I can't stop crying

[sad]

The judge turned me down. I can't believe this is happening. What the hell am I going to do. I feel like I'm finished. I can't even bring myself to read the whole letter. it hurts too much.

[liz2]

Sad, you are going to get yourself together and appeal. I didn't get approved until the third time. Although it doesn't feel like it now, you can do this. Think of it as a game that you are eventually going to win.

[MarcieL]

Hiya Sad,

Keep your chin up and realize that most people do not get SS the first time they apply only a lucky few. You will be ok and you will get thru this.

Marcie

[sad]

Well, I finally stopped crying and do feel a bit better now. Whoever said crying doesn't help a situation had to have been out of their minds. Spoke to my family who were alot more emotionally supportive then I would have guessed from them. They all think I should appeal. I just don't want to have to keep mooching off my parents but I was thinking the only way I handle this is if I start my own p/t biz (I was thinking of starting a pet sitting service). That together with an Ebay venture I've recently started might keep me a bit more financially solvent. So I guess I'll call my lawyer tomorrow and see what she says.

[Teri]

You can't quit sad~you have to make it a mission. You have to look at it as something you are going to achieve one way or another. That's what I had to do. I took all of the personal out of it and it did bacome my mission. I was totally consumed by it. I was working on it every day, finding more and more information to send to my case worker. Have a few good cried. Take a couple of weeks of and then, start fighting again! And, it's not just for you that you are fighting. It's for all of us. Everytime one of us is approved, it makes it just a tad easier for the next person.

sending tons and tons of gentle hugs~

[tigger_gal]

Sad,
kissing dont give up please go to icn announcements diane postd some great articals copy and print them I have some articals my self you can email me brat_in_mich@hotmail.com about ic and ssd.. make copies for you and ssd and resend in your app or appeal. you will not give up we wont let you fight fight fight.. we are here for you.. ssd needs to pull there heads out of the toilet
hugs hugs hugs
Brat

[skershner3]

Was this your first try, second appeal or what with your disability? I got turned down last week on my first try and I have the appeal papers and working on them now. Since I found out that I had signed ten medical release forms and they only contacted one doctor - not my urologist or my cardiologist for records it just made me that much more determined to fight and fight and fight! I will not give up!!!! I will aggrivate them until they get so tired of hearing from me they will give it to me to get rid of me and hope that they never hear my name again. Dont give up! If you have to, get in touch with a local or state politician, senator or congressman. I hate politics but sometimes you have to do what you have to do. Susan

[sad]

I guess this was my 2nd try but my first hearing. The first time was just the general application that just about everyone gets turned down on. I never had to go thru reconsideration. I really thought I had a good case. I don't know how I am going to go about this if my lawyer is not interested. I haven't spoken to her yet but I really couldn't blame her if she did not want to persue it(considering how they make their money only if you win). Has anyone else here lost their case when they were accompanied by a lawyer? And did that lawyer continue to fight with them?

[vm]

I have always heard that it is fairly routine to be turned down the first time. Sometimes even a second time. You can do this - stay at it. I know it must feel so overwhelming, but you can do this. :)

[liz2]

Sad, If this is your second turn down, you should have your attorney request an administrative law hearing for the next appeal.

My cousin is an attorney, and he helped me a lot. He had me wait until the second refusal before I hired an attorney. So much of the time, two denials are routine. SS is hoping that you will give up. Since my cousin does not practice in this state, he helped me find an attorney who specializes in SS law cases. That attorney made sure that all records were together, helpful articles, and my daily diary.

[kenzycodi]

Sad,

Both my parents are on disability for different reasons. My dad researched the whole thing and he said hardly ever does someone get approved their first time. My father in law is trying right now on his fourth time, and he even has a doctor going to court with him. You'll get it, don't worry. They just like to be crappy and take their time. I'm praying for you.

Kenzy

[auntiedeb]

So there is hope for me if I decide to go to SSi again for disablitly? My cousin is a lawyer and I don't know what kind. I could ask him my questions and hopefully he will know the answers. You are all in my prayers. SAd, don't give up, please keep fighting. I get really scared too. I don't like to fight but need be, I will next time. Hang in there. There is hope.

[kenzycodi]

Auntdebbie,

Yes, by all means keep trying for your disability. My dad got approved for his the first time but it took my mom about 6 times. She didn't have a lawyer though, I think she did the paperwork herself. Don't ever keep up. You told me to not give up, now I'm telling you. I'm praying for ya.

Love,
kenzy

[mayray518]

I, too, got turned down the first time in 1994 but I thought, with the new ruling, you may have it easier. I know what you are going through. I was single and had just bought a new condo and had to get rid of everything. It was awful and then they make you feel like you are making the disease up. I am sure you will get it the secon time around.

[ALYSSA'S_GRANDMA#1]

hi THOUGHT I WOULD LET YOU KNOW LAST YEAR MAY..2002.... I APPLIED FOR S.S.AND YES I GOT TURNED DOWN ALSO.... AND AS OF YET I STILL HAVEN'T HEARD FROM THEM... WHEN I APPLIED I WAS NOT DX YET OF IC .. I HAVE NOT BEEN ABLE TO KEEP AT A JOB... I AM..(WAS)... A C.N.A. (care-GIVER)..AND ABOUT 2 1/2 YEARS -I HARDELY WAS ABLE TO WORK AND IF I DID I WAS IN BED FOR LIKE 2 -3 DAYS AND THAT WAS JUST THE WAY IT WAS WITH ME... ON AND ON TO DIFFERENT DRS.. ALOT OF MEDS... BEEN TOLD LOTS AND ALOTS OF TIMES THIS PAIN WAS ONLY IN MY HEAD. scream ..
HOW MANY TIMES HAVE I LEFT THE DR. OFFICE FEELING WORSE WHEN I CAME OUT THAN WHEN I WENT IN....

CAUSE I STILL HAD NO DX..OF WHY OR WHAT WAS WRONG WITH ME...
THESE PAIN WERE REAL AND ARE STILL REAL...AND I COULDN'T SLEEP BACK THEN ..NO BETTER THAN I AM SLEEPING NOW......
WE WERE SOOO BEHIND IN ALL... AND I MEAN ALL... OF OUR BILLS ... FINALLY ... WE LOST ALL....EXCEPT OUR 3 BEDROOM SMALL TRAILER BUT AT THIS POINT ..I AM SO THANKFUL WE STILL HAVE THIS ... AND WITH MY HUSBAND JOB... THEY ARE CUTTING HOURS SO THERE IS NO EXTRA FOR ANYTHING..IT HAS BEEN AND IS STILL ROUGH. IT HAS REALLY TAKEN A TURN IN OUR MARRIAGE... FOR THE ONES WHO DON'T KNOW THE PAIN . AND ALL THE NIGHTS I HAVE CRIED AND PRAYED FOR RELIEF... THEY CAN'T BEGIN TO KNOW HOW I FEEL...
IT WASN'T TOO LONG AFTER I GOT TURNED DOWN FROM SS.. THAT I GOT DX WITH I.C.... SO I GOT A LAYWER AND I USED THE SAME LAWYER AS WE USED FOR OUR OTHER NEEDS WITH THE BILLS AND ETC.... NOW THIS LAWYER IS A JUDGE.... SO I HOPE HE KNOWS WHAT HE IS DOING... 2 DRS HAS DX ME WITH IC AND NOW ONE OF THEM IS SAYING I GOT ..NEUROPATHIC PELVIC PAIN... IS THAT ANOTHER DISEASE OR IS THAT CONSIDER IN THE PATH OF IC ? MY DR. THAT TOLD ME THIS IS LIKE 200 MILES AWAY....
AND I GO BACK TO HIM IN JULY 2003.. HE CALLED ME ON PHONE AND TOLD ME CAUSE AFTER MY ONE TEST HE DID HE SAID I WOULD NOT REMEMBER EVEN IF HE HADA TALK TO ME AFTER MY TEST...
ANY WAYS I GET ALL MY DR. REPORTS ... ALL THE MEDS.. I HAVE BEEN ON... THAT HAS NOT HELPED ME ... ETC...AND OF COURSE WHAT I AM ON NOW.. AND AS I FIND OUT ANYTHING I TAKE IT TO MY LAWYER... I CALLED TO SS OFFICE ... AND THE MAN TOLD ME IN OCT.2002..WAS WHEN MY CASE WAS SENT TO HAVE A TRAIL CASE... AND AS OF THIS TIME I AM STILL WAITING AND IF I GET TURED DOWN AGAIN ... I WILL TRY AGAIN .... AND AGAIN... WHATEVER IT TAKES... THEY DO NOT KNOW THE PAIN AND THE SIDE AFFECTS I HAVE BEEN THROUGH WITH .... WITH SO MANY DIFFERENT MEDICINES THAT I HAVE TRIED JUST TO GET RELIEF FROM PAIN...
I LOVED MY WORK ... I LOVE HELPING PEOPLE... IT BREAKS MY HEART FOR ME TO NOT BE ABLE TO DO ANYTHING .... IT HAS GOTTEN WHERE I CAN BEARLY STAND LONG @ A TIME WITHOUT PAIN....
THE S.S. PEOPLE DON'T KNOW WHAT MY LIFE HAS BEEN LIKE SINCE THE LAST 4-5 YEARS ... BUT I KEPT TRYING AND TRYING... AND CRYING AND HOPING I WOULD BE BETTER ... AND SOME DAYS WHEN I DID FEEL BETTER I WOULD TRY TO DO SOMETHING ONLY TO BE RIGHT BACK WHERE I WAS.... IN BED... FOR DAYS... AGAIN... ROUTINE STARTED ALL OVER AGAIN... :mad:
blink I SHOULD HAVE PUT THIS IN THE VENTING POST ... SORRY FOR GOING ON AND ON BUT I WANT YOU TO KNOW YOU ARE NOT ALONE AND JUST KEEP TRYING AND DON'T GIVE UP.... I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL....
I THANK GOD MY HUSBAND IS STILL WITH ME FOR IT SEEMS AS IF I HAVE LOST EVRYTHING ELSE THAT WAS IMPORTANT TO ME.... GOD KNOWS WHAT IS GOING ON WITH ME AND I HAVE NOT LOST FAITH IN HIM.... FOR HE IS THE ONE I FIND MY COMFORT IN....EVEN WITH ALL THIS PAIN... angel
HANG IN THERE... BRENDA kissing

[SharonA]

Brenda... kissing kissing

Hello, friend. hi Just wanted to send you kisses and hugs. kissing grouphug Hope things get better for you real soon. If you need to vent or just want to talk, you have my e mail address. Use it...that's what friends are for... :)

May God bless you in your coming in and your going out...Sharon :)

PS...I could not retrieve the pics of Alyssa you sent. frown