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tigger_gal
10-18-2007, 02:50 AM
I was sitting here the other night thinking we all have our breaking pont. Whether t be at home or on the boards. When you have reached that pont you need to bite your tongue and just walk away.
Building lies on top of lies will eventually get you in the end and can become quite costly.

Its truly amazing that some one can be sweet as pie to your face, and then be a vindictiveness, back stabbing, conniving person. The stress and emotional pain you are put thru makes you wonder if it s worth it. Of course it is for my kids. However, all the complaining that goes with it from anybody else is the real issue.

I have nearly bit my tongue clean off during all this. My patience are thin, even tho everyone tells me they wouldn't have my life for nothing. Nor do they know how I do it. My dad tells me I have the patience of St Jude. (or Judis, don't know, I don't go to church)

I am forced to allow the bio mother to attend dr appointments. That s not right. They do not have there children for a reason. Anywho, it ended up, with the baby gong for her 2 month check up, she has exezma and has to have special soap and lotion. She had an eyelash in her eye. She went and told my mom the dr said that she had a hair n her eye that caused an infection (not) and that I don't keep her clean. Why is one forced to take the bio, when they are gong to come out and twist what was said to fit there own needs.

On the up side, I have 2 great kids, jake is very high functioning he will be getting tested soon at the school district. He dose have some mental health issues, and I need to learn how to help him when he is at home.

I had my own concerns about taking the new one on and they have over exceeded the pain I thought I was gong to endure. I sometimes wish I said no. They took the termination off the table before if got transfered to the other county, but the case worker s gong to ask for t to be put back on. The final call will be the judges. only one can hope they would do the right thing for the child.

anywho... the point is, if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.

BBB
10-18-2007, 04:21 AM
Wow, sorry you had to go through something like that! But...your post was very well put. You have taken a higher road in life and should be proud.

tigger_gal
10-18-2007, 04:33 AM
thanks bbb, gong thru ths with jake made it look lt a trip to disney land.. Ths time around is a disaster watng to happen.

hdb1982
10-18-2007, 04:40 AM
I'm sorry, I don't know the whole story. What are they trying to terminate?

dancemomof2
10-18-2007, 05:18 AM
I know this is all hard, it has been a long road. All the other nonsense I totally understand also. Sending big hugs:hi:

SharonA
10-18-2007, 05:25 AM
Tig...I am so sorry you are going through this. No, it's not right that she should be out wagging her tongue and filling her mouth with lies. I hope you are keeping a written account of everything she is saying and doing. Try to get your mother to write what this person said to her. Also, get a copy of the doctor's notes about the appointment and his diagnosis.

You are so courageous and good to go through all this heartache for those kids. I admire you. (((Hugs)))

leelee88
10-18-2007, 05:39 AM
Tig, You know I am right here behind you.. I just wish I was there to give you the well deserved support you need. I have really been praying alot for your family and for the Judge to make the right decision. I cannot say I know how you feel, but I can only imagine. You are one of the most caring and giving people I have ever known. I am just keeping my fingers crossed and praying for the best..((((((((((hugs))))))))))

Luv ya girly

mary124
10-18-2007, 06:06 AM
You know that we are all behind you. You need to make sure that if you need to that you can get copies of the doctors notes if it comes down to it. Hopefully, it won't. I don't know what goes through some peoples minds. Why does she have to go with you to these appointments? Is it court ordered?
I will keep you in my prayers. You are really strong to put up with all of this.

hdb1982
10-18-2007, 07:37 AM
According to what my dr told me, HIPPA requirs that, if asked for, they most supply you with a copy of the visit notes without charge. I keep all of our from every visti. You never know when you may need them

tigger_gal
10-18-2007, 11:28 AM
Thank you girls.. Mary, at a TDM I was told she was able to go with me. I just found out that she s able to attend, but I do not have to take her.. and I will not because I don't want her to have any chance to say that I said or did anything. Hopefully all will go well for the prelim hearing next week. I will not attend them this round.

Babs RN
10-18-2007, 11:40 AM
Cindy,
You know I am always here for you too. What is up with those courts in MI? Good gravy! You have been a real trooper through this whole thing and in the end goodness always prevails and you are one special Mama. I hope this is all resolved so quickly.

Hugs,
Barb