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Mel53H
08-31-2007, 01:54 PM
My daughter is getting married next week on 8th of Sept. She just recently found out she is pregnant as well. We are all very happy about it too.

Well, I just found out that my father in law has liver cancer. He is in the hospital right now geting his liver drained from all of the toxins. He does not have much more time on this earth. The years of daily beer and scotch drinking has taken it's toll.

My 54 year old husband has been in a nursing home for about 5 years and I don't know how or when I am going to tell him about his dad. Should I wait until after the wedding or should I tell him right away? I have no idea how he is going to react to all of this. The last time I visited I did all the talking and he did not react whatsoever towards me. He was just interested on getting to the dining room to eat. Sometimes, I can go there and he talks up a blue streak and then other times he says nothing. Sometimes, he does not want to get out of bed to visit. So, I have no idea how to go about all of this. I guess I will have to play it by ear.

Just too much going on.

turnaround
08-31-2007, 02:58 PM
Hey Mel,
Sorry to hear about your father-in-law. Especially with the wedding going on. Why is your husband in a nursing home. Will he understand if you tell him.
This is just me, but I would wait until after the wedding so that your daughter can have the happiest day possible.and you, too.

Hope all goes well and congratulations on the wedding and the baby!!!

Mel53H
08-31-2007, 03:21 PM
My husband is in the nursing home because of strokes caused by his diabetes. I think he will understand, but I just don't know how he will react.

leelee88
08-31-2007, 06:23 PM
So sorry Mel that you are going through all this.(((((hugs)))))

ICNDonna
08-31-2007, 06:27 PM
My tendency would be to wait until after the wedding. It's only a few days away and you and your daughter deserve to have a beautiful day. I know you'll make the right decision for both of you. I wish I could help.

Sending warm hugs,
Donna

SharonA
09-01-2007, 05:41 AM
(((Hugs))) and congratulations on the grand baby.

GriffsMommy
09-01-2007, 06:56 AM
Wow, you really do have a lot going on at the moment. If you think he may react badly then it may be better to wait until after the wedding so you and your daughter can enjoy the day. Congrats on her being pregnant as well. My hubby and I found out we were pregnant right after we got back from our honeymoom (we were trying to get pregnant before hand because of my endo the dr's didn't want to waste time) and we now have our adorable Griffin. :smile tee