Surgery is over

[SandyRN]

They started an hour late and the surgery lasted over an hour longer than he said....it was about 3 hours long. By this time I was sweating and freaking out...finally the doc comes out and tells me that because he has so many surgical scars on his abdomen he couldn't decide where to go in. This is an umbilical hernia basically, caused from last years bowel resection and the muscle never closed back up all the way. Anyway, the doctor took a different route inside and nicked his gall bladder. This, apparently, was a blessing in disguise because he had a BUNCH of gall stones. We knew he had stones, but there were so many now that the surgeon said he'd have had to have surgery in 6 months or less to take it out and then they would have had to move the mesh that they used to repair the hernia.

So, he expects to keep him 3-4 nights now that this has turned into a bigger surgery than anticipated and he said the hernia was even bigger then he originally thought.

I feel a little guilty complaining about him knowing how much pain he's gonna be in when he wakes up.

I'm exhausted. I came home to let the dogs out, change my sweaty clothes and get some dinner in me and my doggies. I haven't seen Tom yet, he was still in recovery when I left and when I get back they should have him in the room.

I gotta say one great thing is the hospital gift shop had tons of REAL cute stuff 75% off and I came home with a bag of stuff. I'm dangerous when I'm nervous...a little retail therapy never hurt anyone! LOL

So, that's my day and it aint over yet. Honestly, I do love the guy very much...I just want him to stop being so moody and stop snoring so dang loud every night. At least I will get several good night's of sleep so that when he comes home I won't be dead on my feet!

Thanks so much for all the support...I really appreciate it!

SAndy

[Babs RN]

Sandy,
Get some rest and hang in there. Call me when you need to, ok no matter what time it is.

Hugs,
Barb:)

[leelee88]

So glad everything went well.... Keeping you both in my thoughts and prayers....

[SandyRN]

Sandy,
Get some rest and hang in there. Call me when you need to, ok no matter what time it is.

Hugs,
Barb:)

I will. I'm beat right now and am gonna go grab some food and sit with my feet up for a few minutes. I'm kind of anxious to get back there so when he wakes up a little more he knows I'm there.

Thanks for the prayers Ronda, we need them. I'm worried this is going to turn into a big mess like last year's surgery did. A little knowledge on my part is a BAD, BAD thing!

[mary124]

My Prayers are with you and your husband's. Take care of yourself.

[dancemomof2]

Take care of Sandy and get some rest.

[GriffsMommy]

Sandy, I'm glad that it's over and all is okay. Don't forget to get some rest so you don't kill yourself when he comes home. :grouphug:

[Charisse]

I love shopping therapy! I'm glad he came out of surgery all good. Rest up as much as possible before:smile tee he comes home. Nothing is more exhausting than hospitalization and caring for a loved one in pain I know. Hang in there

[hdb1982]

:grouphug: :pray:

[dancemomof2]

Remember Sandy you call me day or night with anything you need to talk about. I am always home. Get some rest please and take care of you so you can take care of Tom when he comes home.

[humpieumpumkin]

I'm glad it went well Sandy. Hopefully your husband will make a quick recovery! Keep us posted!

Erika:hi:

[ICNDonna]

:::::whew:::::

Breathing a sigh of relief!
Donna

[SandyRN]

I slept from 11 oclock last night til 8:30 this morning without waking up and I slept in the bed the entire night, with two dogs. Woke up with my aussie licking my nose....what better alarm clock could I have? :) I'm showered and dressed. about to put on my makeup and hit the road to Starbucks. The heck with the IC diet this morning, I NEED REAL COFFEE. (and some prelief!) Tom hasn't called me and I don't know if that's good or bad. I know that they probably got him out of bed this morning to at least walk his room and change gowns. You guys need to be proud of me that I didn't feel the need to be there this morning for his a.m. care and to watch over the nurses. I figure, this time anyway, they're getting paid to take care of him, I was worn OUT and had to have some rest and I get to spend the next several weeks of his recovery with him. So...be proud of me! :)

[humpieumpumkin]

GOOD FOR YOU!!!!:woohoo:

I bet you feel like a million bucks now that you slept through the night! Try the toffe nut latte, its my favorite!:tsk: I hope the day goes well and Tom feels beter soon!

Erika:hi:

[GriffsMommy]

I'm so glad you got some rest Sandy. When I had Griffin, I was in labor for so long Shane (hubby) left me at the hospital with my mom since it was taking forever and went home and went to sleep. He needed to get some rest so he could be there for when I really needed him. He's an insomniac and had been up till like 5am that morning and I woke him up at 8am to tell him my water broke. Needless to day he needed to get some sleep. I hope Tom is feeling okay and that he has a speedy recovery.

[dancemomof2]

Glad you got some well needed rest in that bed LOL. I think you needed it and your right letting the nurses take care of the morning stuff.

[callie0767]

sandy,
i am glad toms surgery went well even if there were a few complications. i hope you get some rest too.take care.
courtenay

[SandyRN]

Oh boy am I worn out again. I am just not used to being up and about and outside of my little world here at home this much. I got to the hospital about 11 and couldn't believe my eyes. Tom was up and sitting in the chair, pretty much naked from the waist down with two pretty nurses hanging over him changing his dressing! :lmao: I laughed and asked him if I should come back later. I didn't know it but he's got a drain inside his incision, and I got to see it too...he's got a big incision plus those poke marks (dontcha love my medical jargon) where they used the laproscope too.

They took his catheter out, he's taking oral pain meds, eating a regular diet and is walking the halls, slowly, but he's doing it. He's not superman or anything but after the last surgery I expected the worst and found the best. His drain does leak and I panicked earlier when he went to the bathroom and there was a puddle of blood all over the bathroom floor. I wasn't sure at the time if it was the drain or his incision, but now I know it was the drain and I know to expect it. Some nurse I am...it's SO different when it's your family.

So, I'm home for the night and I stopped and bought myself a steak that I am too tired to cook. I think my side of the bed is going to get some major use again tonight!

The doctor said he probably wouldn't come home til Monday. I don't know if I'm going to be totally exhausted when he comes home or rested. If I keep spending my days up there I'm going to be exhausted. It's a LOT of walking and my legs are killing me and so is my bladder...can't stop peeing either. I've gone at least 20 times today....not good when I have to drive!

I need pain pills and a hot bath!!!

[callie0767]

don't forget to take care of yourself too sandy! glad the surgery went well.take care

[dancemomof2]

Sorry I missed your call Sandy. I went to pay bills and the dogs must have turned the machine off, they are good at that trick. Get some rest and girly magazines and have a Sandy night.

[SandyRN]

I just took a nice long bath with my new best friend Stephen King! LOL I got a new book yesterday in the mail from my second best favorite website Frugalreader.com (you GOTTA check this site out!!!) Figured I'd pop on here for a minute, let the dogs out then go hop in the sack with my pal Mr. King. He gives me nightmares....probably will hear things all night long since I'm here alone!

Leslie, I forgive ya for going out when I called, but next time you better be home! LOL :)

[Trishann]

Hi Sandy, glad Tom is doing good. Hopefully he will be able to get around more by the time he gets to come home. I know the hospital trips can be very exhausting, so I hope you sleep well tonight. :pray:

[humpieumpumkin]

I"m glad your husband is recovering. I would be scared too if I was my husbands blood all over the floor. I'm glad your taking care of yourself too! Keep us posted!

Erika:hi:

[SandyRN]

I'm taking it slow today. I'm getting ready to go up there shortly but I'm not killing myself to get there. He'll still be there, in that bed waiting on me!!! I talked to him on the phone a little while ago and he's fine, so he can just be fine a little longer without me. I can't keep on pushing myself or I'm not going to be any good to him or me when he gets home.

I'll be so glad when all this is over. I think my legs and bladder are ready to pull a mutiny!

[GriffsMommy]

Glad he's still doing well Sandy. At least you're realizing your limits and trying to take it slow so you don't over do it. Can't take care of anyone else if you don't take care of yourself first.

[leelee88]

Sandy,
Glad to hear hes doing good. And remb now hes in good hands.. You need to take it easy while he is in such good care, because he will be needing you more when he gets home.. So quit be super Woman and rest!!! He understands...:angel:

[SandyRN]

After what happened tonight I'm afraid NOT to be there. I was just getting ready to leave early and come home and have an early dinner, feed my dogs, take a nice long, early bath, hit the sack and then his vitals crashed (see Barb's prayer request). Nothing comes easy in the world of Sandy it seems. I feel bad saying that because I'm not the one laying in that bed. It just hurts my body SO much to be up and about that I'm going to have to reserve a bed there myself and I'm NOT even kidding. I hurt SO much right now, ALL over. Why can't things go the way they are supposed to go, for just ONCE?????? NOT just for my sake but for everyone I care about too???

[leelee88]

I know Sandy.. Sorry I posted that before all the complications :(

[SandyRN]

I know Sandy.. Sorry I posted that before all the complications :(

I know...nobody had any idea this was going to happen. I know I've got to take care of myself somehow in the middle of all of this. I really think that will be easier when he comes home...God, at least I hope it will be! I'm off to the bathtub to take some meds and have a good hot soak.

[dancemomof2]

OH wow I had no clue until I got home and got Barbs message. Sending hugs hugs and prayers to both of you.