anxiety

[kellymh]

I'm having a terrible day. My daughter left back for college yesterday. I am very worried about her. Her roommate quit college, and her boyfriend graduated so this is the first time she is absolutely alone, 4 hours away. I know this is good for her but I am a terrible worrier. Today is her birthday and this is the first time in 20 years that I have not been with her on her birthday. I hate having anxiety, it seems to come with this terrible disease. It puts our nervous system in overdrive and than normal little things bother me way more than other people. On top of it all I have been getting crank phone calls from a mentally retarded kid in our town. Freeky! Sometimes life sucks. I know our kids have to leave and live their own life, but it is very hard. I know I have empty nest syndrome, I finally get it under control and something else big happens and its back. I feel so empty when she leaves. Anyone got any coping skills about when kids leave home.

Kelly

[GriffsMommy]

My kids aren't old enough to leave home yet so I don't have any advice there. If you're having anxiety have you asked your dr for an anti-anxiety med? My dr thinks my pain is causing me anxiety which is making the pain worse so he put me on an anti-anxiety med to try to help. I've only been on it a couple of days so I think it's a little bit early to say if it's working but I'm hopefull.

[aprilmae]

I am going to respond from the point of view of the child! When I was 20, my family was transferred and I chose to stay in the state I was living in at the time. My best friend had just graduated and moved away and I was on my own for the first time. It was scary at first since the biggest members of my support system were gone but looking back it was such fun! I learned who I was and what I wanted out of life. I learned that while friends are great I can take care of myself and be okay. I made friends during that time because I was forced to get out and meet other people. This was 8 years ago and I am so grateful I chose to stick it out! Not only did I grow as a person, but I had great life experiences. My parents tell me it was a very hard time and they always let me know they were a phone call away and would come get me if I ever decided I couldn't handle it. Just knowing that gave me the strength to hang in there.

I am sorry you are having a hard time. I can only imagine and will admit that when I do have children I do not look forward to having to let them go.

Big Hugs,

April

[leelee88]

Kelly,
My heart goes out to you! I know this must be hard on you..
But she will be ok and this will even make her stronger..Even though my kids are a handful, I do not look forward to the day they leave home..
Hang in there..((((hugs))))

And about the prank phone calls. This could be regular kids being mean acting retarded. I know that is sad, but we had some of my kids mean friends doing that.. I called their parents and told them that was a VERY cruel joke to make fun of the mentally challenged..