MakinIT
03-03-2007, 06:29 PM
OK..so I've thought about coming to this section but had no idea where to start. for the last 3 years my husband and have lived as roommates, no intamacy, which leads to little affection and closeness. My loneliness and confusion is making me sick and I've tried talking to him about it saying there are so many different ways of having sex (hell, we weren't exactly missionary position anyway) but he says he's afraid of hurting me. (I'm very small anatomically and well,...he's not) SO, I've tried and tried, during times that he was seemingly relaxed and he's just said no. I know he waits til I'm conked out on meds then watches "stuff" or whatever for his own gratification. I'm ok until weekends, I am absolutely lonely, I don't think he truly understands what this is doing to me. I'm not half bad looking, (my 17 year old is always freaking out because when we go out together she notices men my age checking me out...I don't notice, I tell her she's paranoid, but she says "they give you a sweet smile then look at your butt as you go past...I should know, I'm in high school!!!!) She always says "they're so old but cute...(thanks..you'll be in your late 30's early 40's too some day ).
I don't know...he tells me I'm paranoid, he has so much work to do, once he finishes X, or Y...But he never he goes to the movies with me. He promised a weekend away as a Christmas present but keeps putting it off.
Anyway...have any of you had this problem? if so how would you deal with this?
Tracey
I don't know...he tells me I'm paranoid, he has so much work to do, once he finishes X, or Y...But he never he goes to the movies with me. He promised a weekend away as a Christmas present but keeps putting it off.
Anyway...have any of you had this problem? if so how would you deal with this?
Tracey