The mental countdown has begun...

[tjm0852]

...and I need to get myself into a better mind set. I am getting married this coming Sunday. I am excited but that the same time very nervous about the rehersal dinner, wedding cermony/reception and finally the honeymoon.

I having been feeling nausea, anxious and worried about making it through all the events.

I am most nervous about disappointing my fiance. She knows about my condition and does everything she can to help, but she feels sometimes I am not doing enough to help myself and it bothers her. She loves to go out and eat and try new places, it is sometimes hard for me to enjoy myself and eat my meal so she does not realize I am not feeling well. I hate having to rush her or run to the bathroom or think of a BS excuse to get out of going entirely.

I am most anxious about the honeymoon. We are going to St. Marteen and I am obviously worried about the plane trip there and feeling comfortable on a 4hour flight. Even once I get through it I am afraid I will continue to feel nausea and anxious.

The thought of food is making me feel sick, it has been a struggle to eat anything lately. The Klonopin I take only makes me sleepy and does not help my appetite.

I am depressed about the way I feel and how it may effect the love of my life.

Please help me, give me some encouragement that I can do it.

[Claredale]

I am assuming the nausea is from worrying. Remember she loves you and understands and promises to take care of you. Let her and relax.

My son got married last May and I was very anxious about getting everything done and the wedding was out of town and the whole bit that the mother of the groom goes through. I was able to take a valium during my most anxious times. I know it doesn't hold a candle to being the groom, but just take deep breaths and enjoy every memory.

Best wishes to you both and enjoy your honeymoon!

Tracey

[sickofmybladder]

Tracy is right - stress will only make your symptoms worse - practice some deep breathing and just try to enjoy yourself -
Alot of hype is put into the honeymoon - when truth be told - I believe almost everyone is too tired to care (if you know what I mean....) - you are starting your life with this person - and you will have good days and bad - just try to relax - enjoy the vacation - enjoy being with your new wife - and hopefully you will feel fine (especially after you've had time to recover from the travel etc.).
Congrads!

[leelee88]

She's Marrying "YOU" She knows about your disease right? And she has accepted it. She loves you for who you are not for what you have!!

A strong marriage is based on communication. I would suggest talking to her about your anxieties and feelings. I am sure she will be totally understanding and will put all your worries to ease. I think you are just nervous and are being WAY to hard on yourself..Congrats on your marriage..Take a DEEP breath everything will work out and will be just fine...

[Tracie]

Take everything One Day at a Time. Don't worry about the flight until you have to take it. It might not be that bad. I am so sorry you are going through all of this.I am sure there will be foods that you can tolerate. I packed some snacks that I can tolerate and took them with me on my honeymoon. I also brought any meds I thought might need. Try to relax and enjoy your wedding. Take care.
Tracie

[IC SARAH-CPP]

It is very stressful but the MAIN advice i can give you is that once the actual wedding day comes, just let go of everything and HAVE FUN!!!!!!!!! Remember this is one of the most important days of your life and WHO CARES if the cake doesn't come out right or if someone is late, etc. Some people stress about the smallest things and end up ruining their wedding day over the photographer or some other minor detail.

I had a blast at my wedding and trust me, there were lots of problems and things that went wrong. One thing I did that ended up being a god send is I made a list of ALL the vendors and I put;

1.) Their names
2.) Their phone numbers
3.) The BALANCE DUE - THis is important and I put each check in a separate envelope with the tip in it so they could be handed out by someone else.
4.) The TIME they were due to arrive to the wedding and the time they were due to leave
5.) Any special instructions I had for each vendor. i.e.- the caterer are supposed to set up here, etc.

This ended up really helping b/c some people were late or forgot things and I gave that list to my parents and bridesmaids and told them not to even bring it up to me if there was a problem, just handle it on their own and if it didn't work out, oh well!

Another thing I did that ended up being an awesome idea is that I had my mom and bridesmaids go to the place we were spending our wedding night and put out champagne(for him :( ), my little lingerie, some lovely candles, roses in the room and on the bed, and MOST IMPORTANT - a lovely meal!! You will most likely not be able to eat at the actual wedding so you will probably be starving later that night. My hubby was so touched when we arrived and saw all that stuff there.

As for the honeymoon, can you ask your doctor to give you some pain pills to take along just in case? I was so happy to just be with my hubby ALONE and so in love and just high on our marriage that it was truly a magical time. YOu are really in this transition phase, leaving your single life and entering your new life together and it is truly a fairy tale time. We went to Europe so the plane ride was not fun, 18 hours, but I took valium and norco and just forced my way through it. We tried not to push it on our actual honeymoon and that helped. Besides you usually want to spend most of the time in your room, if you know what I mean,lol!

Congrats and just enjoy yourself. Most of all concentrate on this wonderful woman you love and the life you are entering together.

Sarah

[tjm0852]

Thanks for the words of encouragement.

I am going to feel good and have a good time. (Convincing myself)

She knows about my IC, but she maybe does not understand the full extent of how it is both a physical and mental disease.

I am trying to focus on only today's events and leave the worrying about tomorrow, for tomorrow.

[ICNDonna]

I like your attitude about leaving tomorrow to tomorrow.

Hang in there!

Donna

[tjm0852]

First of all, thanks for everyone's support.:bow:

Got some meds from the Dr. for my stomch and they really made a huge difference, Clidinium (IIRC) is the generic name.

I am now a married man, and had a great time at MY wedding :woohoo:

I am hoping that tomorrow's fight goes well also. Wish me luck for a comfortable flight, please.

Thanks again everyone!

[icnmgrjill]

Woo Hoo!!!! Yesssssss!!! So glad to see that you had a great wedding!!!!!!! Sending you lots of newlywed bliss wishes. One day at a time and remember, if she had IC, you'd be there for her... so let her be there for you!

Jill :)

[dg2901]

Congrats, Mr Married Man!! :woohoo:

Your honeymoon is time for you and your new bride to relax and enjoy time together, putting all the hooplah that went along with planning a wedding behind.

Wishing you two many happy years together!!
Have a safe trip and a wonderful time in St Marteen!

Diana

[SharonA]

Congratulations...:) :) :)

[kuntrygurl78]

Im so glad things went well! I was married in September. I too was nervous about the intimate part of the honeymoon...even tho hubby and I had lived together for 4 years. I was scared that I might try to over do it. Honestly, we did so much sight seeing (we went to vegas) that everything was perfect.

Im so happy for you!:woohoo:

[tjm0852]

Happily posting from St. Maarten:hi:

The flight wasn't the most enjoyable, but I go through it ok, and was able to go as soon as we landed and minutes before they closed the door for takeoff.

Last one on the plane and first one off and through customs helped alot as well.

THANKS FOR EVERYONE'S SUPPORT, HELP AND PRAYERS!:angel: