advise please???

[kjd]

Hi Ladies

I have recently bought my first home with my partner! Things are going great despite having a flare up and my bladder hates me right now.

Just got a problem I am hoping you can help me out with though as getting a bit anxious. Since losing my step mum last week my brain doesnt seem to function properly :-)


I have been with my doctor for 12 years now and very happy with them as theyknows my full history with my vulvadyina, IC, ME etc so we have a good relationship.
Also I get all my medications from my doctors all online so dont need to go in which is very convenient and cost effective. and they understand my condition (white coat) which is a fear of doctors which came on around the time the vulvodyina and IC started and I was so stressed out. I still have issues trusting doctos today.
Anyway because I have moved I have literally just found out I an now not in the catchment area of my doctors even though I am only a 15-20 mins drive from them, so I am having a panic. this never even occured to me before, or else I would have seriously not bought that house and stayed at home with my mum!! The thought of having to find a new doctor and explain everything and build up the trust makes me feel physically sick. I would need an 8 hour appointment just to explain my medical history which would cause me alot of stress that I dont need.

anyway I spoke to the advise service and they said that I will be out of the boundaries so tough luck bascially, so do you think I should not give my doctors my new address?

I am sure you understand the situation I am in which is stressing me out even more because of my flare up so would really appreciate some support and comfort.

I am thinking I might continue to see my doctor but just not change my address and leave it as my mums? What do you think?
I know its not telling the truth but seems like the best option.

thanks so much ladies, I am in tears here but I know its because other things are getting on top of me.xxx

[lisabar36]

I am so sorry. I would be scared to especially when you built up so much trust and they treat you so well. I can't tell you what to do though. Is it the insurance that won't cover? Because I never heard of that before and I drive an hour to see my doctor. Is there anyway you can call the insurance or someone to fight to keep the same doctor? I don't know what I would do if I was you as far as address, I hope you can get it figured out. I am so sorry your stressing so much and I hope it all works out for you. :pray:

[GriffsMommy]

I'm like Lisa, I'm not really sure what advise to give you. My current insurance lets me see any dr that is in my network regardless of where they are. I have seen dr's that are more than an hour away, I have seen dr's that are in a different state and as long as they are apart of the network it is acceptable.
Does your mother still live at the house where you used to live with her? The only problem I could see with not changing your address would be if the dr's office sent you anything and you didn't get it. If you change your address with the post office then they would forward all of your mail from your mom's address to your new address and then when the forward time runs out then usually they send it back to the sender to notify them that the person has moved and the forward request has run out and they need to find a new address for the person which would give you away.
I'm not sure what I would do in that situation. Perhaps your current dr could suggest another dr that is good in your area and give them a call and give them a heads up on all of your medical conditions. If they sent over your chart before your first appointment then they would have all the info and they might have some questions but they shouldn't need you to rehash your whole medical history.
Good luck whatever you decide to do.

[leelee88]

This is a tough one Kjd. I know how how it is to find a good dr and one whom you can trust. I really think this would have to be your call..

[kjd]

Hi Ladies

thanks for your reply. I live in UK and things are abit different here. We all see doctors on the NHS (national health service) so we dont use insurance.
Its basically free to everyone no matter what you do or if you dont work. we have to pay for meds but not to see the doctor.

Basically in each city there are different doctors which you can see depending on where you live. Only down side is that due to shortage of doctors you can be on a waiting list of up to 6months to joins a doctors and its rare to find a decent doctor.....(mostly dont speak much english) its the same with dentists. Anyway each doctor has a caption area so if you live within say 2miles you can join, but if you move out of that caption area that you cant go anymore.
So I have moved a mile out of the caption area which means that I cant go anymore if I tell them my new address. So downside is if I tell them I will have to find another doctor which would be a nightmare to find one which is English and understands IC and vulvodyina, and then I'd have to get on the list.

At the moment they have my mums address not my new home. I really cant face trying to find a new doctor. If I have to see a different doctor at my current surgery I end up having a panic attack and like to see the same one everytime which is what they arrange for me now as I used to have sky high blood pressue which they realised only happened when I was with a new doctor as I dont have any trust for them.

So what do you think please? thanks so muchx

[IC SARAH-CPP]

I would leave the address at your Mum's house, if it were me. I have had to do that to stay with Kaiser and my mom just forwards me all my mail concerning my health stuff. Dont go through all that if you dont have to!

Sarah