my mom loves me

[petrie86]

Friday I was thinking alot about my mom and how much I miss her. Alot of you know my family situation and that I dont talk to my immediate family b/c the chose religion over their daughter. Well Friday night something told me I should try to e-mail her. I wrote her a short e-mail asking if she was ok and telling her that I miss her and my sisters more than words can express. (not my dad) I had been checking my e-mail like a crazy person thinking she wrote me back. she didn't... I thought I had failed. Last night I was going to check my e-mail and thinking she didnt write me back... Guess what??? SHE DID!!!!
I was bawling my eyes out... She finally wrote me back. She said that she thinks about me everyday. she said she knows we all made choices that are different b/c we believe different things. She wished things were different but that she still loves me. She went on about how my younger sister is getting so old and looks like a young women now. She's driving and she has her own car... I was histerical reading this b/c I'm not there to watch her grow up and to be there for her. To help her learn to drive! It's just not fair! anyways I more happy that she wrote me back. I'm going to try to keep in contact with her and then maybe some day we can go out to dinner. thanks for listening all

Rachel

[ICNDonna]

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Donna

[leelee88]

I am so sorry you are having family problems.. Its sad not to be able to be a part of your family just because of your religious beliefs..
Sometimes things like that happen, As for me I would never be able to not talk to my kids no matter what they choose to do in life or what they believe in..They would know I was opposed to it but they would also always be welcome in my home..

It saddens me so much to see families break apart because of what their kids choose in life, Whether its there, race, or thier religion or thier sex preference..I dont know what religion your family is and will not get into a debate about this, But it clearly says in the bible.."Thaw shall not judge"
So I guess I am a firm believer in that.. I might not agree on what my kids decides to do with their life, but I will never dis-own them, I will always be there for them, showing them how much I love them.

I had a friend who worked with me he was alot younger, but a very nice kid..His father was a preacher, well my friend was going the an identity crisis, He told me that he was attracted to males not females, and said his father would die if he knew this and dis-own him, I was so sadden by this and tried to help him deal with all of this..He had even talked about sucicide, I knew then why the lord had put me in this postion to deal and help this young man.. Because my husband had commited sucicide a couple of years back..
So I kept my eye on him really good and tried to watch all the signs..

I knew he was getting more depressed and could see more and more red flags with him, so I confided with my boss about what I knew and she promised to help ..Well that same day I walked in the break room and saw him, with his head down on the table, I ask the people in ther how long he had been asleep, they said he just came in about 10 min.. I went over to him and he would not respond to be, I noticed he was drooling from the mouth, I told someone to call 911 and tell them he had OD, good thing I knew this because they said if I had waited 5 more min he would have died....

I think this gave his dad a wake up call, The son was so scared of being outcasted by his family , that he would have rather die then to not be accepted..

I think alot of people from work also learned from this..
The way I look at things is life is one of the hardest test we will ever have to take, We go through so much in life, I dont think anyone should be judge from a family just because of their own beliefs, I think thats the cruelest thing a parent could do to their child, like I said lifes hard enough, we all need all the love and support everyday, just to get through another day...

Sorry this was so long but just wantedto share that story...

((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))
If you ever want to talk just let me know:)

[petrie86]

Rhonda,
I totally understand what you meant. It really means alot to me that you shared your story. My family is a non-denominational Christianity. They believe they are alowed to judge people. They call it "judge righteous judgement. " Tehey believe they can judge people according to the bible and what they think is right. If people dont repent and change then they cannot be "unequally yolked with unbelievers." It's sad that my father who is a minister twists the words of god to defend himself. He contradicts himself all the time. Plus he's stubborn and will not listen to anyone.
I believe things happen for a reason and I may not know why things are the way they are. I pray everyday that God will change their hearts. Maybe someday things will work out. I dont know but I feel the need to share my story. Plus I also get to blow off some steam. thank you for your kind words.

Rachel

[leelee88]

Rachel,
I am glad you did share your story..Sometimes it helps just to get your feelings out there..I think you are doing the right thing by emailing your mom and letting her know you love her and think of her often..Maybe one day they will change their minds...I hope so for your sake..But until then if you ever want to talk just let me know...:smile tee

[ihurttoo]

Just now saw this. I am so glad that she told you she loves you and thinks of you often too. I know this isnt the total healing you were looking for, but it is a good start. I am so proud of you for taking the initiative to write her, no matter how difficult it must have been for you to put yourself out there again. You are such a strong person. I am so impressed with how you have handled yourself. I hope that she remains in contact, now that you have got it started. I am SOOOO proud of you!!! :kissing: Hugs, Amy

[aprilmae]

Rachel,

I tried to PM you yesterday but your box was full. Sorry I haven't written in a while. I am soooooo happy for you. I know that it was hard for you to write your mom and I am so glad you did. Sometimes it takes the child to make the first move. I am also so happy to hear that your mom wrote back and that she loves you very much. You both just took an important step.

April

[sandramac]

:smile tee Rachel
You are wise beyond your years ! You should be proud of yourself ! Lift your head high ! Your Mom , I so glad she reached out to you. And she should be just as proud of you as well.
Big Hugs Sandra:cat: :cat: :cat: