I need help making a decision!!

[KristinA512]

I am 22 years old.. Although that may seem to young for what I am thinking about, here it goes. I am dating a guy (we are planning on getting married) and he wants kids. I know that I want kids, also. My problem is, I don't know if I could handle a pregnancy with all of my medical problems. I would love for someone to tell me that everything will be ok with pregnancy and delivery. I have IC, IBS, CFS, Fibro, and Degenerative Disc Disease. My doctors say that besides my bladder being on an angle and the "falling" feeling I experience with my uterus, I should be fine with having children. That is, if I feel that I can make it through. I just want some feedback from some people who are experiencing or have experienced the same thing.

Thanks,
Kristina

[ABliske]

I had IC for over 2 years before I decided to get pregnant. I've had to stay on meds and am still struggling, but the baby seems healthy and I know I'll make it through. I have no choice at this point.:)
I believe that if this is what you truely want then you will be able to do it. I am just happy having 1!! I've always wanted more but I don't know if I could handle going through this again. I went to see a high risk pregnancy specialist before I got pregnant. You could try this and see what meds you can be on etc. I was told that I will have to deliver at a hospital (not a subdivision of it). We have a nice, new maternity place across the street that's a little more luxurious. Of course though, I want the best choice in case there are complications. The main fear is for the baby's breathing and weaning off the meds.
I have been told I may have to have the baby is the NICU for a while. I will be heartbroken, but at least I'll know it may be a possibitily so I can mentally prepare.

[KristinA512]

You have to be a strong person to be going through that! I always ask my boyfriend if I complain too much or if I am a burden.. He tells me that I am strong for having to handle the things that I do and that helps. I know that if it is something that I really want, I can do it. I hope that things get easier for you and that everything ends up perfect for you and your baby!

Good luck and I will be praying for you.
Kristina:pray:

[Berkshire Road]

I had IC before pregnancy, but didn't know it -- I think I had more discomfort than most people, but I handled it. I was going to law school when I had Susannah, and managed to deliver her during spring break -- and finish the semester, too. :) I think being so unbelievably busy during pregnancy helped keep my mind off how uncomfortable it was.

Then it seems like I was in remission for a couple of years after she was born. But everyone's experience is different; it's a decision that only you, your boyfriend, and your doctor should really be involved in.

[Bea]

I am a bad example, but I had two children with IC.. both were on bedrest cause of pregnancy complications I had.. no idea why I had them preterm labor and an incompetent cervix.. I went through both my pregnacy without any of my ic meds, I had enough pregnacy meds to deal with.. after my son I went into remission and after my daughter I didn't.. but I would do it all over again and deal with all to have my beautiful children.. it is a decision you have to make.. now just because I had bad pregnacies doesn't mean you will.. many have wonderful pregnancies.. good luck you

[kjd]

HI Kristina

I feel t he same as you. I am 25 and think in future I would like kids but just dont think I could do it. I suffer with IC, vulvodyina, CFS (ME) and IBS and find that if I am slightly bloated then I can be lying on the floor in agony because of the pressure from my bladder which has been so mad I've had morphine, so how the hell could I handle been pregnant?????
Also the vulvodyina would make a natural birth inpossible considering sex and using a tampon can be painful so pushing a baby out would make me pass out from the pain as I suffer with knife like pain around the vagina area.......so my question is how do people like me have a family?

My doctor told me that he wouldnt recommend it as the pain I would suffer would make my CFS worse as I would be an emotional wreck, but then I think but what if I want a child and will my partner stay with me if I cant have children?!

I have all this thoughts going through my head xx

[tigger_gal]

they also believe I had IC before I had my daughter. I was in the hospital often but for dehydration, form throwing up, and going into labor all the time,
REMEMBER we are all different some go int too remission :)