumed that families did not need to act that way. So in essence, if you try to do the right thing, love your family, take care of them, etc. and then someone else comes along and says I want to buy their house when they die, they will get the first option to do so. Beware of anyone hanging around your elderly family members. I wonder if there is someone I could contact about this? I do know the man who stayed with my grandmother is suppose to be austistic but he has over 200.000 in mutual funds, a home that is paid for, he gets food stamps, he did get social security disability, and I beleive ssi. He has since had his eyes corrected and can see perfectly. He has pushed my grandmother down when he got mad at her and has thrown a pair of scissors at her. If she needed medicine picked up or groceries picked up, he would charge her $10.00 He would not even so much as share a slice of bread with her. He lived there rent free, and utility free for over 10 years. I am just wondering if there is a crime committed here? I took my grandmother everywhere and never took a dime from her. I took her shopping, grocery shopping, doctor visitis, pick up prescriptions, and any other thing she needed done. I am not asking for her house to be given to me. I am asking for the same opportunity as the other guy has......to buy the house for $40,000 Please pray that God will allow this to possible. I could evetually moved there and have my home paid for. It is a very small home but it can be added too. I won't need that much room becasue it is just the 2 of us. It anyone can help me come up with some suggestions on ways to be able to keep the house please let me know. It might already be too late.....but I have to try. I want to keep it in the family name. Thanks for any help, suggestions, or prayers that you can send this way.