Help

[jah]

My dad is dying and is in his final days...I have been crying non-stop and my bladder is flaring. I don't know what to do. It is a Friday so I can't even call a doctor. Does anyone have any emergency home remedies?

[mom_in_ma]

I'm so so sorry.

Let's see, tums, diet, heating pad, some do the baking soda trick, calling a doc on call for meds if needed. Those are things that I would do. We lost my mother-in-law to pancreatic cancer this past spring and it was one of the most difficult things I've ever gone through. It put me into a flare as well.

Take care of yourself.

[Roxie2007]

Hi Jah,
Oh gosh.... I don't know what to say. I'm really sorry for all you're going through......plus the whole bladder flare. Have you tried Azo? It's over the counter and helps calm the bladder down. It's a bladder anesthesia.
I know how difficult it was when my mother passed away 5 yrs ago.....it seems like yesterday.
Take care......You are in my thoughts.........

[jah]

Thank you for your replies. The heating pad is helping a bit--I had forgotten about that. I am taking pyridium and darvocet. I really don't understand the physiology and psychology of this disease. I do know that there is definitely a stress link...I just need to know how to deal with this for the next few days. I am flaring sooooo badly--and I need to be strong for my family.

[hdb1982]

I know how you feel. Thos march my pap passed away after battling dibetes, double leg amputation etc. i took care of him the last few months of his life. taking care of him took a toll on my body and my ic i have been in a flare ever since. we are here for you.

[jah]

Thank you for your kind reply. This forum has been a lifesaver for me in the past and right now. At least I know people understand what I am going through because they are there too. My dad is the kindest person in the world--never complains. He has been through too much, and Parkinson's finally left him unable to swallow. I am so so so sad....my coping skills are gone.

[leelee88]

Sending you ((((((hugs)))))))))))
I am so sorry you are going through such a stressful time..Its not easy I know that.. I lost my dad last year the day before Thanks Giving..It was a very sad day..hope some way you find the strenght to get through this and I hope your bladder calms down soon...:angel:

Ronda

[hdb1982]

The last weeks of paps life we stopped all meds stopped dialysis etc. he was a comfort care pt. we gave him liquid morphine and ativan. at times it took my mom or hubby holding im down while i forced the meds in him. that was the hardest part of his whole ilness. i felt horrible for doing it to him. the whole time i kept telling i loved him and and wasn't doing this to hurt him he would punch hit bite spit etc. this wasn't him it was his ilness so i never help it against him. one time he took his stump, his legs were amputated, and hit me smake dab in the bladder. i didn't realize how strong he was until that day. i hit the floor like a sack of potatoes. at first i was upset b/c he was sick and in the end i was upset b/c he was suffering so bad. i knew when he passed on he felt no more pain. i still cry. i had never lost someoneso close, let alone watch the die day in day out but I pulled through and am sure you will to. the 27th will be 4 months some days it seem longer other days it seems like yesterday. he is my angle:angel:

[jah]

You understand completely what I am going through and that helps. Thank you so much for your story. Dad is on no life support right now--has been with hospice. The end is soon. I will keep rereading your post and the others to gain strength. God bless.

[dg2901]

Please accept my deepest sympathy during this time in your life.
I lost both of my parents suddenly--my mom died a week before my 16th birthday, and my dad died in the midst of the holiday season in 1996.
You're certainly in my thoughts!!!

Peace be with you, my friend....
:angel:
Diana

[Briza]

:grouphug:
I'm sorry for your dad's illness and the extreme stress it is causing you. I also am very close with my father, he never complains about anything, he is my rock. The others have already given you suggestions to handle your flare, so I will just say that your family is in my prayers.:angel: :pray: