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RunningAmok
09-24-2007, 02:31 PM
I don't know, couldn't think of a more creative subject title :)

Between bouts of unrelenting pain, having to pee like a racehorse, and just plain being depressed, I have to deal with making sure my medical records get to the disability people to ensure that I will still have my job when I'm able to go back. Which with all the things I have heard about, I still wonder if that will be happening, at least in the same capacity as it was before. Which makes me even more depressed.

I cried today like I haven't cried in a very long time. I can't take anti-depressants because they made me manic. Those are long gone thank goodness. ;)

I have a friend that hasn't wanted to talk to me much because, admittedly, I sound depressed in my emails (that's how we mostly talk) and THAT depressed me even more. Of course, when he was here (he's in MN, I'm in IL), and I asked him to PLEASE leave the toilet lid up (this was back in May before I went to the doctor for any of this), he said he was taught to put the lid down. Regardless of me trying to explain, and him even making a comment that I'd "whizzed five times in the last hour already", he refused to leave it up (you know, those few seconds it takes to lift the lid up can make all the difference between peeing in your pants or not!). Finally talked with him yesterday, and told him what I had, though I still don't think he gets it fully. But he said yeah, now he'll leave the lid up next time we see each other since there's a reason :cussing: Like me almost wetting my pants and peeing every ten minutes wasn't enough of one?? Grrr... I kinda feel like that upset me even more, like I had to justify my reasoning before he'd agree to not put the lid down!

I feel guilty because my mom is no spring chicken, and she's pretty much been taking care of me. She's 70 herself, with a laundry list of her own problems. But she still drives me wherever I need to go (since I can't drive). I'm pretty much the money-earner, but I'm not getting nearly as much on short-term disability as I was when working regularly. Some days I don't even want to get up and eat (bad enough I have to get up to pee, lol). Also, I have school, which at this point I'm VERY thankful it's online only, but I still have to take at least one class per term, and when you're in pain and on pain killers, sometimes concentrating enough to do all the homework is impossible (even just the one class).

Of course, to add to that, my asthma's acting up because of my allergies and I'm sure from the stress too. I take Benadryl for the most part for the allergies, but even then sometimes I get some bad attacks. I've been lucky the last few days I've not needed my inhaler, yay! Hopefully that at least will be ending soon once the allergies stop. It's year round asthma, but ALWAYS worse in the late summer/early autumn.

And now, my eyes hurt from crying all morning and early afternoon. I think I went through at least half a box of tissues. I just seriously want to curl up in a ball and hide under my bed for the rest of my life sometimes.

Ok, pity-party over. I just really needed to get that out. Sorry to whomever reads this for it being so long lol.

ICNDonna
09-24-2007, 02:52 PM
I hope you're seeing a counselor. If not, I think it would be a good idea.

Sending warm well wishes,
Donna

GriffsMommy
09-24-2007, 03:08 PM
((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))) I'm so sorry you're having such a rough time. Don't worry about the venting, we all do it and it really does make you feel at least a little bit better. I hope you start to feel better soon and find a treatment that works for you.

It is hard when friends don't understand but when someone is so healthy sometimes it's hard for them to comprehend what it's like to be sick all the time. It sucks that they don't show more compassion though. I have very few friends these days other than my IC friends because it's hard to explain over and over again why I don't go out much but it's hard enough to make it through the week at work and the stuff at home. :grouphug:

RunningAmok
09-24-2007, 03:40 PM
Donna - not a counselor per se, but I do see a psych (who kinda serves as a counselor too; he doesn't just prescribe the meds). He works with my neuro since so much of it seems related to my epilepsy and epilepsy meds. I only see him about once a month though, as he is VERY expensive, lol. Thank you though for the hugs :)

GriffsMommy - My friend is fairly healthy, short of his allergies. But he hasn't been to a doctor in years; hasn't felt the need to. It's interesting how you mention that; seems to put that into perspective for me. He's the only friend I have that doesn't have anything wrong with them to the point they see a doctor (of one sort or another) at least once a year. I guess anyone like that wouldn't really understand. Never really thought about that. Then again, I've not told that many people yet, except my closest friends.

I'm a bit better now. Craving food that's probably horrible for me, but better. It's just been an incredibly stressful day. Tomorrow I see the doctor to discuss treatment options and possibly (probably?) a uro-gyn referal. Yay, more doctors, lol.

kellymh
09-26-2007, 01:45 AM
So sorry your feeling that way. I know how you feel. I can't take anti-depressants either, they make my anxiety out of control. Sometimes you just have to vent, this is a great place to do it because everyone understands. Everyday I read this before going to work, it somehow helps me get through the day knowing I am not alone. I am in the process of finding a good therapist. Donna maybe had a great suggestion. HOPE TODAY IS BETTER!

Kelly

SharonA
09-26-2007, 05:08 AM
(((Hugs)))