Updated on Dad

[GriffsMommy]

So many of you were there for me when I was going through the problems with my dad. I wanted to post to let you know my parents came to visit for the first time since all the money stuff.

The credit cards have all been paid off and though I had an incident where my dad downloaded all my past statements online because he lied to me to get my online log in info we seem to be past it.

They wanted to come to see Griffin as they hadn't seen him since his birthday party at the beginning of August. I told my mom that I would not spend the whole time discussing my finances with my dad because it would stress me out and make me flare. She said she told him and we actually had an okay visit.

They got here earlier than normal so I wasn't showered or anything but my dad came with a present for Griffin that he bought him himself. I know this is what grandparents do but my dad has never bought Griffin a present himself in the three years he has been alive. He was at some kind of hardware store and saw a toy chain saw on the counter and got it for him. This thing is so funny and Griffin was walking around pretending to cut up all of the furniture in the house.

For my dad he was actually really nice and didn't say anything mean at all. I was very pleasantly surprised. I hope he stays in this more pleasant mood as I can't stand it when he comes here and he's all grumpy.

Thanks for all the support during the time when I was really upset with him. I don't know what I would have done without you guys to vent to.

[ICNJess]

Christine, that must be a huge weight off your shoulders! I am so glad for you that things worked out! That is great that your dad is being so good and nice and everything. I hope it sticks!! :)

[dancemomof2]

Glad things are better'

[Sally939]

I am glad your dad was in a good mood. I hope you all had a great visit. Try to focus on the fun times with him and remember them when his evil twin shows up.

[Berkshire Road]

Right, the "Evil Twin." I have to remember that when dealing with my mother!

Christine, it's just great that the credit card debt is lifted off of you. That's one really big worry that you can forget about. I'm sorry you had to go through so much stress about it. I really hope things get easier for you.

[leelee88]

Christine, So glad you had a good visit...

He reminds me so much of the way my sister acts.. I know you were thankful for this time him being nice, but don't expect everytime, but i know you know that..((((hugs)))))

[GriffsMommy]

Thanks everyone. Yes Ronda, I know better than to expect anything from him. I was pleasantly surprised by how nice he was at his visit but I fully realize the next time I could see him he could be totally moody and mean again. There seems to be no pattern to his moods I'm just happy that his visit didn't cause more stress.

[Bessie]

So happy for you all that everything went well and you all had a nice visit :smile tee

[Jenny76]

For what it's worth and I don't know your situation but try to enjoy all of the time that you have with your dad. I had a very strained relationship with my dad for a few years and unfortunately lost out on a lot of time with him. We were able to mend our relationship right after my son was born in 1997 and my dad passed away from cancer in January 1999. How upset I was to have missed out on so much with him. No matter what we had been through he was still my dad and I loved him very much. I'm glad to hear that things are improving!!!!

[mimimama]

C,

i am very glad to hear this! There is hope after all..:woohoo:

[GriffsMommy]

Aww, thanks Maria. I know you have had problems with your own dad. I hope you see some improvement with him as well. I have just learned to take it as it comes with him and not to expect too much as things will never be perfect with us.

[tigger_gal]

I am so glad that you all had a great visit. sorry I am late in posting.. these days i am late in everything. I have missed so much.

[GriffsMommy]

Don't feel bad Cindy. I talked to you on the phone about it before I ever posted it here. We know why you are so busy. I still don't know how you manage to take care of a toddler and an infant. The toddler over here wears me out without throwing an infant into the picture.

[tigger_gal]

yea I must say I am exhausted by the time evening hits. Once everything gets established with Stephanie, I may consider a day care a couple days a week.

[GriffsMommy]

Daycare a couple of days a week would be great if you could work that out. I'm sure you could use the much deserved break.

[tigger_gal]

ya think? lol

[mary124]

Also late in posting, but thats ok- glad things worked out for you; and that you all had a nice visit.

[verdicries]

christine...
i am soooooooo glad the visit went well. did you take pix of l'il griffin and his chainsaw?? you must post them online :). i'm hoping future family visits will go as smoothly. :smile tee

i'm also glad your cc debts are paid (wanna pay ours lol??). money really tears ppl apart...even the closest friends/family. it sucks!

i'm sorry i'm late in replying. haven't been around much but i think of you (and everyone on the board) all the time!!

tracy

[GriffsMommy]

Awww thanks Tracy. No I didn't take any pictures but my dad took tons of video. I'll have to take some pictures of him with it. I was having some knee pain in addition to my normal problems that day so I didn't do much other than sit around with everyone.
I think about you alot and hope you're feeling better. Give me a ring when you feel up to it.

[stacey79]

Another late post here, but I'm glad to hear that things went well with your dad. I know you've had some struggles with him. Hopefully things will continue to go well for you guys!