RE: Needed to vent

[sandymarie]

An inlaw or outlaw, whichever you choose to use will be fine. Married to my daughter this person works only when he feels the urge which is not much nor very often. Wife and children and outlaw lives next door in a metal building, built like an apartment and therefore the disabled mom and dad will take care of the wife and two baby girls if I don't work. Disabled mom and dad go to the grocery and mom who has ic feels like crap anyhow, but to see that her grandbabies have food spend everything they have on groceries. Three week pass and the little ------- Fill in the blank has not been paid in two weeks and there is nothing to eat at home so as the mother of two babies ask if they can have the cheese, meat, bread, and everything but the kitchen sink b/c he won't work. After all the food is gone and the ic mom and disabled dad are almost crazy. The little man and I do mean the little man goes to work for a week and gets a full weeks pay, walks over and says we have to live seperate. It is just too hard for two households to run on one income. Let's just call it even and keep everything seperate. from now on. We need to each family depend on its own income. The little man has torn up every car we ever gave my daughter, eats them out of house and home. They have no clothes washer or dryer but his clothes get washed. He had no car, so he had to use hers, leaving her with no way to go to the doc. or anything. No telephone, Gets paid on Friday and on sunday has no money. And might I add after he has used everything up at my house, he decides he is going to be a man and take over the bills and give her a little rest. If this makes no sense it is b/c I really want to beat the :evilsmile out of him and run him off of my land. What is wrong with this picture. I let the little _____
run me over. I need prayer. I am ready to hurt him really bad or worse give him ic if I could. There, I know who the stupid one here is. Yours truly
Thanks for reading this, I wanted to:cussing: :cussing: him out, .


Ok I am better now. sorry for the long post. I do love you ladies.

JJ:smile tee :smile tee

Jess you gave me the strength to write this post, cause you have such a great MIL. .LOL:smile tee

[ICNJess]

LOL Well JJ, you haven't heard the latest with my MIL, but that's a story for another thread :)

Seriously though, your daughter needs to leave this loser! I know it's easier said than done soo your daughter should look into some kind of assistance from your county. If her children are under 5 she can get on WIC and they will give her vouchers for cheese, milk, eggs, juice, and some other groceries. With limited income like that I imagine they can get some food stamps too most likely.

GRR! I am so sick of hearing of men like this. My best friend is married to one...

[sandymarie]

Thank you for understanding. I love my kids so much and I will continue to get along with her husband for her sake as long as She needs me. My grandbabies are the most precious things in the world to us. She is so beat down, she has lost her whole identity trying to make her marriage work. It does break my heart to see her having to be so intimidated by anyone. I have to keep my mouth shut b/c I don't want to hurt her any more than she already is. I could not have possible told her what I said in the post. I do wish she would go to counseling. She is hurting and when she hurts I hurt. I would every last of scrape I have to make her happy and to help her raise her babies. I think I blame myself a lot of the time wishing I would not have been sick when she was growing up. Now she feels trapped b/c she has symptoms of ic. I do pray that she don't although the uro says she is just like me with the bladder, just not as bad. I just want this SIL to be good to her and grow up. In 6 years he has not improved in fact gotten worse. I just thank God she lives beside me. They have been evicted from every place they ever lived due to him not working. O well I just felt like I made it sound like she was bothering me and she will never be a burden to me and I would not have her hurt for anything. She says she is so afraid of being alone. If she only knew that it is easier to be alone without him than being alone with him.

Thanks again for listening. Anyone who takes the time to read this . Please pray for her.

JJ:pray:

[ICNJess]

Well as long as she knows she can count on you, maybe some day she will have the courage and strength to leave him...

I am sorry she has IC. That really does make things more complicated. :(

Since you and your husband are pretty much supporting your daughter and her babies and your daughter is afraid of being alone, maybe you could open your home to her and her babies if she ends up leaving him. Maybe that will take some of the burden off of her to leave him--if she wants out.

[sandymarie]

The place where she lives is next to us. We let them move in so she would be close to us with the babies. She doesn't have to pay anything to live except her light bill. We have told she could move in with us in our house or stay in the house next door which is not completely finished. By that I mean just needs petioning off in rooms, etc. She walks over and does her dishes. We even offered to let her have our house and us live out there. She just is not ready to let go yet. They have been there a year and he hasn't even hooked up the water and the power is still in our names. She would really be better of. She wouldn't have any bills. He just won't hold a steady job .

JJ

[ICNJess]

That's so sad. I hope she can come to the conclusion on her own that this guy is just no good...

[Claredale]

I sure hope that your daughter can get her confidence back especially for her daughter's sake. I am glad that you are so close and there for her!