at the breaking point!

[windchaser]

I just dont know what to do anymore, im having a very bad day took my last pain pill yesterday and dont get anymore until monday when i have my hydro, which i am in so much pain i find myself praying for the days to go faster just to get it over with, Ive tried everything I can think of took 2 hot hot baths and tylonal and still no relief, I am stuck at home alone with my 3 year old son that is being a very hyper boy today and doesnt want to listen to anything i say, i have been in tears all day long, i cant even get to the hospital because we are snowed in with over a foot of snow, and i have no one close to help me with my son.... :cussing: I hate having no one to support me, it makes me so depressed and all i hear from my family is to deal with it!!:rant: How can you just deal with something that is this painful I cant take the pain anymore I sooo want to scream..

[traceann]

Oh geesh, I am so sorry you're having a rotten day!!!! I got tired just reading what you're going through ;) I wish I had some ideas for you, but I at least wanted to say I understand where you're coming from - this can be sooooo frustrating on it's own (IC) then throw in a bunch of other things are aggrivating, and it's not a pretty picture...at all!!!

Hang in there, just a couple more days and Monday will be here!!!!!!!

Hugs,
Tracey :)

[ICNDonna]

:grouphug: I wish I could help.

Donna

[windchaser]

ty both lol its not as easy as just a couple of days lol my sons 3rd birthday is on monday so we decided to do it on sunday with 16 kids just in the family, not including the parents uggg. I feel so bad because ive acctually thought of holding off the party til after I recover especially with all the snow, but then what am i going to do about his birthday just give him a few presents and say here yah go happy birthday? Its not his fault I dont feel good and i feel that he is being punished for it, or is it im just being over emotional idk both maybe just cant take this pain and i know if i call my uro he will tell me to wait until monday so all I can do is cry and try to do as much as i can which makes it worse because I seem to push myself to do to much all the time. Im just starting to feel like its all hopeless....

[SharonA]

I am so sorry that you are having such a bad time of it right now. (((Hugs)))

[Bessie]

:flower: Sorry you are hurting. Sending prayers and get well wishes your way :pray:

[maryla]

Sorry you are hurting so bad....sending you lots of ((((hugs)))) and :pray:s

[missychan]

Oh sweetie, I am SO sorry you're having such a hard time. I know the feeling of complete hopelessness, AND helplessness, it's not fun. I just get so overwhelmed sometimes that all I can do is cry.

I wish I could help with the pain... but I did have an idea for the party, maybe. First of all, your son is three, right? He doesn't need a big party, does he? Heck, at three, my kids would have been thrilled with a few gifts and cake. One year I was REALLY sick with the flu, ex was out of town, and there was NO way we were having a party. Luckily I'd done the shopping the day before. I let the kids eat cake and ice cream for dinner, which they thought was the greatest thing ever, and ONE meal wasn't going to kill them, LOL! Then we all curled up in my bed and opened gifts and watched a movie. My son was happy as a clam with what I was able to do, and couldn't have cared less about a party. (He was 4 that year)

It sounds like you already have the party planned, and you mentioned adults. Is the party at your house? Is there any reason you can't just let everyone in, have the adults run the party and you go back to bed? Or curl up on the couch and watch the show from there? I know you said they aren't very supportive, but would they at least do THAT for you?

If it's at a friend or relatives house, have them come pick your son up and you just stay home. I know your son wants you there, but honestly, at three, he'll be so caught up in the party that he won't really miss you. (And I know how much YOU want to be there with him, but your health is so important right now.) Just make sure someone takes lots of pics for you. I promise you, in 20 years when he ends up on the therapists couch, it won't be because you were sick on his third birthday! :)

I know my "options" sound cold and uncaring, I SO don't mean them to, I just want you to feel better. Keep telling yourself, he's three, not thirteen. He just wants a fun day, and it sounds like you have that planned. Whether you're in the living room with him, or in the bedroom doesn't really matter as long as he's safe, right? Let the other adults know that you need some help, and that you're going to go lie down. Let them deal with the kids or they can all go home, simple as that. You need support right now, not more stress. Believe me, I've been there, am there now. No support locally, an ex that is making things hell, and the kids are all grown and gone so I'm truly alone here. I've learned to just tell people "NO" when and if they need me to do something I just don't feel up to doing. If they're truly friends, they understand. If not, they can move along. I've always been the one to take care of everyone else and am finding out now who my true friends are. I just wish I was there, I'd throw the party for you. I could use some sticky finger fun right about now.

Wish I had better options, but know that we're thinking about you and wishing we could do more.

Missy

[windchaser]

thats so funny ty for all of your ideas i just use one, i think i have a sick card around here somewhere lmao his party is going to be at my parents house but my step mom made sure to tell me "no hunney you know that if you do it here then your going to have to clean it up" well no chit shirlock lol i will either get help doing it or i will just go home, the party isnt for anyone else but him and i dont need them ragging on me about everything or whos kids getting into what grrr always stressful with family gatherings.. ty all for posting i dont know why but you guys have a way of pulling me up when i dont think I can. :)still hurting extremely bad but emotionally i feel alot better...at least my uro called in my phynergan wouldnt call in a couple pills til monday which i figured, i dont even think the nurse asked him, she gives me hell everytime i call there for anything then makes a comment "well the pain must not be that bad you havent been calling" so when i call she tells me he doesnt want me to get hooked on pain meds because of my age, and when i talk to him about it he said he didnt say that.. so what would you think? lol ty all

[Claredale]

Missy is right. Birthdays at that age are more for the parents and famiy than the kids. I would have argued that when my kids were little and would say they will never be 3 again. My IC stated when my kids were very young so I definitely pushed myself more than I should have and it really made me feel worse in the long run. You son will be 3 for a entire year. If you only have a few people or even decide to have the 16 kids, I would wait until you felt better, espceially going into this weekend with no meds to help you with your pain, plus the weather, most people probably would appreciate not having to get out. Mom did say that it's supposed to warm up quite a bit over the weekend, but I would still make a few calls and postpone it. We don't have but just a few inches here (first snow this year) and beleive me, hubby has picked up some movies and we are in for the duration.

He can still have his birthday and love on him and take pictures and have fun singing happy birthday! I wish so much that I would have had someone to tell me to slow down and take care of myself. I would have enjoyed life more. That is what I do now, which is easier since I no longer have 3 years olds....But my point is, that let things go when you aren't feeling well. You really need to take care of yourself.

Keep those hot baths going. I had a more than I want to remember of those no pain med weekends was such a huge part of my IC life.

Hugs and more hugs!

Tracey

[IC SARAH-CPP]

I know it is hard but I really think you should call your Uro, call your regular doctor, basically just call all the doctors you can think of. I know that this is very difficult to do but there is absolutely NO reason you should sit in pain all weekend long and try to deal with your sons birthday party with no pain control.

I have had to do it before and it was so hard but I just kept pushing because I couldn't stand the alternative, which was to sit and just suffer. I also had my soon to be ex-husband call for me and tell them that I was sitting there crying my eyes out for 3 days straight. He told the doctor that I had not slept or eaten for almost 72 hours and that they had better do something about it! That sure got their butts in gear. It honestly did. They called in vicodin right away and then when that didn't work, the doctor had a script for percocet just waiting at the front desk for me. I was so grateful but also mad that it took HIM calling before I was actually listened to.

Please call someone and if you cant get any relief, maybe when hubby gets home you can go to the ER. I think you said you had a husband, if not maybe you could call a neighbor or just anyone to come take your son so you can go. If not then I would just take him to the ER with you. Tell them that it shows how bad off you are that you would bring a 3 year old with you to the Emergency Room.

hang in there hun. I am sending a BIIIIGGGGG hug over the web to you. I know it isn't much consolation but we are here and we do care.

Love Sarah

[IC SARAH-CPP]

Okay duh I just read the post where you said the uro wouldnt call in the pain pills. If it were me and i know you are most likely thinking, okay well it is easier to just say these things than to do them, I would call back and tell them you are in severe pain and are thinking of going to emergency, it is that bad! Ask if she could please ASK the uro about the pain pills again and if he wont give them then can they telephone the ER and let them know you are a patient and you have a severe condition?

Maybe that way they will know you are serious and you are in intense pain and need help. That upsets me that you think the nurse didn't ask the doctor about calling in the pain pills. I know that this has happened before, the nurses tell you no and it turns out they didn't even speak to the doctors. It happened to me and I was so furious with my doctor. I went in and "ripped him a new one" only to find out he was never even asked to call in my Norco. I made him call in the nurse right there and speak to her in front of me and boy did she get it. She hated me after that but was sweet as pie. I took to emailing the doctor directly b/c I just didn't trust her to actually ask him about my meds.

Can you do that? Email the uro directly? That way you would at least know that he was asked. I just hate to see you suffer so badly when all it would take is a few vicodin to make you feel better!

Sarah

[windchaser]

i dont know about the e-mail ill have to ask him about it on monday, yah its kinda funny anytime i call and ask the nurse about the pain meds she says he said no, but when i saw him the last time and told him what she had said, he said that he didnt say that and that he had no problem giving me pain meds which i think he kinda does other wise he would give me more then 30 for a month no exceptions. Its absolutely rediculous! I wish that i had insurance... ty all for your support i soo appreciate it :)

[windchaser]

lol i didnt see the other posts went straight to the bottom, anyways I tried to postpon it but my step mom got mad and so did my sister and said that if i did that then they couldnt be there so it will be on sunday, also I dont have a husband, i have a boyfriend tho and he isnt to caring but he is snowed in, in town and i live in a valley so noone can get in our out hope this melts soon. I just really dont know how im going to get through this weekend but I have to and i will, will just be extremely hard... so pray for me lol i think i can, i think i can! lol ty all

[leelee88]

I just seen your post and I am so sorry you are dealing with all this.. Hang in there things will get better.. ((((hugs))))