stress anxiety help?

[windchaser]

i was just wondering if anyone knew any self help thing to do for stress and anxiety, ive been having alot of problems with my boyfriend past 3 years dont know why im still here dealing with it other then our 3 year old son, im still hoping that he will change his attitiude twords me but i really know there is no such luck just dont know what to do anymore and the more it goes on the more pain im in even with dmso and elmiron..
have anxiety attacks,stress, IC, Endo,athsma,IBS,TMJ,carprul tunnel
only taking elmiron and DMSO treatments:cussing::rant::bonk:

[kuntrygurl78]

A word of advice from someone who stayed with someone hoping they would change their boyfriends(done this multiple times unfortunately)

You're wasting your time. People are who they are, and unless they come right up to you and tell you they want to change..they wont. The stress from your relationship could very well be causing your pain. I know that stress is one of my biggest pain triggers.

I hope you feel better:bunny:

[windchaser]

i was waiting to see how long it would take for someone to reply tyvm i know he is my main pain trigger, i just try to make it work cuz of our son he loves his daddy very much, he is just a very selfish person tells me he doesnt care how i feel or whats going on with me , and his parents just tell me to deal with him cuz of my son, but everyone else has told me for years i deserve better and to leave him. I just really need someone to talk to, im so confused I do love him but he obviously doesnt love me like i do him obviously.

[kuntrygurl78]

I understand where you are coming from. Ive heard it from friends before.

But I always tell them this:

I was that kid whos parents stayed together for me and my brother and sister. Im the oldest. I was 15 when they finally divorced. When I say finally, I mean, I was so glad and not surprised. See, my dad treated my mom like crap. They fought constantly! I hated it. I would cry myself to sleep wondering when they would finally divorce. I was aware of this at a very young age. Maybe too young.

I hated that I didnt grow up in a house where my parents actually had something in common and loved each other. My mom remarried in like a year after the divorce. Many people thought it was too soon. I didnt. I kept telling everyone that it was the first time in my life that I saw my mom happy. Seeing my parents happy separately was better than seeing them miserable together. Today both of my parents are in wonderful marriages, and Im happy for them.

I agree with your friends in that you deserve the best. Everyone deserves to go out and find their soulmate. I just married mine in September. I hope that you can find the happiness that I have found.:pray:

[leelee88]

I know it is so hard to have this Disease, and to have to deal with someone that is not supportive has to even be so much harder. You do deserve so much more. But only you can make that decision.
As far as your treatments with IC there are so many more out there. If the DMSO is not working I would ask the Dr about other meds..
Good luck and I hope everything works out.

[SharonA]

Since you said that you need someone to talk to, have you thought about going to a theripist or counselor? You may find that very helpful. They are trained to listen and help guide you to find your answers. I have done this in the past and it helped me tremendously when I was trying to work through a difficult situation. I went to a County Mental Health Center and I was not charged.

(((Hugs)))

[windchaser]

my problem is is that i know if i leave his father and his faters family would not make the time to see him and i know that it would hurt my son to not see his dad and grandparents and his grandparents tell me that that would be my fault cuz i left.. :(

[sickofmybladder]

Windchaser-
My ex and my daughter's father was full of reasons why I should stay with him - and I had alot of the same worries you do now - - I will tell you that we are BOTH are absolutely better off that I DIDN'T stay with him. I think the counselor is a great idea - it will help you build your self esteem and get you on a path towards a happier life.