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petrie86
05-21-2007, 02:53 AM
Well some of you asked that i tell you how things went with gettiny my things from my house....
As you know last week I had texted messaged my mom about getting the rest of my things from the house. She told me should would pack them up for me and let me know when I could pick up my things.
Sunday Morning (yesterday) at 9am I got a text message from my mom. It read "you can pick up your boxes today if you want. we have a meeting to go to in new rochelle,ny till about 3. Your boxes are by the side door under tarps. not much clothes. there is a fragile box on top ok?" I read it and started to cry histerically. She didnt even want to see me? she put my things under tarps like it's garbage!!!! I felt as though she had stabbed me in my heart. my family has said some pretty rude and hurtful things but this is by far the worst. My own mother didnt even have the nerve to give me my things in person! Wow, i was shocked.... I guess i hoped taht she would want to see me. Turns out i was very very wrong.
After that text message I answered her and said thank you. Then i got angry and said "i have some old clothes that dont fit me anymore, i will leave them under the tarp for bekah to have." then i said "i guess you didnt want to see me... i understand." she didnt answer.... then i said " thanks cor thinking so low of me that you would put my things under a tarp and not wanting to give them to me in person... but if that is the way you feel than i guess i will have to live with it." She said she was crying, and then didnt answer me anymore. They only care about them crying, they dont care when i'm crying.
I went to pick up my things... cried the whole way there. There were about 4 boxes for me under a blue tarp. One had my old bunnie rabbit my grandma made me... (i lost it) she gave me 4 precious moments that were my grandmother's and hers to remind me of them.... along with photo albums of when i was little with my family and my bible and jewlery boxes and pictures. I put my boxes in my little car. As I shut my trunk my neighbor mary... said is that you rachel?? I walked over to her crying and she ask what was wrong. I told her everything. She felt so bad and proceeded to tell me she heard what happened and that over the past 5 years she's seen a major change in my family and the way they act. For example on holidays my family used to bake cookies and make cards to give to our neighbors. We used to walk to their house and give them the cookies. Mary said that thye dont do that anymore... they keep to themselves and they hardly talk to them. My paretns used to talk to my neighbors all the time... not anymore!!! My family thinks they cant have talk or communicate with people who arent of the same faith there for they keep to themselves.
Anyways I brouth everything back to where i live now. I sorted through my things. At least now i know where I stand with my family. I'm just going to leave things alone. I'm going to miss them but it's not worth crying over anymore, I have to move on and pray that someday they will see that they are wrong. I'll have to leave it up to god to decide.
Thanks for listening all
Hugs
Rachel

humpieumpumkin
05-21-2007, 04:04 AM
I am so sorry. I also have an estranged relationship with my biological father, and I too had to have my things thrown into my mom garage when I was at school. It is a terrible feeling of betrayal whne your own family turns against you. I'm saying prayers for you. :pray: Please try not to take it personally, you didn't do a thing wrong.

Erika:bunny:

leelee88
05-21-2007, 04:14 AM
Hey Rachel,
That was so sad. I know you were really looking forward to being able to see your mom..But I am glad you had a chance to talk to the neighbor, so at least you know its not just you that they are avoiding..I just dont understand what god they are worshipping or bible, because the Holy bible states "Thow shall not judge one another" and that is exactly what they are doing.. I think you are doing the right thing for now, just let it go... Focus on all the positive things in your life and try not to dwell on the past..God will get you through this..(((((((((((hugs)))))))))) and again I am so sorry it didnt work out they way you had hoped..

Ronda

humpieumpumkin
05-21-2007, 04:27 AM
To add to what LeeLee said:

"He who is without sin shall cast the first stone."

petrie86
05-21-2007, 04:31 AM
They believe in "judge righteous judgement" They believe they can judge epople according to what the bible says... if you dont believe the word or what they say is the word then they cannot have communication with you. "being unequally yoke with unbelievers" They twist everything around!!! Arggggg I wonder where is says in the bible it's okay to disown your own children!

humpieumpumkin
05-21-2007, 04:37 AM
yeah my dad is supossidly a Catholic-I'm asking myself the same thing...

leelee88
05-21-2007, 04:39 AM
I dont know Rachel, I dont think it does.. But like I said you are a wonderful person and they are the ones who are missing out.. Please try to think positive and not dwell on the past..If I dwelled on all the things my family has done to me I would be in the funny farm...

Ronda

SharonA
05-21-2007, 05:37 AM
(((Hugs)))...Rachel. I am so sorry.

GriffsMommy
05-21-2007, 06:46 AM
Rachel,
I am so sorry that you had to go through all of that again. I can only imagine how hard this has been on you. I don't have a good relationship with my father (doesn't like my choice in husband's along with a lot of other things) but it has never gone as it has for you.

Being a mother, I can't imagine what Griffin would ever do to make me disown him. Even if he did something horrible I would still love him, just not what he did. It just completely shocks me that you could cut off all contact with one of your own children. I will never be able to understand it and I'm very sorry for you. As Ronda said, you are a good person and don't deserve this. :grouphug:

sandramac
05-21-2007, 07:55 AM
Sending you big hugs!
Sandra :cat: :cat: :cat:

mary124
05-21-2007, 11:08 AM
Rachel: So sorry that they feel like this towards you. It breaks my heart to have you go though this. Sending lots of hugs your way.

ihurttoo
05-21-2007, 05:46 PM
You poor thing! It kills me that they treated you like this, but it kills me more that they have no relationship with you at all and have no idea what they are missing and have no idea of the wonderful daughter and person that they are missing out on knowing! It is they who are missing out, not you! They are not only missing knowing you, but also their future son in law, and their future grandchildren, and great-grandchildren!

I am so sorry that you have had to have this experiance. I cannot imagine going thru what you have gone thru. Like Christine, (and most mothers), I cant imagine ANYTHING, that my son could do that could make him turn my back on him. I mean ANYTHING! If he grew up to be a raping, murder who burned down schools, and stole for a living, I would cry all day every day, but I would STILL love him and I would STILL talk to him, and be there for him if he needed me! I couldnt help loving him no matter what he did, and I could never ever turn my back on him! I just couldnt!

Everytime I read about what your parents did to you, (shunning you), it makes me wish you lived near me so I could mother you. (I am sure you are happy you live kind of far away now! LOL!) But, I DO wish that, EVERY time, I read about them! It makes me sad and angry that they could do that to you! But, I would probobly smother you with "mothering"!

I am so sorry to be so tearful on your thread. It just makes me cry all over again, every single time. Please pm me or call me if you ever need me.

Big hugs,
Amy

ICNDonna
05-22-2007, 02:08 AM
:grouphug:

Donna

tigger_gal
05-22-2007, 05:24 PM
sending you great big hugs. I am so sorry that your mom would not see you. One day they will realize what a wonderful daughter that theu shut out of their lives. Keep your chin up dear. you will be just fine.

verdicries
05-24-2007, 11:27 AM
rach,
i emailed you but want you to know i support whatever you do...you are too good a person to be put thru this. i wish i could take the hurt away :(.

tracy