Am I over reacting?

[petrie86]

Someone please help me!

My coworker is alot older than me. She is a single women with a 13 year old son. She recently put herself on match.com. Anyways she's been on a few dates with guys. Each one of them she says they're sweet and she likes them. She dated like 4 guys at one time. (made out with all of them) And then about a few days later meets a new guy and then says she doesnt like the other guys. (she cant make up her mind) The point of this story is I am usually a good judge of character and this new guy she's dating I'll name him "don" she's only known him for about a week and she's already madly in love with him. She cant stop talking about him and it's driving me NUTZ!!!!!! She's supposed to be working today and all day her friends are calling her and she tells them the same story over and over again. I wanna rip my hair out of me head. If I hear the story one more time I'm gonna scream!!! I have a bad feeling about this guy and she's already introduced him to her 13 year old son. What if he gets attached to this don guy and then something happens?? This is just rubbing me the wrong way. Am I overacting? Someone please help me. I dont want to be mean and tell her that I have a bad feeling about him. I've already told her not to get to excited b/c she hardly knows her. Not to mention he's planning a trip for them this weekend to go to atlantic city and get a hotel room. What does that tell you?? I think he just wants to have sex with her! What should I do?

[DEZCHA]

well heres what i think you should do.......nothing.!! i say that because i dont think you could say anything to change her mind , if you tell her you have a bad feeling about him i doubt it will matter to her , and she may get angry with you , i wouldnt say anything but if you feel you must ... then tell her you are concerned about her going away with someone she just met. . get her cell phone # and give her yours and tell her if she needs anything to call you. if he just wanted sex. im sure there are plenty of places and times they could have already crossed that bridge.it is never safe to just date somone you meet on line . my daughter goes into our church chat rooms and meets people . so far she has met some nice guys. nothing permanent and she didnt go off for the week-end with them... just let your friend know you are concerned for her safety.
dezcha:tsk:

[meme]

You probably won't change her mind. But the way it sounds this will pass in a few weeks anyway. I agree w/ dezcha, maybe get her # and give her yours just in case she needs it while she's gone.

[leelee88]

Yeh I have to agree with meme and dezcha... I would only tell her you are concerned for her and if she needs anything you are just a call away..

I met my husband on..Match.com..And I dont think anyone could of changed my mind about meeting him either..So I think the best thing you can do is just be a friend and tell her to be careful..:smile tee

[July]

I agree with the others. I would limit my involvement. She is a big girl and should be able to make these kind of decisions responsibly for herself and her son. I would keep her in my prayers that she and her son stay safe.

[Roxie2007]

HI! Dating isn't easy, esp. for older women. I met my husband on Yahoo 4 yrs ago and we've been married for 3 yrs now. I doubt anything you say to your coworker will change her mind.....but like the others have said....be there for her incase there's a big let down for her. I wish her luck if the guys a jerk.....she's going to need it. Roxie

[Sarojini]

I agree with the others... it's really none of your business, even though she seems to be making it a big pain to listen to her at work!! Just let her do what she wants because like everyone said, even if you say you have a bad feeling, she's just going to ignore it in the "madly in love" phase.

I too met my husband about five and a half years ago on Yahoo Personals... we'll be married for four years this coming July. I'm pretty sure nobody could have stopped me from meeting him either, although when I went into it I wasn't expecting what I got ;)

[waterflow]

I agree with the others. You might end up getting blamed for something. Plus she is a lot older then you so she might say you are the young one who knows nothing. Sounds like she is just bragging really. Best to stay out of love affairs. Just try to ignore her and beem her out when she starts her stories again.

[ICNDonna]

You might buy her some condoms to take with her "just in case" --- there are too many really awful diseases for her to take chances.

:)
Donna

[Sarojini]

GREAT idea, Donna! :) Or, at least beg her to take some with her! It is scary what is out there in terms of disease.

[tigger_gal]

I agree with the other gals. If you have known her for sometime, and feel comfortable with her, ask her for his last name the hotel name and room number, just in case..

[petrie86]

Thanks for all the advice, I guess it's not my place to say anything. I just cant take the bragging anymore!!!!! Yikes I wanna pull my hair out. I'm not jealous, it's just annoying when you hear somone tell the same story over and over and over to 50 people. Especially when you know it's going to be over in a week. (that maybe harsh but that's the way I feel)
I'm also getting my period soooo I could be emotional. Ususally I pms and take it out on someone. It's usually my bf lol but he's going to florida tomorrow togo "hog hunting" so I guess that means i'm tkaing it out on my coworker??
All I know is I'm gunn have ALOT of bacon in the house lol when he gets back.

[DEZCHA]

im just curious , "hog hunting" ?? ive never heard of this , is he really going to hunt real hogs ?? ducks and deer yes... but i didnt know people go hog hunting.then you eat the hog ???
dezcha:confused: :confused:

[petrie86]

yes it's actual hogs... wild hogs. I dont know exactly where the place is. I guess it's like boar hunting I guess. He loves to hunt! He bow hunts for deer and shotgun for deer too. Last year he killed a doe while sitting on a log on the ground... that's really hard to do. He owns a cabin in northern nj and his uncle lives there. Tomorrow he is leaving early am to get on "Jet Blue" (i'm scared about that!) and then he's gunna hunt. He's so excited it's cute. He said that he's gunna be bring home the bacon! hahaha Lots of it.

[meme]

I know how bad the pms can be. If I start getting moody for no reason, Mike just looks at me and says "its that time huh?", it would make me mad, but he's usually right. I'm one of those women who you don't want to be around when I'm pms-ing. Crying for no reason, all of it! I usually try to warn him a week in advance so he doesn't do anything stupid for me to yell at him about-lol!
My BIL just got back from hog hunting in TX. He had a really good time, Mike wants to go so bad.

[petrie86]

At least I'm not the only girl whose bf or husband hunts... all my friends think he's like a hick or something. He's not it's just a hobby where he gets to relax and sit in a tree stand. But hog hunting is different, he said they sit in a buggie and drive around while the dogs find the hogs then they shoot. Wierd?? sounds harsh.
I was histerical last night b/c I'm gunna be alone for about 3 nights and I cant sleep without him... He was like why are you crying so much?:hmm: Are you pmsing?? I was like yea .....lol poor jamen!

[DEZCHA]

wow!. you learn something new every day !!! so after you kill the boar you eat the meat?? like a pig ?? does it taste the same?? i dont eat pork thats why im asking,where i live there is duck hunting and some deer but most people go towards oregon and other places to hunt deer , we get duck hunters that come into town to stay .. while they are hunting.. ive eaten duck, pheasant and venison. and a little rabbit bunny: . in my youth but now im mostly vegetarian. i have chicken or hamburger once in a while.....never had boar.... hope he has a successful hunt.
dezcha

[petrie86]

dezcha,
jamen's uncle killed a pig recently and he brought home pork... we cooked it and had it with pancakes one morning. It was actually better tasting than the regular bacon from the super market! I will let you know how it tastes when he gets back. I'm mostly nervous for him getting on that air plane!

[waterflow]

I didn't know there were wild pigs in America? I know they have them in Germany. Knew someone who hunted one there long ago.

As for the pms thing.........I love the segment of Everybody Loves Raymond where Ray is trying to tell Debra she has pms while she is having pms. I tell everyone that is exactly ME. One time I really started yelling at my sister for saying hi to me and I couldn't find a spoon in the one drawer and wanted to throw the thing across the room. I laugh now about it but boy was I mad. Funny how hormones can do that to a person.