Oh No!

[Claredale]

I just called Tyler to see how his girlfriend liked her homemade candy that he so sweetly made last Saturday. I know I woke him up when I called (just now), but he said that he hadn't given it to her. I asked if he was going to give it to her tonight and he said that "they were on a break". I said a "Ross and Rachel break" and he said yes. He said she was much too argumentative. He is one to talk! Believe me, he will argue with you to death on the color of the sky. I thought she was pretty tolerant myself! I still hurt for my son, but this too will pass. I didn't say that to him though! I am the one that gets attached to the girls and end up feeling bad for both Tyler and the girl. No telling, this time tomorrow, things my be back to normal.

Tracey

[leelee88]

So do you think he is taking it OK?

[dancemomof2]

I know how you feel T83, when they are apart of the family I get attached also.

[lisabar36]

Thats to bad. I hope they can work it out and he is ok. My son does this to me all the time. I still keep in touch with one of his old girlfriends that he doesn't even talk to anymore. She is one of the sweetest girls I have ever met. Good luck!

[SharonA]

Awww T, am I so sorry. I know you hurt for him. Maybe he will give you the candy???

[tigger_gal]

:grouphug:

[SandyRN]

I can only imagine how you must feel. My son is in his first real relationship with a girl I really love to pieces. She's the sweetest thing and I already consider her part of the family. I asked him a couple weekends ago if he wanted to marry her. I'd kept my mouth shut for well over a year wondering that very question and he told me yes, he really did want to marry her and was going to ask her when they both graduated college. I guess we'll see. It's really both their first real relationship, so time will tell, but I can see that they love each other very much.

I hope your son and his gf fix their differences quickly. Maybe a break means just that, a break, not a break up! I hope!

Hugs, Sandy

[Claredale]

Update on Ty...They are back together and everything is fine, and she promises to not get upset when he wants to go do things with the guys. I will never know what the argument was about, I never ask. I just go with the flow with my younger son!

I was just used to how my older son decided to not "date" as a teenager. He was pursued I have to say. He was very involved in our church youth group as well as his love for sports and alot of his friends decided that they weren't going to "date" either. They were really a bunch of neat Christian young men. He read a book called "Kiss Dating Goodbye" by Joshua Harris back in high school that our youth minister suggested all the kids and their parents to read because the author was coming to our church during our "True Love Waits" dinner and program to talk about his book. It was a very popular book back then. Most of his friends were in agreement to make high school be about making friends and seeking what God had planned for them. They group dated at times and went to dances and all the normal teen activities. There were plenty of Friday nights that we had 20 to 30 kids at our house for a movie, but nothing ever serious for the majority of this group. I was proud of the ones that kept that commitment, because I remember the heavy emotions that went along with dating with some of his friends. My husband and I were very involved in the youth group and we heard it all as teachers and counselors. It effected their school work, and they missed out on so much. Of course, my older son always had that secret hope that a certain girl with big blue eyes would be who God had planned for him, but he finally realized that wasn't in God's plan. During his freshmen year in college, he went away to school and away from all of his friends that he grew up with in church. He still didn't date but found a great group of friends and still "group dated", but his sophomore year, I heard about this girl named Jessica from his friends that went down and visited him at college for football game. Justin hadn't mentioned her to me at all. So of course I called and asked about her, he said he truly believed that he found the girl that God had planned for him. They had dated for about a month and he had already decided that was who he was going to marry her some day. Matter of fact, he called me one night and asked what I would do if he got married that weekend. I didn't miss a beat, I told him I would cut off his Tivo account (We had just given him a Tivo when he turned 20). I heard him tell Jess, that he wouldn't be able to get married yet since he didn't have a job and wasn't going to go without Tivo! Three and half years later, they were married. To watch that relationship begin and grow was so awesome.

Now my younger son, he has always been the Casanova. He had girlfriends since preschool. He even had a sleep over planned with a kid named Jordan. When "Jordan" mom came over for a get to know you time. She realised Tyler was a boy and I realized Jordan wasn't a boy. Needless to say, Tyler had his first sleepover with a girl at the age of 4. He slept with Jordan's older brother. Tyler and Jordan were great friends until they moved away. I still have so many of his little "love notes" he wrote and received through the years. He loved to buy little gifts to give to the girls. It was a different girl everytime we turned around. The only girl I ever got attached to was his first girlfriend at college. They dated for almost 2 years and Tyler isn't the easiest guy to "handle". He can be the sweetest, most romantic guy in the world, but he can also get on your last nerve. That is why I said that I thought Danielle was pretty tolerant in my opinion.

He says he has too much to do before he gets married, so he probably won't get married until he is 30. Knowing Tyler, that will probably be the case, but I wouldn't be surprised even the slightest bit if he called me one night and told me he was married. That is just the life of Tyler. My free spirited son. How many times did I say "what was I thinkin!"to have a playmate for my first child? I have to admit, that he definitely added quite a bit of memories and entertainment in my family!

[SharonA]

So...I guess that means that you didn't get the candy after all. :lmao:

[Claredale]

Yes, Sharon, I got some of the ones that didn't make the "cut". They still tasted delicious. I loved the white chocolate ones he practiced on!

[dancemomof2]

Don't you just love it when kids make you fly by the seat of our pants. Glad things worked out.