so tired of family

[charmedx3]

i am no longer dealing with my parents and siblings. my mother is possibly toxic. she has always stired up stuff in family between her children. i really tried to help my parents, my dad has alzheimers. i feel guilty but i can't do it anymore. i have 2 siblings that live within 2-3 mins. from her house but i am the one that does everything i live 20 mins away from her in another town! because of her my younger brother no longer talks to me. his wife was my close friend i was there for her thru 2 prepnancies. my mom told me my sister in law was pregnant the beginning of aug. my younger sister called me this morning to tell me my mom called her to let her know the baby arrived. i called my mom asked how she & my dad were-she sounded great happy! her voice changes and you can tell she was telling me something she didn't want to! so she says denise had the baby. my mom was always either threatening to leave us when younger or left and tried to kill herself several times=== pills or starvation.
i am going in to take a nap i am working tonight 430pm-430am. inventory and i have to get my dept ready to move due to remodel going on at my job. can i please have more stress?
oh and i am spotting! (hysterectomy 11-04 removal of cervix 7-07) I think it is from my urethra but what the hell do I know!!!!
sorry just a really bad day. need to vent! time to nap!

[GriffsMommy]

((((((((((((Mary))))))))))))))) I'm so sorry you're having such a rough time. Sometimes family really can be toxic as you said. You have to do what is best for yourself and your family. I hope that your shift at work goes fast and you can get some rest afterwards. :grouphug:

[tigger_gal]

((((((((((((Mary))))))))))))) I know what you mean about toxic family members. I sure wish I knew what to do for you and I and everyone else in this world that has to deal with ungrateful family members.

[charmedx3]

thanks! I took a short nap. I have been in pain today. I am going to work in a few minutes. I think i will work 5 to 5. I get a lot of stress from inventory as it is then to add on top of it!! i will check in on you all in morning!
I just don't understand a mother that can cause trouble between her kids! I just want my kids to get a long!! ( 8,10,19 normal stuff)

[ICNJess]

If there is one thing I have learned, it is that some people only carry the label "mother" because they gave birth...but that's not what makes a mother. Mothers are loving, caring, and do not want to hurt their children. Rid yourself of these toxic influences as much as possible...you'll be surprised at how different your world becomes when you don't have to deal with their crap!

Your mother sounds controlling and like she needs to be the center of attention (suicide attempts, threatening to leave) and by pitting your siblings against you, she's controlling everything by knowing what's going on when and what's happening and why it happened. My grandmother is the same way, she turned my father and his brothers against one another for sooo many years (my dad has 3 brothers) and finally, when they were grown men and in their 40's-50's, they began to talk and realize what the contributing factor truly was...

I don't know why some women try to go out of their way to hurt their children and I'll probably never understand it, but something is wrong upstairs and with everything you have going on health wise, work wise, family wise, heck just life wise, you shouldn't have to deal with her junk.

Maybe you can talk to your brother and find out why things are strained. GRRR family is such a pain...

[charmedx3]

Thank you all! I got home this morning at 7! my brain is numb!
I have tried talking to my brother funny thing is he bekieves my mom. he of all people should know better! my mom told everyone their 1st child wasn't his and was just awful to his wife! I think it was just really hard because of how she told me her voice changed. plus i know she uses me for everything to do with errands/shopping/drama whatever . but my brothers are the fianancial wizzards so she has secret meetings with them-- did i mention my brother got $30,000 out of her!

i sent my sister-in-law flowers i won't hear from them half expected my brother to toss them.

[charmedx3]

ps i am done. my brothers can do everything for them he lives about 2-3 minutes from them and that is with traffic!!