what to do

[delie]

hi guys, lately have met this really nice guy at the dog park and he seems interested(that in itself amazes me). I have resigned my self to be single as I felt a relationship would be just to hard with IC. Part of me thinks I should just stop going to the park, I've been a really bad flair and the thought of explaining the IC to someone and the whole sex thing, I' haven't had sex since I got IC. I" dont know he seems kinda sweet, its not that I don't what to have sex its just that I'm often in pain it sucks this ic thing. delie:

[SharonA]

Why are you worrying about what might be instead of enjoying what it is right now? You have just met this guy. Take the time to let the two of you get to know each other before you start thinking about sex. If this friendship is meant to grow, let it grow naturally. If the two of you begin to mesh, then the subject of IC, etc. can be discussed. It may be that it is exactly what it will end up being...a good friendship and nothing more.

(((Hugs)))

[ICNDonna]

Sharon is right --- enjoy this guy. It could be that he's just a nice person who is enjoying talking with you. If it does turn out to be a real close friendship, you can deal with that then.

Donna

[leelee88]

I think Sharon is right, Just take one day at a time.. Enjoy friendships first, if other things come along you can deal with them then..

[lisabar36]

I also agree with Sharon. :)

[sandymarie]

Not much I could add to Sharon's post. Just reach out and grab every minute of Happiness you can. If nothing else , for right now , he makes you feel good about yourself. It sounds like you are a bit insecure saying it surprises you that he is even interested in you. Maybe God is trying to show you that you have more to offer the opposite sex than just sex. The best marriages begin with a friendship . If you find one good and trusty friend in your lifetime , you are very blessed. Enjoy them in whatever form you can.. He must be more interested in you as a person more than a sex object or he would have already made some remarks to let you know. If the red flag goes up then run like , well run. Otherwise enjoy life each day.

JJ:)

[Briza]

Not much I could add to Sharon's post. Just reach out and grab every minute of Happiness you can. If nothing else , for right now , he makes you feel good about yourself. It sounds like you are a bit insecure saying it surprises you that he is even interested in you. Maybe God is trying to show you that you have more to offer the opposite sex than just sex. The best marriages begin with a friendship . If you find one good and trusty friend in your lifetime , you are very blessed. Enjoy them in whatever form you can.. He must be more interested in you as a person more than a sex object or he would have already made some remarks to let you know. If the red flag goes up then run like , well run. Otherwise enjoy life each day.

JJ:)

Great post, JJ, I couldn't agree more!

Delie, you don't know how jealous I am that there is a dog park where you live! If there were one where I lived I'd be there everyday :lmao:, not only for the dogs but also to meet people (read: MEN;)) with common interests.
I don't know about you but I've got my VERY long list of what I want in a guy, and very near the top is that he must like dogs and cats and at least sometimes allow the animals on the couch and in the bed (also on my list is no anal guys :biglaugh:).
I understand how you feel, though, sometimes we get so caught up with our IC that sometimes it's hard not to let it get in the way b/c we look too far into the future and immediately begin to think how starting a friendship may lead to something where at some point we'll have to disclose info about our condition(s). Better to focus on the NOW and how great you have met someone who has at least two common interests (YOU and dogs). Meeting men like that is hard enough even w/out IC!!!
Even though I am in remission right now, having IC and Vulvodynia have taught me much more restraint ;) and patience than I ever had when I was younger, and how important it is to work hard on first developing a friendship with a man before letting my mind go wild on the "what if's?!"
I am happy for you! My dog is really sweet and loves everyone and loves to play, but her teeth are so unusually big (she can't fit them all in her mouth!) they often scare men, and even their dogs, away!
Best wishes...keep us posted:)

[delie]

thanks for all your good advice your right I'm getting WAY carried away. It is nice just having a friend to chat with and it does make me feel good about myself, so I'll chill and just enjoy the moment. Briza, it is the most lovely dog park with a rain forest and creek, I have a gorgeous 13 month old Boxer, and yes shes in my bed and on the couch she brings me so much Joy and she to just loves to play to. thanks again delie