nice to know

[windchaser]

its is so nice to know that the only time i ask for help i dont get it, i take care of my 3 year old son and my boyfriends 3 daughters on the weekend ive been having a horrible flare since yesterday morning and i asked my sister in-law to come help me because i have to take care of 4 kids and make my niece a birthday cake for tommorrow and clean my house and i just feel like i dont want to get up to do anything. I have watched my sister in-laws son for them god knows how many times when she needed me to knowing i was not feeling well and the first time i ask her to come help me her husband starts throwing a fit about it. I cant do this anymore.:cussing::rant: I hate having to ask for help and what i hate worse is when i finnaly do i get told NO! I hear about people that have suportive families and all my family does is think im a drug addict because i need pain meds... I hate my life!!!! ok im sorry im done ranting now... i pray things get better im tired of having to defend myself!:cussing:

[traceann]

LOL, no worry on the rant!! I think we all - seriously - have been there before. That ONE time where we finally asked for some assistance and wham-o - the big fat no. UGH!!:cussing: I know that for as helpful as my hubby was, there were times in the beginning he just didn't get it - and neither did the family, and I remember thinking the same thing - how can some people have these perfectly helpful families and I don't!:confused::mad: For me it took a few "battles" to get the situation understood. I know he was new to it too, so it took some time and a few "discussions" (putting it politely, lol) to get across just what was needed etc. and that I wasn't over-reacting etc. (grrr)

So, go ahead and rant away - that's what we're here for: to boo them when they're bad and to applaud them when they're good!! :woohoo:

BIG hugs,
Tracey :smile tee

[MiLynn]

I'm sorry you aren't getting any help. And I hope you get everything done that you are able to.

I have a very supportive mother, because she has fibro and totally "gets it". But she is 2 hours away. Since I'm just starting this IC journey, I have no idea how anyone else will act, yet.

[windchaser]

lol ty so much i just had to laugh at the boo them when they are bad comment hehe ty i really needed to laugh i dont know why its that funny but OOOOK :) I cant stop laughing now. I think that the people that are like that to us should go through what we go through everyday for just 1 hour and they would understand but that is never going to happen so all i can do is just try to make them understand but if they dont then i will just give up trying i should have to defend myself and the meds i take to anyone my family should be the one people that would understand.. ty all :) in a better mood now

[Sally939]

I am sorry that does s***. I would not clean the house this weekend. It will still be there next weekend. I would also buy a cake. You can only do so much. Maybe you and the kids could watch a rented movie. I hope you feel better soon.

[systitis]

Just a question from a cranky old lady: why on earth are you stuck with baking, cleaning and child care for 4 kids only one of them yours????? Is everyone around you in a coma? Or haven't you learned the power of "No, I won't." or "I'm sick and in pain and I can't." Sorry if this sounds like ultra-tough love but jeez. ***?

[SharonA]

Any time you want to rant..fill free to do it here. We really do understand all the frustrations that go along with this disease.

Hope you have a better rest of the day. (((Hugs)))

[traceann]

LOL!! YEAH!! I have always said I would LOVE for everyone around me to have to at least deal with it for one day - the ones who really annoy me get to have it a little longer....:evilsmile

Well, glad I made ya giggle!!!!! :smile tee It always reminds me of when you want to rant, you hate to have people hold it against the person you're ranting about because they have their moments too and we need to complain, lol. That's why it's always great around here - you can rant and people will be right behind you to help you feel better and then you can praise them and they'll be right behind you to do that too!! :biglaugh:

[windchaser]

lmao i dont knw what it is but you can make me laugh hehei really need some humor in my life ty so much... :)

[traceann]

Ok systitis, you cracked me up - I laughed so hard my cat got scared and flew off my lap - I have the Paw tracks to prove it, lol!!!!! ;)

[dg2901]

WC---I too have to ask why on earth are you expected to be caring for 4 kids, baking a cake, cleaning the house along with any other things that might be on your "to-do" list????
You're going to have to get a backbone girly and tell everyone to "piss off"!--that when you're feeling better you *might* get back to them, until then you need to be left alone.

Wishing you better days ahead...
D

[VickiB]

I just have to add another Boo, and a Hiss as well!

Know how you feel, "hate having to ask for help" and I'm guessing because of that you probably don't do it too often. Really hurts when those you are there for aren't there for you! -Another boo, hisssss!

I agree,...buy that cake!

Hugs,
Vicki

[windchaser]

well i pushed and pushed and i got everytime done i needed to get done, so im proud of myself,at least i know im strong enough to get through the hard times... :smile tee feel ok today :confused: hope everyone can see the cake I made for my niece yesterday :smile tee i make some pretty good cake with home made whipped cream icing yummmmmm:smile tee ill send pics of the other cakes ive made later hehe:lmao: thank you all for the support and thank you soooo much for the laughs i dont think i would have made it if not for that.....

[ICNDonna]

The cake turned out beautiful. You have a real talent. I'm blad you're feeling better this morning.

Huuuugs,
Donna

[windchaser]

ty very much i never knew i enjoyed doing cakes or could even do it til my sister in-law asked me to do her sons birthday cake ive done 7 cakes so far :)

[Bessie]

Wow, the cakes you made are beautiful. :)

[windchaser]

ty very much i really enjoyed doing them :)

[Bessie]

I was just wondering....how did you make the towers on the castle cake? How long did it take you to make it? You are so talented :) Do you do any other kind of decorating? I love to decorate my house but I am terrible at cakes. Thanks for sharing the pictures of your cakes. :hi:

[traceann]

Those are great!!! You've actually got me itching to get out my cake decorating stuff and wanting to give it a whirl again! I haven't tried in ages...hmmm, maybe since Valentine's day is coming up if I can find some spare "me" time, I'll give it a shot again!!! Thanks for the inspiration!

I'm with Bessie -that castle is phenomenal!!!!! :) Oops, forgot to ask how do you make your whipped cream frosting, that is one of my all-time faves and have not found a recipe I've wanted to try for it??? ;)

[mary124]

Beautiful cakes. Wish I had the talent to make something like these--

[Claredale]

Now Tracey, you are itching to get your cake decorating stuff out.. Come on! LOL! I am so glad that both of my sons (they aren't boys anymore) love cheese cake! I just go to Sams and buy a cheese cake and put on some candles. They don't like cake. I don't know who gave birth to them, since I have been known to eat the cake batter before it made it to the oven!

Oh and Windchaser, when you don't feel good (or even if you do..LOL) just say no! I learned a long time ago after I put up with alot of, oh Tracey will do it, she is always willing to help...When I started dealing with IC to the point it was effecting my life, I learned it it was best for myself to take care of myself. I don't mean to be selfish and it took me a while to realize I wasn't being selfish, it actually turned me into a much more productive person since I don't feel pressured. As for people that don't "get" it (except for hubby) don't waste your time with them. I wasted to much energy trying to make people that I loved and l thought loved me to understand! My husband caught on very quickly that I wanted to be normal and was trying hard to be who I was again. He has been patient for many years and I appreciate him for it!

Hugs, T83

[windchaser]

besy well lol i have to admit those towers are plastic with icing for decoration on them and the windows are also plasitc hehe but everything else i did with my friend but it took us 2 days to do alot of little work I did. :) very fun kinda tedious.tracey yes you are so right but i seem to be the one doing everything like that and no one in my family wants to understand what i am going through i love to do things for the family but sometimes enough is enough and i will have to say to he!! with all of them but I have to grow a backbone to im a big softiey I cant help it :( and Traceann send us pics of that cake :)